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  •  confidence game (3+ / 0-)

    I love how "confidence" is the second most valued attribute.

    If you ask a prospective employee whether some business challenge can actually be overcome, who is the better candidate?

    The one who says, "That would be a very complex undertaking, for the following reasons...[gives knowledgeable and compelling presentation of probable difficulties]. I'm not certain it can be done, given the resource constraints involved. If I were asked to do so, I would give my best effort, and give the company its maximum chance of success."

    Or the one who flashes a winning smile, says "Yes, absolutely, I can handle that no sweat," then flashes another winning smile?

    Connecting to the theme of the post, I very much doubt that confidence is any more highly correlated with probability of success than appearance is.

    George W. Bush was confident. Give me competent and equivocal.

    Prison rape is not funny.

    by social democrat on Fri Jul 23, 2010 at 10:27:26 PM PDT

    •  One thing I've never figured out: (0+ / 0-)

      How can anyone be properly confident in their ability to persuade others?

      We do not have more than a modicum of control over how others feel about us or perceive us. To believe that YOUR personality is so charismatic and special that you can control other's thoughts and behaviors is more than confidence. It's more like rank arrogance!

      Real Democrats don't abandon the middle class. --John Kerry

      by Lucy Montrose on Sat Jul 24, 2010 at 01:53:18 AM PDT

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    •  I will be called "lacking in confidence"... (0+ / 0-)

      ... until I look like I stepped out of a J. Crew catalog.

      I think Prada sells confidence for $1000 a pair to be worn on your feet. Or upwards of $500 to be worm on your shoulder...

      Real Democrats don't abandon the middle class. --John Kerry

      by Lucy Montrose on Sat Jul 24, 2010 at 01:54:47 AM PDT

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    •  Unfortunately, we have a cognitive bias (0+ / 0-)

      that causes our "intuitive" judgment of how correct someone is to be based on how self-certain he/she comes off as. And it's largely unconscious; even if you can recite Dunning and Kruger's paper in your sleep, it will still affect you unless you're making a very conscious effort to look for it.

      If Nixon was cocaine for the resentful psyche, Palin is meth—Andrew Sullivan

      by ebohlman on Sat Jul 24, 2010 at 12:21:46 PM PDT

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