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  •  Winter, I so understand. I was taught that (5+ / 0-)

    reaching out for help was rude and capricious. I was somewhat a rebel, so ignored that parental advice, but not until later in life when I discovered through assertiveness classes and other education that I had a right to feel equal to others and to seek out help. It's very debilitating to feel you're not worth asking others for help and advice. I still suffer from it too, and have a lot of fears of authority, still. Good morning and huggggggs, sweetie!

    P.S. You've been ultra-successful as an author despite all the negatives you grew up with!!

    •  There you go again (5+ / 0-)
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      being nice and saying wonderful things about me.  You are such a sweetheart.  Can I keep you?

      I'm sorry you still feel debilitated and "not worth it."  Because quite the contrary is true.  You're amazingly good with people, and extremely kind.  You're definitely "worth it."

      Hugggggs!

      "No man is my enemy, my own hands imprison me, love rescue me." -- Love Rescue Me/U2

      by winterbanyan on Fri Jul 31, 2009 at 06:03:35 AM PDT

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      •  Ooooh, BTW, have a wonderful birthday!! (5+ / 0-)

        Are you doing anything special. I hope so, 'cause you are such a very special person. Sending you big birthday hugggggs, and a cake too! (I know you can eat a virtual cake, right?)

        •  Thanks for the b-day hugs :) (4+ / 0-)
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          The day has already passed, and much to my embarrassment, much was made of it.  My daughters went all out with a sugar-free cake, a "lucky bamboo" plant which I love, flowers, and balloons.  And didn't they have a blast the other evening sucking the helium out of those balloons and talking.  I laughed until my sides ached.

          My partner wanted me to get an exercise bike I've been wishing for (I'm having serious trouble walking as you've heard) and I kept dithering until she said, "Well, youngest son needs it for his knees, too."  She does know how to push the buttons! LOL  Since son needs it too, I was able to bring myself to place the order.  Inexpensive one, but it'll work. :)

          So for a day over which I wanted no fuss, I got plenty fussed over. :)

          More huggs!

          "No man is my enemy, my own hands imprison me, love rescue me." -- Love Rescue Me/U2

          by winterbanyan on Fri Jul 31, 2009 at 06:29:08 AM PDT

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    •  There's a common myth ... (4+ / 0-)
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      ... that so many solitary artists (painters, sculptors, novelists, etc.) often come from lower-income backgrounds because those childhood trials "inspire" their art.  To the extent that many of those artists do come from lower-income backgrounds - and not all do - it may be what Dr. Lareau discovered in her research: the "natural growth" parenting style more common in lower-income families tends to produce children who are "more creative in making use of their own time, and had a well-developed sense of independence" ... skills that are essential for a solitary artist.

      Good morning! ::huggggggggggs::

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