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    and yes, I mean the shouting --


    Why isn't Cosgrove sponsoring bills to promote research into miscarriage prevention and therapy for women who can't carry to term?

    Why don't they spend as much to help miscarriage-prone women as they do to look after goddamn racehorses suffering from spontaneous abortion?

    Why don't they do something more than say, callously, "Oh well you can always have another!" to a couple who have lost a planned/wanted pregnancy, and tell the traumatized mother that it's her own fault for eating cheese/having sex/excercising too much/not exercising enough, instead of having the humility to say "we don't really know anything about why most second-trimester miscarriages happen, and we don't care because there isn't enough money in it when it comes to human beings, unlike prize racehorses."

    My mother had four miscarriages in a row, only two of which were late enough to even be recognizeably fetuses, and the blase unconcern and lack of support from supposedly-prolife Christians in our church community - both men and women, was brutal. When someone else I know had a miscarriage recently I channeled the helplessness I felt into what i do best, research, and found out how apathetic the medical world has been, how little they know and care, and how recent any serious study has been.

    And yet they spared no expense to find out that it was accidentally eating toxic gypsy moth caterpillars that was causing all the thoroughbred mares to drop premature, poisoned foals a couple years ago! But then, those animals are worth potentially millions of dollars...

    (Yes, I am viciously cynical of the medical establishment as well as the government. "Property! This whole fucking thing's about property," as Sgt. Welsh says in Thin Red Line.)

    It wasn't helped by learning that a friend's friend was treated like shit by the nurses and lost her first pregnancy because they didn't believe her that she was having difficulty, and the attitude was "most women have a miscarriage the first time," - and this wasn't twenty years ago, it was less than five.

    "Don't be a janitor on the Death Star!" - Grey Lady Bast (change @ for AT to email)

    by bellatrys on Thu Jan 06, 2005 at 08:31:57 PM PST

    •  Yes. One would think this ... (none)
      ...would be high on Phyllis Schlafly's list of Things to Do for pro-life.

      Primo comment, bellatrys.

      We don't inherit the Earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children. - David Brower

      by Meteor Blades on Thu Jan 06, 2005 at 10:41:28 PM PST

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    •  Thank you... (4.00)
      ...for pointing that out. I had two miscarriages this past summer, and since my husband and I were trying to conceive, they were devastating. I went to the hospital when the first one started. I was about 8 weeks along. Going to the hospital was the very worst experience in my adult life. I was very emotionally upset, but neither the nurse nor the attending doctor showed any compassion. Their attitude was along the lines of, "Well, you're very early in your pregnancy, if you even are pregnant." (As if I wouldn't know that about my own body?!) I was there for almost four hours of blood tests, ultrasounds, etc., but no one could tell us anything other than, "You're probably at the beginning of a miscarriage, but we don't know why." We finally left in frustration, and the doctor told us to come back later if anything else happened. About an hour after the ultrasound, the miscarriage started in full force and lasted more than 12 hours...some of the worst physical pain I've ever experienced, and let's not even talk about the emotional devastation. There was no way in hell I was going back to that hospital; I knew what was going on and that they couldn't do anything for me. When my husband called my OB the next day, they couldn't even "fit me in" to the schedule for three days. As mentioned many times above, miscarriage is so common during these early stages, I guess they weren't overly concerned. They did take about 12 tubes of blood and ran every test available, but they could find nothing wrong with me and had no explanation for why I miscarried. When the same thing happened again a few months later, they still couldn't tell me why. So, instead of our government spending money to research why this happens, they want to make me a criminal instead? Thank you, Maura, for alerting us to this latest Rethug attempt to strip away our personal freedoms, and thank you bellatrys for pointing out where the government needs to be focusing its energy.
      •  When someone uses the analogous (none)
        "it felt like something inside me had died", unless they have experienced a miscarriage they have NO idea.

        To have to call and report it within 12 hours is obscene.  I didn't even speak to my MOTHER for 12 hours and I probably said 3 words to my husband.  I was too busy crying.

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