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  •  Is it about being treated as a woman, or (12+ / 0-)

    having the ability to protect oneself?  

    There's been a couple of occasions where I've been spat on and threatened and even mugged, as a TS...

    I'm actually a member of the RKBA group and I don't own a gun, because as was mentioned above, minorities are always the first victims of a decaying society. I like having the option, if the need ever arises.

    In the case where I was spit on, and after calling the police, I was told, "Well, if you didn't dress that way, this wouldn't have happened".  

    Then being threatened in a Denny's Restaurant, and again, the police doing nothing and when I was finally mugged, I fought back...running after the mugger, grabbing him by the scruff of the neck and dragging him to the ground...I learned that only I can protect myself, no one else can.

    Having the knowledge and ability to defend yourself as a woman, doesn't make you any less of one.

    That's how I see it today.  I do agree we all have feelings and emotions and were these events traumatic? Certainly,  at least I wasn't raped or killed or beaten.

    I used to joke with my close friends that "I'll show them what a woman can do in a man's body"...this was during those few awkward years when one is transitioning...

    I saved myself in the end...

    Teaching other men about us won't change the world, it's a violent, random place.  I choose not to be a victim today.

    I personally believed I must end any and all behaviors that were stereotypically "male" (or what I thought were male characteristics).   I tried to be the perfect woman... my ideal of the perfect woman...sadly, that's not reality.  

    It took one session with my therapist, whom gave me the authority to be me...whatever she/me truly is.  And I've never looked back...I stopped trying to fit preconceived notions and just became....me....

    A woman, whom knows how to shoot a gun, was a brown belt in karate and loved to work out and stay physically fit...I even begrudgingly work on my car (some days I don't mind changing the oil, other days...it's the worst thing in the world). I can fix a broken pipe in my apartment and even can do a little electrical work...

    I'd ask this, do we all need to be what you believe a woman is? Or can we be ourselves?  We each have our own perspective of this world and what we see as our part in it, don't we???

    Blessings for a great conversation...

    ~Gerrilea

    -7.62; -5.95 The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite insane.~Tesla

    by gerrilea on Sun Feb 20, 2011 at 04:01:01 PM PST

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