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  •  I'd say we can split sexuality into a few (5+ / 0-)
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    couplings: there's biological gender, identified gender, and sexual preference.  You seem to be conflating the latter two and assuming that the transgendered also have a sexual preference for the identified sex opposite their biological sex.  That isn't necessarily the case.  One can be, say, biologically male, identify female, and still have a sexual preference for women.  Or: transgender people aren't some subspecies of gay people.

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      I'm having a difficult time understanding the identified gender side of it.

      From what you're saying, it's entirely possible to be a biological male who's attracted to women, but from a mental/emotional standpoint considers himself to be a woman.

      There's an old straight male joke, "I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body." So you're saying such a thing is quite literally possible?

      I haven't ever considered my own self-perceived gender. I've just always known I'm a male who's attracted to females. My first crush was Kindergarden, a girl named Jenny Rankey (I couldn't be misspelling her last name). I've also always been interested in stereotypical "man" things, like cars and sports. And nerd things like chess and numismatics.

      I guess I just have a hard time getting the gender identity thing. Sexual attraction I recognize, so I've always known I'm straight. As for gender, I've always had a male body and there's never been a question of should or shouldn't. It just is.

      "The Green Bay Packers failed to score 8 times in the Super Bowl." -- Purity

      by USArmyParatrooper on Thu Apr 21, 2011 at 06:07:16 PM PDT

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    •  Gender identity and sexual orientation... (9+ / 0-)

      ...are separate issues.  Transpeople have sexual orientations, but they are not always what people expect them to be.

      •  On that point: (2+ / 0-)
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        In the video below (actually the one that follows it), one participant in the group says (at the end), "I know if I'd stayed as a male, I wouldn't have a problem finding a partner...but I may not find anybody now."

        Can we assume anything about her attractions and the gender partner she's seeking?  She doesn't clarify it in any way.

        I used to be Snow White...but I drifted.

        by john07801 on Thu Apr 21, 2011 at 07:21:40 PM PDT

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      •  I don't see gender as being binary. (4+ / 0-)
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        Gender is often used as a tool to oppress and exploit, whichever gender it might be for the case before the court, notwithstanding the powers that be (begging forgiveness from our omnipresent ubercon, overlords).

        If gender bias is presented as as it really exists in general society, it might be just so Mid-wives or Obstetricians can proudly (sic) announce, it's a (gender of your preference) . And it makes a mother happy to know that after all of the suffering, her child is OK.

        Nor do I see gender as a simple continuum between degrees of 'straight' and 'gay'. Because then we could just take some standardized test and be labeled and put into comfortable little pigeonholes along the one dimensional line of our sex and gender role(s).

        And even to think that human sexuality and gender identification could be represented by a three dimensional matrix is to over-simplify, IMO

        My conclusion is that we need to be accepting of everyone, especially those that are different. It usually seems to be that those that are considered 'different' by the mainstream, are eventual considered to be the innovators that make the breakthroughs by pushing the very boundarys that constrain them.

        To boldly go... should be held up not as a parody, but as an imperative.

        If we brag on being 'tolerant', then we need to walk the talk. Empathy and tolerance can lead to acceptance, but it is an uphill fight.

        Never give up. Never surrender.

        Peace and Love,

        It is not certain that everything is uncertain. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662)

        by BusyinCA on Thu Apr 21, 2011 at 08:27:59 PM PDT

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