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  •  Heterosexuals go through all that, too (8+ / 0-)

    It's what adolescence, puberty and growing up are all about.

    •  The difference is there're not... (1+ / 0-)
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      the same feelings of guilt, of being sick and twisted, of knowing that the subject of your crushes might beat the shit out of you if he knew, the dread of any of your friends finding out and ostracizing you or your parents finding the gay magazine and kicking you out of the home. As a gay kid in high school, you see all your friends developing an interest in the opposite sex while you don't, you try to date as they do too but it's just going through the motions and you hate it and hate yourself for for living a huge lie.

      It's better today in many parts of the country but there are still regions and religious cultures (like Matt's) where it's regarded as a mental sickness (at best) or downright evil and worthy of being bashed verbally and physically.

      Not the same at all as what straight folks deal with growing up.

      Just another socialist fuckstick homosinner!

      by Ian S on Sat Mar 13, 2010 at 06:58:19 AM PST

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      •  I was responding to the comment (1+ / 0-)
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        not making a blanket statement about how adolescence would in all respects be the same for gays and straights.  Which it clearly isn't.

        •  You're very kind (2+ / 0-)
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          to recommend my comment.

          Adolescence is a very difficult time for everyone.  Gender and sexuality aren't the only issues.  If you stand out in any way from others, it's especially difficult.  

          Another way to have the world crash down on you is to reject religion.  It can lose you a job, family ties--even be physically dangerous.  Fanatics are fanatics--whatever the issue.

          The Pew Research Center (very respected organization) did polls indicating that the group least trusted to be President is atheists--people would accept Muslims, gays, etc. over atheists.  Never mind if people knew their history they'd know there are many accomplished, caring and good people who cannot accept religious belief of any kind--organized or not.  And there have been Presidents who are agnostics, atheists or deists.  And we all know that there are religious people who can claim no virtue.

          In any case, i wish you the very best as life moves on. Be open to change.  To learning.  To new things.  And I hope the love in your family overcomes their rigid beliefs and from what I can tell, a very isolated life style.

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