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  •  I have a friend born in TX and given up for (2+ / 0-)
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    adoption at the RCC hospital where he was born.  since he learned he was adopted, he has spent tens of thousands of dollars looking for his birthmother.  He is now 76 yrs old, and is still trying to learn about his family.  BTW, he has had a very successful life, three children and four grandchildren and one great grandchild.  He and his second wife, who was the unwedmother of a daughter when he married her 52 years ago, have made a wonderful life for themselves and their children, but he still has an emptinees in his life.  both are very strong supporters of what i do.

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    by william f harrison on Fri Mar 20, 2009 at 03:42:03 PM PDT

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    •  "He still has emptiness in his life" (1+ / 0-)
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      we all struggle with separation from our parents at some level or another.  Not to diminish your friend's pain, as I don't doubt that his struggle has been real, but would the world be better off without him?  And can you, or anyone say he would have been as successful or made as wonderful a life had he not been adopted?

      None of us can say what would have happened in the life we did not live.  

      If you think you're too small to be effective, you've never been in the dark with a mosquito.

      by marykk on Fri Mar 20, 2009 at 04:30:47 PM PDT

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      •  i suspect he would have been successful (1+ / 0-)
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        no matter what his birth status.  he was/is very bright, strong willed, charming, funny, physically attractive and achieved most most of his success because of these attributes.  had he been raised by the unwed mother, back in the days he grew up, i suspect that he would have been just as, and maybe even more successful.  who knows?

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        by william f harrison on Fri Mar 20, 2009 at 07:32:03 PM PDT

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        •   bright, strong willed, charming, funny, (2+ / 0-)
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          and these are exclusively genetic attributes?  I think not.  It's nature and nurture, not one or the other.

          He could also have been dropped on his little baby head, or shaken by a frustrated parent.

          Who knows?  Nobody.  Absolutely nobody.  To say that one's life would have been better or worse under other circumstances is nothing but speculation.  

          If you think you're too small to be effective, you've never been in the dark with a mosquito.

          by marykk on Fri Mar 20, 2009 at 07:57:38 PM PDT

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