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  •  To answer you question, No. (3+ / 0-)

    What it has changed to some extent is my own understanding of the complexity of people.   the complexity of the world and the complexity of the problems.

    He wants most of the same things you and I want.  Problem is there is so much information out there that one cannot possibly know all.  So, the result is we are vulnerable to manipulation of demagogues.

    It is also tied up with to other problems I see:  1) not enough education dealing with logic and reasoning. 2) that in their fear or anxiety people will always grab onto the most comforting argument or "reason" regardless of whether it is true or not.

    So what do we do?   People I have been able to persuade, have not necessary been persuaded by logic or rational reasoning.... at least not at the beginning.

    They first entertain my positions AFTER they come to trust me and respect me.  And this seems to be reinforced to the degree I return the favor.

    You Never Get the Problem You Can Handle

    by gc10 on Sun Sep 19, 2010 at 08:44:53 PM PDT

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    •  Please allow me to add.... (2+ / 0-)

      I have also discovered that a "uncivil" conversation requires the cooperation of both parties.   If I don't get hooked on any of their crazy rhetoric, then I don't cooperate in the "uncivilly."

      By "not getting hooked," I mean not getting anxious and reactive...  If I can remain non-anxious and non-reactive, it eventually has a calming effect on the other person and our conversation can evolve in constructive ways."

      If someone is being "uncivil" I don't get focused or hooked on their words.  Because when someone is being crazy, or unhinged, or whatever,  I know that their automatic Reptilian brain has hijacked their cortex......therefore, I know that while they are using words and talking points, whatever... what is really going on is an emotional phenomena.

      You Never Get the Problem You Can Handle

      by gc10 on Sun Sep 19, 2010 at 08:52:48 PM PDT

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