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  •  I wish homeschooling had existed for me (3+ / 0-)
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    pletzs, laderrick, terabthia2

    I don't blame the teachers - I was learning from them fine.  I blame my fellow pupils.  They were cruel, demeaning, and empty-headed.  

    I could have learned better on my own.  In fact, when I remember how I buried myself in books to escape the school environment, I realize I did teach myself in large part.

    Practical thoughts:  middle school may be too young, but if you can get your kids into an adult envirnoment, do so. I  think it's the biggest fallacy that kids should be with their peer group.  The reality of life is that we spend most of our lives in situations with people of different ages.

    That means:  skip youth groups in favor of adult groups.  Dog clubs?  Environmental groups?  Reading clubs OUTSIDE of school?  Church groups concerned with reality rather than excursions.  Since adults are inclined to worship the idol of "youth participation" they usually fall all over themselves fawning over kids who join their groups.  I suppose you have to watch out for predators - but probably having other adults around would be an inhibiting factor.  17 year olds find themselves as treasurers for the adult native plants group - much better for experience than "I was vice president of our student debating society."

    As soon as the kid can do it, get him or her OUT OF high school and in any kind of college class.  Many suffering kids are more adult than their peers and will benefit from the kinder college environment.

    Home schooling would have been so much fun!  

    •  Wow! I guess I never thought about itas this much (2+ / 0-)
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      laderrick, algebrateacher

      of a benefit, but I agree with you on the adult groups. Many of the groups we found treated the kids like anyone else.  Great experiences every time. They learned more realistic group interaction skills and were able to relax so much more.

      •  Kids Thrive in Real World (1+ / 0-)
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        laderrick

        Kids do really well being able to contribute in the real world... it gives them such a sense of agency that is hard to find in schools where adults generally say who does what, when, how, where and why.

        Cooper Zale Los Angeles http://www.leftyparent.com

        by leftyparent on Tue Jan 27, 2009 at 12:47:30 PM PST

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    •  We all do better in the real world (1+ / 0-)
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      laderrick

      I think we all do better, youth and adult, in the "real world" as much as possible, rather than cloistered away in some compulsory institution.  That said, my two kids benefited from a high school youth program (run by the youth themselves) through our Unitarian-Universalist church.  Not quite the real world but an environment of meetings, camps and conferences that they organized and ran themselves with minimal adult assistance.

      Cooper Zale Los Angeles http://www.leftyparent.com

      by leftyparent on Tue Jan 27, 2009 at 12:46:05 PM PST

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