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  •  But I have found though hard at times... (1+ / 0-)
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    if feels good, feels empowering, to know that I consistently do the right thing.  It gives life real meaning and makes it more interesting in my book.

    Cooper Zale Los Angeles http://www.leftyparent.com

    by leftyparent on Fri Nov 19, 2010 at 04:47:31 PM PST

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    •  I have found consistently doing the right thing (0+ / 0-)

      to be somewhat exhausting.  I learned early in life that doing the right thing has its own price and you have to be willing to pay it.  It is not a freebie and you do not always reap rewards from it(in any sense).  You do it because it is just who you are, and to do otherwise is to betray yourself and to give away a piece of your soul.  

      "When fascism comes to America, it'll be wrapped in a flag and carrying a cross." Sinclair Lewis

      by lakehillsliberal on Sat Nov 20, 2010 at 01:36:31 PM PST

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      •  Very different world views are two... (0+ / 0-)

        thanks for candidly sharing yours.

        I also have a rule of thumb when deciding what I should do or what I ask others to do (particularly when working with say other volunteers in a community organization), which is to "give only what you can give freely".  To give more than that creates the expectation that you are due something in return.

        Ideally, I and all the people I interact with are giving of themselves freely, without the expectation of being "owed" something in return.

        Cooper Zale Los Angeles http://www.leftyparent.com

        by leftyparent on Sat Nov 20, 2010 at 01:51:31 PM PST

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