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  •  heh (4+ / 0-)
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    That is a very sweet comment and also very supportive.  But you're smart and often make observations which trip other things for me, so....

    I am an old geek, so I hark to the earlier use of the term hacker.  As in, bricolage, tweaking the tech, breaking the factory seal, getting in to the system.  As a result I have often described being trans as hacking the phenotypic expression of my genome.  Some folks find this far too sterile and narrow, but it works for me....and I think that as history proceeds, more and more people will hack their genome, making the testosterone and estrogen mods of a previous generation seem quaint...perhaps along with much else.  

    Anything this troubling to people can be a source of pain I think.  I chose to be a laughingstock, and I am.  My parents and friends did not, and yet...so I am pretty sure I have, in the net, been a source of pain.  It is kind of inescapable.  Others do better.

    ...j'ai découvert que tout le malheur des hommes vient d'une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre.

    by jessical on Fri Jul 29, 2011 at 07:07:14 PM PDT

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    •  I'm wondering when someone will invent... (5+ / 0-)

      ...a brand new hormone for people to run on.

    •  Just finished watchign Torchwood (6+ / 0-)

      where the main character (played by a gorgeous gay man who makes most of the straight ladies I know drool, and I suspect, some of the gay guys) who is from the 55th century where gender and sexual preference don't matter to anyone, and is occasionally bemused by our time's obsession with placing people neatly in one category or the other. Would that that day were soon. The character describes himself as omnisexual.

      I use hacking in the sense of the folk who think it's funny to break into the VA databases or a credit company file and steal people's private info for identity theft purposes. I know some of the old-fashioned hacker types from my days with the Hopkins SF Association as an honorary member.

      I've always been a girly sort of girl outwardly--but very intellectually aggressive. Since I went to all female schools, I never learned the stuff most teenage girls learn quickly: that if you're too smart, guys don't like you; that if you're too aggressive, argue too hard with guys, they freak; that if you're cute and little and curvy, guys are freaked if you don't use the "Cute Little Girl" approach but face issues head-on.  As if having naturally large boobs somehow lowers my I.Q.  I didn't fit into box so I didn't date much in college. Then I found science fiction fandom where some men, at least, LIKED the fact that I'd argue my ideas strongly.

      I'd liek to see gender and sexual preference be nobody's business but their owner's.

      The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

      by irishwitch on Fri Jul 29, 2011 at 09:48:35 PM PDT

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      •  Agreed. (5+ / 0-)

        Also I love Torchwood, and John Barrowman.  I think the "Kiss Kiss Bang Bang" episode may be the hottest gay kiss on teevee ever (with SPIKE!  Well, James Martsers/Capt. John Hart).  Besides the Dr. Who pedigree, it reminds me somewhat of the stories of Elizabeth A. Lynn, lo many years ago.  I am a bit more retiring than you --- when I mention SF authors you often have a more personal take -- but I loved those books as a teenager (Sardonyx Net, A Different Light). A universe that is smart and sexy and complex and...has queer people in it.  

        Fandom does indeed admire smart geeky women.  Here in SeaWa, the sex positive community center and norwescon crowds have huge overlap.  Good and bad things about that I suppose...

        ...j'ai découvert que tout le malheur des hommes vient d'une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre.

        by jessical on Sat Jul 30, 2011 at 07:29:21 AM PDT

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        •  The authors were part of my life. In the 80s (5+ / 0-)

          I wrote fantasy and got to be on panels with them. And after a while people get to know you and some become friends. I miss the ones who've passed on.

          I adore John Barrowman. There used to be, on hsi website, a wonderful picture from his wedding to his equally gorgeous architect husband, where Eve Myles is lifting his kilt to check to see what a Scotsman wears under it. And I agree about the Marsters/Barrowman episodes. I have had a huge crush on Marsters since he showed up on Buffy. It's those cheekbones and that lovely deep voice. He had real chemistry with Barrowman, and they left open the possiblity that Capt. John might show up again. My hsuband had been enjoying Miracle Day (on Starz right now), because the woman aren't sticks like msot  Hollywood actresses. Poor man was drooling over EVe Myles in a black sheath dress and deep red lipstick. NONE of the actresses are skinny as rails.

          The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

          by irishwitch on Sat Jul 30, 2011 at 12:22:18 PM PDT

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    •  w00t! (4+ / 0-)
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      As a result I have often described being trans as hacking the phenotypic expression of my genome.

      I love that.

      And I have a definition of hacking that harks back to the many days and nights I spent with my first love at MIT. A truly great hack was taking apart a car and reassembling it on top of a building. One might use the word prank for that kind of hack. There were certainly computer hackers there as well, but it was all harmless. We referred to anybody doing anything harmful as "cracking".

      Maybe just maybe our foremothers and our forefathers came to this land in different ships. But we're all in the same boat now. - John Lewis

      by bluesheep on Sat Jul 30, 2011 at 08:22:18 AM PDT

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