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  •  "Equal" is not (3+ / 0-)

    "same".  A blind person cannot drive a car.  And a person with autism lacks emotional and social judgment and awareness.  Our son can not tell the difference between "big deals" and "no big whoop"; he's really good at following rules once he understands them, but has no natural tolerance to others who don't adhere to those rules, no matter how minor the infractions are.

    He will play at a videogame, unaware of his increasing frustration, until he starts biting himself and bashing his head against a wall because he can no longer bear the pressure he's putting himself.  Should we "validate" that?

    No... it is our job, as parents, to teach him to recognize when he's feeling frustration, or hunger, or anger, and that he needs to take a break from whatever the situation is before he has teeth marks on his arm and bruises on his forehead.

    Teaching a blind person to use a cane or read braille doesn't "invalidate" them.  Nor does teaching autistic people a means to read social cues, or to recognize emotional states, to which they are blind, invalidating them.  It's called "accomodation", exactly how all of our differences should be dealt with.

    Our son's autism is never an excuse for anything, even if it is a reason for his behavior.

    Evil is making the premedicated choice to be a dick -- Jason Stackhouse

    by Frankenoid on Tue Jul 28, 2009 at 04:34:18 PM PDT

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