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  •  Maybe you are still grieving and just not (6+ / 0-)

    ready yet. We all have personal limitations. Sometimes it is hard for me to accept that I can't possibly live up to the expectations of others and will have to say no to someone. Usually, the individual to whom I finally say no does not understand and takes it personally.

    But I've found that over time they reconsider and there is time to explain.  You obviously will need some help on this. Is it possible to find a visiting nurse for your mother? Or can your children help? I know the alternative is not a pleasant one but sometimes it is the only one.

    We had an elderly neighbor whom I looked after when my children were very small. I became increasingly worried about her growing blindness when I found all sorts of mouldy stuff in her fridge that she couldn't see. She grew more and more fragile. Finally, I called her family and told them they needed to bring her back to Arizona because she couldn't take care of herself. I felt really guilty but I couldn't work full time, take care of my kids and also do justice to looking after Mrs. Brown. She felt really hurt and angry with me.  But I hope, in the world to come, she will understand.

    Hugs and love to you riverlover!

    I blog on healthcare issues for Tikkun Daily as Lauren Reichelt.

    by TheFatLadySings on Tue Oct 19, 2010 at 06:13:50 AM PDT

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