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  •  Whether the words you see here (6+ / 0-)

    or hear in 'meat space' are from friends or 'random people you don't know' doesn't seem to me to have not to do with the medium the words are transmitted in, but does have a lot to do with the people doing the transmitting.

    Onliine or off, the vast majority of people are people you don't know.  Even confining it to dkos, there are thousands of active posters.  Are all of them your friends? Of course not.  Similarly, even a relatively small off-line community has thousands and thousands of people.  Most of them you don't know, and never will.  In the whole world, there are billions of people, and, even with the most expansive definition of "know", you can't know more than a few thousand.

    The vast majority of people are people you don't know.

    Should you get upset about what some of them are saying? Well, I'd say the proper degree of upset is some sort of product of the extent  to which you know them and how upsetting their statements are and how powerful they are.  

    •  It's a new day and it has new ways... (6+ / 0-)

      ...of communicating.  There is now a different meaning of local with regards to communities.  It's never too early to start learning how to adapt to that.  

    •  I had a similar reaction... (5+ / 0-)
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      ...but there's a stance that says -- in either environment -- "I am like you: you are part of my community, whether we know each other or not."  And so it is inclusive, forward seeking.  It's also...extremely expensive, subject to layers of interpretation that our diarist doesn't necessarily apply here, and the natural stance of those who seek to lead, either by chivvying from behind or calling from ahead.

      I mean, I don't know you, we might not even like each other in real life, but when I happen on one of your book or math essays, my reaction is intimate.  There's a sense of a kindred spirit.  I'd have that reaction whether we'd ever exchanged comments or not.  On one hand it's an artifact, on another...completely true.

      ...j'ai découvert que tout le malheur des hommes vient d'une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre.

      by jessical on Wed Mar 11, 2009 at 01:50:14 PM PDT

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      •  I don't think it's an artifact at all. (4+ / 0-)
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        I have a feeling we'd like each other in 'real life' (quotes because this is just as real as anything).  

        And I'm glad you like my essays :-).

        •  I'm not so sure of that. (3+ / 0-)
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          Some of my friends here are people I disagree vehemently with on certain topics, and, being political cohorts, would have to talk - um, fight to the death - about it.

          It's not just a zip code, it's an attitude.

          by sboucher on Wed Mar 11, 2009 at 02:36:48 PM PDT

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          •  Well... (3+ / 0-)
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            ...I gotta like you to argue :}

            I'm pretty sure I'd like plf as well.  But I needed an example :}

            ...j'ai découvert que tout le malheur des hommes vient d'une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre.

            by jessical on Wed Mar 11, 2009 at 02:51:52 PM PDT

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            •  I guess it's all in the approach, (1+ / 0-)
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              but I often get worked up about political issues, particularly when the other party knows very little about the issues, which is usually the case; at best, they parrot the crawlers on MSM.

              I've been known to stomp off once I realize how fruitless it is. One was a blind date - a good prospect - who used "no attacks on US since Bush" within the first 15 minutes. I stood up, told him what an ignorant asshole he was, and sashayed out the door. And laughed myself silly.

              It's not just a zip code, it's an attitude.

              by sboucher on Wed Mar 11, 2009 at 04:22:11 PM PDT

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