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  •  There you go again... (2+ / 0-)
    You stepped into a wasps nest on Friday and said some things without realizing how much offence you were causing, and you got an anvil dropped on you for it.

    In your original comment in this diary, here, you once again said things that are offensive and hurtful. And then followed up with more offense and hurt.

    I take you at your word that was unintentional.

    So how 'bout you take me at my word-- if you are truly interested, curious and friendly, you should consider that the best way to proceed might be to shut up and listen. I know that is difficult to do, I have a helluva time doing it myself. Just listen.

    I'm often amazed what I can learn if I just shut up and listen.

    -Jay-
    
    •  If you don't mind explaining - (1+ / 0-)
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      martini

      Which part of this is offensive?

      I lived in the Bay Area myself, and have never personally known someone who was transgender (that I know of).

      It sounds like you went through a great deal of emotional (and I would imagine physical) pain for the treatments and surgery.

      What motivates transgender people to go through it? If someone is attracted to people of the same sex, it seems to me life would be easier just being a homosexual male or female. So I would think there's much more to it than sexuality.

      You mentioned it was well worth it. What are some of the positive things you've experienced since the transformation?

      "The Green Bay Packers failed to score 8 times in the Super Bowl." -- Purity

      by USArmyParatrooper on Thu Apr 21, 2011 at 06:50:33 PM PDT

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      •  The part that assumes she would be... (5+ / 0-)

        ...attracted to someone of the same sex before transition and transitions in order to be heterosexual.  This is not an assumption anyone is free to make about transpeople, sometimes including even the transperson involved.

        As someone else said to you, transgender/transsexual is not a subset of gay.

        Transwomen are not gay men and transmen are not lesbians.  How long is it going to take to get you to understand that?

        •  Thanks you Robyn! (3+ / 0-)
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          JayBat, CA TreeHugger, kyril

          For example, I am a transman who once lived as a heterosexual woman and now lives as a gay man. (Though I have occasional flings with people of all sorts of genders and with all sorts of physical sex characteristics...)

          I wish it were possible to let those who wish to understand trans* simply live in the wrong body for several weeks.

          What's so funny 'bout peace, love and understanding? - Elvis Costello

          by bluesheep on Fri Apr 22, 2011 at 12:56:07 AM PDT

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