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    to like to see their kids more like themselves but only better (smarter, wealther, etc). Since they themselves are straight, they also like to see their kids straight and carry on the family blah, blah, blah.

    Being gay to them can be similar to having their kids dating a wrong kind of partner, or have a terrible addict.

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      My parents are an interesting case actually because they're not bigots but they do carry some baggage that I think is from their generation.  When I ran for DNC Delegate in California, I marked the "Do you identify as LGBT?" box.  My mother was not happy about it.  To her, that's just something you ask, sexual orientation is private and no one else's business.  My father used to have some very heterosexist attitudes though he was never anti-gay.  

      Here's the thing, both my parents place a strong premium on being married and having children.  They don't understand married couples who don't have kids and think of them as somewhat selfish and spoiled.  They both get very excited for young people who get married.  Traditional nuclear family is important to them (though they both dislike their own extended families).  You would think that this would make them unhappy and uncomfortable with me being gay.  Only it doesn't.  In fact, they've simply changed their conceptions and believe strongly in the rights of same-sex marriage and of gays and lesbians being allowed to have kids.  

      Frankly, I'm not so big on the ideas of getting married or having kids but I do appreciate their conception.  

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