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    Get Christian and interfaith support for this. Here's a link to my experience a couple of years ago which led to domestic partnership laws being passed, I really, really think this helped in Washington state. The legislators kept saying, "we are so glad you are here!" meaning they need a little support because they already know the right thing to do.

    I have never been to my capital for any other reason. We organized by county, and met at several different churches in Olympia to get instructions what to do. We were supposed to find our legislator and talk to them about the importance of this cause. The first year, out of total irony that I cannot fathom, I ended up in Frank Chopp's office (he was the head of the senate in Washington state, and a strong advocate for us!!) all by myself. I told him about a friend of mine who was unable to help the love of his life when his partner was dying - and this was in a hospital on Capitol Hill, which is a gay neighborhood in Seattle!! They wouldn't let him visit his partner. Totally unbelieveable that this happened, but it really did.

    The second year, I went to see Jamie Pedersen, who also represents my district in the House. He is going to be doing this for a while, because he is really focussed and really good at explaining things. Anyway, this time there were about 6 of us, and a tranny spoke first, explaining that things are extra-hard for the "T" demographic. Jamie understood, and said that we have to take a couple of steps to get where we want to be. First, pass domestic partnership. Then notice that the sky did not cave in. Second, add provisions to the partnership bill (especially divorce stuff, because that's when things get complicated for people). Finally, marriage equality makes the most sense, because it actually reduces legislation and makes it uniform - every judge will understand and apply the law fairly because they know the heterosexual marriage legislation well through lots of experience.

    Finally, here is an ugly underside to marriage equality. It doesn't help heterosexuals who refuse to get married. I also knew a couple who had been together for 10 years, but they never married. He died very suddenly of heart attack in his fourties. They didn't let his female partner go to him in the hospital either. If you can also work on this problem, by any means you can think of, then you will help a lot of people who don't understand how important all of this is. I'd probably do something really stupid if that happened to me, whether I was the one inside or the one outside the hospital. "Those who God has joined together, let no man put assunder" as they say.

    In a democracy, everyone is a politician. ~ Ehren Watada

    by Lefty Mama on Fri Dec 17, 2010 at 01:19:40 AM PST

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