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  •  I'm not sure I understand the question. (4+ / 0-)
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    Orinoco, winterbanyan, kktlaw, FarWestGirl

    And I'm reluctant to answer without understanding.  Could you be a bit more specific without betraying any confidences or stepping over your or anyone else's boundaries?

    Good morning! ::hugggggggggggggs::

    •  Trying to tread lightly. (6+ / 0-)

      Spouse was recently hospitalized while we were away from the US. Let's just say that to get to the hospital to see him is a trip lasting over an hour, with incredible parking fees at the other end. He was having tests all day, so I didn't go. I asked a neighbor for an item that I lacked, and it was delivered. Then the rumor mill went into full-time mode, and I was trashed by my helpful neighbor.

      Item 2. I have not worked in two years, due to research grant cutbacks and a personal feud with former boss. Former boss is quite happy to give one side of the story and make me toxic in the research community here. Not that I asked for reference, or anything.

      I don't know, perhaps we have all experienced what we thought was good networking, only to have it backfire. Perhaps I am just feeling sorry for myself.

      Anyway, I sure as heck did  not betray confidences or push boundaries here!

      BTW, good friday, all.

      Americans, while occasionally willing to be serfs, have always been obstinate about being peasantry. F. Scott Fitzgerald, the Great Gatsby

      by riverlover on Fri Jul 31, 2009 at 06:19:20 AM PDT

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      •  I am so sorry, riverlover... (6+ / 0-)

        you've been through the meat-grinder, haven't you.  Your former boss deserves a good kick.  I wish I had some way of helping.

        Mega hugggs!

        "No man is my enemy, my own hands imprison me, love rescue me." -- Love Rescue Me/U2

        by winterbanyan on Fri Jul 31, 2009 at 06:21:11 AM PDT

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      •  Eeek! (5+ / 0-)

        Yes, the flip-side of networking is that bad people in your network can harm you, just as good people in your network can help you.  I've experienced some of that as well.  To some extent that's a lesson (too late, obviously) in whom not to ask for help, and how not to handle a personal dispute with a boss.  But to some extent it's the unavoidable friction of life that can and does happen to any of us at times.

        Ironically, that points back to the importance of networking, as those with broader connections are less likely to be ostracized by the actions of one or two "snakes in the grass."  The fewer your network connections, the more vulnerable you are with each.

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