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  •  Yup. (7+ / 0-)

    Oh, trust me, I hear you.  We had people in the Assemblies church I escaped from (seventh largest in the nation) that actively saw the Army of God domestic terrorists as doing God's work.  I also remember the sermons on LGBT people being rounded up in concentration camps and witches being put to death when they got into power (and people wonder why this young transgendered bi man in the body of a woman doesn't come out to his parents...).

    Part of what I'm doing is hopefully to show people the real face of things--I do have enough faith that when people get pissed enough, they can take action.  They can't let people know if they never find out, though.

    (This, by the way, is where walkaways like you and I come in.  Of anyone, we have the best idea on what they're saying to their own--hell, we've lived it and have the psychic scars to live with as a result.)

    As an aside, I would encourage you (if you haven't already) to tell your story--the more people hear from us survivors that this shit is going on, the more people are going to see smoke and realise that there may just be a need to start a bucket brigade, so to speak.

    •  When I used, 'you,' ... (6+ / 0-)

      ... I meant a general "you" to kos readers, not you specifically. Yeah, you get it because you lived it.

      I try to be a resource for people with questions, but I haven't found it too healthy for me to relive my childhood in detail. Maybe someday.

      I am heartened by how much people are waking up to the threat. Those whose church experience is vastly different that those of a person who grew up in a dominionist church used to find themselves stuck behind a barrier to understanding, but those days are fading, mostly because of diaries like yours.

      •  about reliving events... (4+ / 0-)

        This may be helpful:

        Visualize the events as being depicted on a small black-and-white TV screen, where you are sitting there watching the story.  Then remind yourself that you can change the channel or turn down the volume if something disturbing comes up, or turn it off entirely and do something else.  

        Also helpful: the more you talk to others about stuff, every time you tell the story, the emotional stuff becomes less intense and it become more like any ordinary narrative.  

        Note, there are theories of peer counseling that are based on having strong emotional discharges when talking about events; these theories are terribly misguided because for some people they can result in reinforcing the difficult feelings.  What works better is to, over time, emphasize that the emotional content of the events is becoming less and less strong each time you tell the story; and have friends listening who will give you emotional support for moving in that direction.  For an example (in fiction) of how this works, check out Aldous Huxley's Island, in the beginning of the story where the lead character has a rough time getting to the island, and tells the story to some local kids, until after a while he ends up laughing at himself over it.  "And then, I was almost bitten by a snake!"  "But the snake didn't bite you, did it?"  "No, it didn't..."  that kind of thing.  Huxley was writing that part based on clinical psych techniques that were known at the time, and are still viable today.  

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