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  •  so, reading between the lines: (4+ / 0-)

    Parents should transfer their houses to their kids while they still can.

    And in the end, everyone except the super-wealthy will end up on Medicaid for their custodial care expenses, which probably means ending up in some hell-hole where the patient/staff ratio is 30:1 and they fester in their feces until the day they drop dead.

    I suppose this is as good a place as any to say this: in our family the consensus has been, and will continue to be, in the event of dementia or coma, provide hospice care only, and do not resuscitate.   When the brain/mind is gone, that's death even if the heart is beating, so let nature take its course.  And we also reserve the option to take a handful of pills (or whatever) and have a peaceful exit.  

    I dread to think of what's going to happen with continued societal decline, for example as an outcome of the climate crisis.  

    •  Alzheimer's patients don't qualify for hospice (3+ / 0-)
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      Not until near the end. The disease course can take ten years or more.

      I understand your pessimism. I do. I have to step in here and tell you, however, that not all - or even most - Medicaid patients in nursing homes "fester in their feces until they drop dead".  The most important things you can do for a loved one who requires long term custodial care is to, first, find a good place and, second, be a frequent and visible presence there. If you notice something wrong, raise more hell than a pet monkey.

      "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." ~ Voltaire

      by KelleyRN2 on Wed May 12, 2010 at 06:25:27 PM PDT

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      •  Thank you Kelley (3+ / 0-)
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        I have been back and forth and am just now sitting down to answer comments (and right part 2, after I ... OMG that Vindaloo is hot ... I may not have made enough rice

        "He felt that his whole life was some kind of dream and he sometimes wondered whose it was and whether they were enjoying it." - Douglas Adams

        by Clytemnestra on Wed May 12, 2010 at 06:31:58 PM PDT

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