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  •  Personally I've given up on (6+ / 0-)

    trying to read social cues. I just don't get it, and at the age of 48, it's unlikely that I ever will. I just try to limit my face to face interaction to NTs as much as possible. Not a great strategy I know, but it keeps me out of trouble.

    "crush in it's birth the aristocracy of our monied corporations which dare already to challenge our government" -Thomas Jefferson

    by Phil In Denver on Tue Jul 28, 2009 at 07:45:30 AM PDT

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    •  What has helped me... (1+ / 0-)
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      Find the NTs with a purpose. Avoid the ones who are only interested in American Idol (unless, of course, you really have something to say about it, and sometimes I do).

      Getting politically involved has made me feel more like I don't have to force myself to swallow conversational junk food to make a social connection. That I can be making the most of my time, while I do it.

      Because a lot of the time, small talk feels like I'm wasting my time, like I could be somewhere else really making the most of a relationship. But I can't avoid small talk, so what do I do? Find a better quality of small talk.

      Real Democrats don't abandon the middle class. --John Kerry

      by Lucy Montrose on Tue Jul 28, 2009 at 12:42:39 PM PDT

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      •  I'm not sure I've ever dealt with (1+ / 0-)
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        people on a level other than talking about something I'm actually interested in.  As intently and seriously as possible.  Of course I'm surrounded by geeks and nerds of various sorts, which is a very helpful start.  I don't try to read subtle social cues, and I've gotten good at the gross ones (frustration, boredom, wants to change subject, please move further away, etc.)  And I suspect there are a fair number of other people with Aspergers in the surroundings I choose for myself, frankly.

        -5.63, -8.10. Learn about Duverger's Law.

        by neroden on Tue Jul 28, 2009 at 05:04:48 PM PDT

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