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  •  people who transition are not dead (5+ / 0-)

    ...though the specifics of the thing may be sad and hard.

    I've definitely seen trans men and women step up for their kids' educations, for their kids' challenges, to provide a roof and help to adult children...whether they still go by mom or dad, and whether their kids fully accept the matter or not.  

    Some say "I'm still your dad" and some say "don't call me that!"  Some are ruined economically by transition and can't be there for their kids...which has its own profound set of implications.  It is a complex thing to surf.  

    I've got no kids.  But have watched this done well and done badly by other trans folks.  Some of that is in their control, some not.  I've heard so very much pain on the matter, from both trans people and significant others.  I don't think anyone realistic expects it to be all cheers and forward motion.  And it varies so much, by character, by circumstance, by who the kids are becoming, by how the person approached gender in their previous life...

    ...j'ai découvert que tout le malheur des hommes vient d'une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre.

    by jessical on Thu May 05, 2011 at 11:58:33 AM PDT

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