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  •  No, actually you said it wasn't as bad (0+ / 0-)

    as stranger rape, and thus people were reluctant to treat it as harshly. The real reason that until quite recently (late 70s in fact), there was still the legal notion that a husband had a right to to use his wife's body for sex whether she wanted sex or not; her consent was irrelevant since he owned her. DId you realize that in the 70s and even 80s, it was damned hard for a woman to get credit in her own name without her husband co-signing? Even if she made more money than he did? That she couldn't get a business loan without his signature on it, even if she had a business plan and capitol of her own in an account under her name only? He, however, didn't need HER to co-sign for anything, and, indeed, could own the familial abode in his own name only.  He could also have accounts in his own name and hide money there that she didn't know about--a common ploy in divorces.

     You refuse to see the simple fact that when you marry someone, you do so because you love and trust them. If your spouse rapes you, they aren't a faceless stranger whom you can safely hate--but the person you believed loved and respected you.  While a stranger rape may (but isn't always) more violent than a spousal one,  the emotional violation is far worse in spousal rape because it destroys your safe haven.

    Your posts aren't being subjected to selective reading. they're being read precisely as you w rote them. You simply can't see your own sexism.  You're suffering from PMS--Poor Menz Syndrome--because a woman dared to disagree with you.

    The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

    by irishwitch on Mon Aug 01, 2011 at 01:01:13 PM PDT

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    •  circular logic (0+ / 0-)

      "this is sexism, and anyone who disagrees with me is sexist"

      sigh

      men rape other men everyday, but you wouldn't know that from reading your rant

      •  Oh, is your penis hurting because a woman (0+ / 0-)

        DARED to disagree with you and make you look like the sexist you are?

        Most male rapes (a VERY small percentage of rapes overall) happen in prison. Are you in prison? Is prison rape wrong? Damned right it is.  But it ALSO happens to WOMEN in prison, something guys like you always ignore.

        Or to gay men. You said you're not gay.  

        Your chances of being raped as an adult male are a LOT smaller than mine as a woman.  Sorry. try looking up the Bureau of Justice  Statistics on that. 85% of victims are female, and most perps (except among lesbians raping lesbians) are male.

        I will grant you that there are occasional attacks on straight men by women. I know of one pair of serial female rapists back in the late 70s and early 80s in Baltimore. They targeted joggers.  Their were police reports, but as far as I know, they were never caught. There were at least two victims, but likely  more because men are ashamed to report rape, same as women.  I wish they'd caught them and thrown away the key.

        And a friend of mine who is a female Dominant who ran an educational website got a call from a totally devastated man who was submissive. He was raped by a pair of women he'd met on the Net. He did everything right. They gave him references. They sent him faxes of their ID s (which were false, as were the refs--they faked them themselves). He met them in a public place for dinner rather than at their home.  But he forgot something: NEVER leave your drink unattended. He got up to use the men's room. They slipped him a roofie.  He started to feel ill and dizzy, and they suggested driving to their place to lie down. He has hazy memories of that night, involving standing bondage, being whipped by a bullwhip and sodomized by a dildo. He came to many hours later in his car,left parked at the restaurant.   My friend begged him to go to the ER and report this, but he chose simply to see his own doctor.  That was rape, pure ans simple, and those women were horrors.  If they caught them and I was on the jury, I'd have happily voted to convict. The only difference between them and slavemaster, the serial killer pretending to be a Dom to lure submissive women into a meeting, is that they let him live.

         I hate rape, whatever the gender of the victim or the rapist. Which does not change the fact that most victims are female and most perps are male, and that you know very little about the subject udner discussion.

        The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

        by irishwitch on Mon Aug 01, 2011 at 08:33:25 PM PDT

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        •  rape is rape (0+ / 0-)

          doesn't matter if it happens "less often"

          go around telling men who were strapped down and anally raped for hours that

          "well, its less common than male-on-female rape so we're never going to mention you when ranting and raving about rape"

          I'm sure you''ll furiously bang away at your keyboard finding new phrases to try and insult anyone who has a slight difference of opinion as an evil sexist, but I'm done with this diary

          •  Good. Because I am pretty much doen with you./ (0+ / 0-)

            Your chances of being raped aren't very high.

            You know, when I go to diary written by African AMericans on discrimiantion,. I don't tell them they're wrong. I sit and read. You might try that. That is if you actually wanted to learn soemthing.

            The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

            by irishwitch on Mon Aug 01, 2011 at 09:22:32 PM PDT

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