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  •  Amen, MrJayTee (3+ / 0-)
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    Woody, MrJayTee, jodygirl

    As a 48-year-old gay man, I'm going through the same kind of experience.  I'm still in good shape, and most people express surprise when I reveal my age.  But I'm still middle-aged, and in the gay male world, that makes me less desirable to most.  Sometimes I look at these young guys and wonder, "Did I ever look like that?"

    •  oh, you two, (2+ / 0-)
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      Woody, MrJayTee

      a lot of people consider 40-something men to be MORE desirable than their young, inexperienced counterparts.  As a 37 year-old woman, I can relate to your comments, as well.  Unfortunately, society seems to have a way of making women feel as if they depreciate in value more quickly than men.  Or maybe that's just my own fear of getting older.

      Say "Yes" to Michigan!

      by jodygirl on Mon Sep 21, 2009 at 09:29:32 AM PDT

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      •  Gay men are still men (3+ / 0-)
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        Woody, MrJayTee, jodygirl

        and they tend to have the same attitude about looks that straight guys do.  Women may be willing to accept a guy who isn't all that physically attractive if he has other redeeming qualities.  In my experience, gay men are more focused on physical attraction than women are.  So while you ladies may look fondly at forthysomething gentlemen, my fellow homos usually don't.  Obviously, there are exceptions, but in my community, guys also tend to "depreciate in value" pretty quickly as they age.

        •  Fortunately for us (1+ / 0-)
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          Woody

          Some younger men can see us just fine, particularly the smarter ones who like to connect with someone they can talk to about more than the latest pop stars and dance clubs.  They're sweet and often so beautiful it makes your teeth hurt.

          In my case, I was always attracted to well-kept middle-aged men, and I still am.  That doesn't hurt a bit these days.

          •  Old souls (2+ / 0-)
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            Woody, MrJayTee

            You're right.  There are some younger men who actually like older guys.  Had a much younger partner (almost 20 years younger) for several years.  He said he was an "old soul."  He grew up poor in a tough neighborhood and escaped through the Army.  Served tours in Iraq and Afghanistan.  I guess that'll make you mature quickly and leave you with little patience for guys who only want to chat about Britney's latest album.

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