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  •  Apparently the nuns helped. (10+ / 0-)

    And somewhere he learned to mimic the behaviors of the successful.  That's an important social skill, and we'll explore how important this week.  Too many kids never learn how to ask for help from others, leaving them helpless unless help drops into their laps.

    Good morning! ::huggggggggs::

    •  Often one of the reasons those kids (5+ / 0-)

      never learn to ask for help is the "rags to riches" storyline itself. Since some see it as sign of weakness or source of shame to actually ask for help of any kind. At least for myself I've found it's true that while I help others at the drop of a hat if someone asks I am loathe to ask for help when I actually need it. ALthough I'm getting better at asking now days.

      "I never wonder to see men wicked, but I often wonder to see them not ashamed." -- Jonathan Swift (1667-1745)

      by Wes Opinion on Mon Jul 27, 2009 at 06:04:07 AM PDT

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      •  It all depends on whom you ask (5+ / 0-)

        Some people, like you, help at the drop of a hat, so those people who do ask for your help, trust you not to say or do something demeaning, or hurtful.  To ask for help takes away a small lump of pride.

        •  It's not simply whether to ask for help ... (3+ / 0-)
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          ... but how we ask for help.  That's a function of social skills and knowing the "right" ways to raise a concern or ask for assistance.

          Who decides what the "right" ways are?  Those being asked, and it varies from person to person.  Successful people learn how to interact with a range of personalities, how to read subtle cues and find those "right" ways to raise concerns or ask for extra help, and they learn a lot of that before they ever start school.

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