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    a beloved parent is failing.  Moreover, when you come to that realization, and you realize also that it's likely to become YOUR responsibility and you're middle aged and maybe you're still raising your kids, then it can be personally devastating.  It's like signing up for another round of parenthood, except now the toddler you're raising is never going to grow up but actually regress, and he/she may be in need of help with the most intimate personal functions.  On top of that is dealing with trying to keep their dignity while quietly taking over their finances and care of their property.  Add to the mix the emotional effects of growing debilitation on the elderly person - the wigging out, the hostility/paranoia, the personal accusations that you don't care or you never visited or called, even though you did - these are all extremely difficult parts of the puzzle.  Last year, when I had to place my mother in a rehab facility to recover from a bad fall, I had to endure weeks of her threatening suicide and savagely attacking me as a traitor every time I visited her.  She was unhinged and didn't resume her usual personality until I got her back home and set up in-home care.  It's really, really hard to go against the wishes of an old person who cannot recognize the problem.

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