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    ... about my best friend Jeff over at Docudharma.

    The next best friend I made, Dennis, who was my roommate in NYC for a couple of years and then moved back to LA, died in 2003.

    It's a strange story.  He was given up for lost in 2001.  His doctors sent him to hospice.  His friends accepted he was dying.

    Two of his good friends decided to take him into their home so he wouldn't die in hospice.  They were amazing, they were angels, Mark and Roy.

    Dennis decided he wasn't going to die.  I'll never know how, but he came back from the edge and ended up well enough to go back to his apartment.

    Dennis was a holy terror, and I fought with him as often as not.  But he came "back to life" just as I was breaking up with my ex-husband.

    He invited me out to LA to get my act together, he called it a "magical mystery tour."

    He was ill, of course, and on a morphine drip for the pain.  I remember his intense shame at asking me to help him with his IV, he didn't want to put me out.  It was nothing he was asking of me, nothing, yet his concern was for my feelings, not his.

    I had a wonderful week with him, we went to see "The Hours" in a state-of-the-art movie theater (Dennis was a film fanatic and a tech geek, among other things).  He cried at the movie -- I had never seen him cry before.

    He died the week after I moved into my new apartment.

    I think of Jeff, Dennis, Roger, Hank, oh there are too many to name.  I think of them all.

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