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    terrible difficulty you and your family are going through. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease, and it takes a toll on the family of the person suffering from it.

    Your descriptions are poignant and heart-breaking. It's a sad reality that many of our loved ones will have to suffer in this way, and that we will suffer with them.

    I took care of my grandmother as she was in the process of dying -- a long, slow, dehumanizing death. Her mind, actually, remained sharp the whole time. Her body just failed her, and that sharp mind watched it break down... watched her world fall apart. I do know how embarrassing it is for older people when they have accidents. My grandmother soiled herself numerous times, and I think the fact that her 22 year old little granddaughter was the one cleaning her up... was the most humiliating thing of all to her. She, at least, did not have the confusion accompanying the act, whereas your grandmother could only express that she knew it was "wrong." It is sad... the regression to childishness that many of our elders experience. And when they are halfway cognizant of it, their humiliation is heart-wrenching.

    I am glad you spend as much time with her as you can. Enjoy the time that you have while she is still somewhat aware, despite how hard it is. We always end up wishing we'd had more time, after all.

    T&R'd. I hope this makes the rec list.

    Your knowledge of what is going on can only be superficial and relative. - William S. Burroughs

    by sricki on Thu Mar 24, 2011 at 08:16:59 PM PDT

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