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  •  A couple of examples from my own life: (7+ / 0-)

    1) At 21, I worked in a dept.s tore while waiting to start grad school (I finsihed a semester early, moved hoem and finished writing my Honros Thesis there to save money).  I worked in Budget Men's Clothing.  The  manager ws youngish (meaning under 35) and being groomed to move up.  He would come over while you were straightening socks or shirts and stand behind you, rubbing up against you as he showed you the "correct" way to fold shirts.  One time he cornered me in the stock room and "accidentally" grabbed my breasts.  Three of us went out to lunch together and I brought it up. Turned out it had happened to all of us.   When we got back, we checked witht he other two women,a nd found they had had it happen too.  SO on break we each went up, one after the other and reported it to HR.  Result: we all got =transferred out of the dept, and he got moved to another store where he eventually made manager.  SO much ofr our rights.

    2) In grad school, one of my professors offered to drop me home--since it was a snowy day, I accepted.  He tried to invite me out for a drink. I invented a fiance on the spot and made sure never to be alone with him again.

    The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

    by irishwitch on Sun Jul 31, 2011 at 08:45:52 PM PDT

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    •  Three (5+ / 0-)

      near-rapes here. First one stopped with a show of physical power, the second with the proverbial scream and the third with a lie. I learned to fight with a knife and I have no compunction about the need to kill or at least horribly maim an assailant. It will never happen again. The rage is buried, but not that deeply.

      •  I hear you (2+ / 0-)
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        kyril, irishwitch

        about the rage being buried, but not too deeply.

        Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it. ~Professor Albus Dumbledore

        by Ana Thema on Mon Aug 01, 2011 at 07:38:00 AM PDT

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      •  Never happen again? (1+ / 0-)
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        A skinny dude can overwhelm almost any woman.  I am glad you feel prepared especially if it helps you cope.  If something does happen, it is not your fault because you were not prepared enough or you made a mistake or you were not strong enough.

        •  Not if the woman knows how to hurt him (2+ / 0-)
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          My first husband never weighed over 150 and stood 5'11.  And he could beat a lot of men MUCH bigger than him--he had 3 black belts and 2 brown and carried an illegal knife in his boot (and knew how to use it, thanks to his training). A woman with sufficient trainign sot hat her response becoems automatic can scare the hell out of someone trying to hurt her. A friend of mine, who wasn't trained, had soemone try to grab her purse. She held on, screamed loudly and kicked the shit out of him. NOBODY helepd and it was 9 o'clock on a Saturday morning and she was on a busy street.  SHe kept her pruse, though she was bruised from being shoved to the ground--but so was he from where she licked him int he shins and the knee. But she as aslo streetwise and had several older brothers and knew something about rough-housing.

          But if you aren't able to fight back, it's not your fault at all. MEN freeze in combat.

          The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

          by irishwitch on Mon Aug 01, 2011 at 01:08:41 PM PDT

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