I'm Going Home!!!

Well folks, I arrived here at the VA Hospital in Houston, TX one year and two months ago, on Oct 24, 2004. It's been a long, slow and boring time for me here. But last Wed, I found out I'm finally going home! I'll be leaving in 3 days, on Sat morning. I'm so damn excited! That's the reason I didn't do my Friday night diary, "My 23 Days In Iraq--Part III--", last Friday. I figured I stopped the week before with the day the invasion of Iraq began. So I figured, instead of writing another one last Friday, I'd just continue my series of diaries later, after I'm home and settled in and all.

More below.....

When I get home(To Moore, Oklahoma), I'll be staying with my parents until I can find a nice wheelchair-accessable apartment for rent somewhere in Moore or OKC. So I probably won't be logging on Dailykos for a few weeks, maybe even a month or so. I've got a lot to do. And I'll be a very busy guy.

DAMN!!! Just writing about going home is giving me butterflies in my stomach. But good butterflies. I'm so friggin happy!

Anyways, when I do continue my "23 Days" series, I'll try and include some pics of myself too, since I'll be home and will have access to them. That way you guys can finally put a face with the name and all.

Here's an update on my condition: All of my pressure sores(ie. bed sores) that I came here with over a year ago are finally healed up. I've had two diff plastic surgeries for two diff wounds. One to close up an "extra" hole in my ass that shouldn't have been there(get it? "extra" HAHA), and another to "debreed", or cut out the nasty infected gunk, a wound I developed while on bed-rest waiting for the first surgery to heal. The latter was/is in my groin area. It's still open, and I'll be dressing it myself at home. But it should be healed up in a month or six weeks. And for those who know what I'm talking about from a past diary, my "peas and carrot" are A-okay(Bring on the Viagra and the whores baby!!-Just kidding-About the whores anyway)!!

On a serious note though...Thanks to all of you Kossacks here who have made me feel at home by your wonderful comments in my diaries, your caring emails, and your out-friggin'-standing care packages! Whoever sent me the book, Johnny Get Your Gun, thanks. It was a great and sickening read. And I plan to highlite some of the pages for friends to read when they think war is "cool" and all that shit.

Thanks to all of you who haved proved me wrong when I make an irresponsible comment, and you provide the true facts and make me a better-informed person. That's why I love this site: It's reality based. And there's always someone there to put me in my place if need be.

Well folks, I'll be around tonight and part of tommorow, but my dad gets here Friday, and we'll start packing my shit up and getting all my meds and supplies ready to go. Then I'll be leaving Sat morning. So basically, tonight and tommorow will be the last time for a while that I'll be stopping by here on a daily basis.

Wish me luck guys, I'll need it when I get out on my own for the first time since my initial injury on April 12, 2003. It's kinda scary, but I'm ready for it. I've come a long way and am more independent now than I've ever been since my paralysis began. And, also for the first time since my injury, I'm happy....Life is good. It's good to be alive...

•  Tip Jar!

  How 'bout some 4's...ya know, for the road!!

  Take care everyone;)

  by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 04:55:31 PM PDT

  •  My Dad Was 100% DVA

    And the VA (after LOTS of pressure) ended up paying for the Wheelchair Accessible modifications to their house.

    It was a substantial sum of money, easily the downpayment for a house, and if you build new, the house looks 'made to order' for you.

    Good Luck -- If anybody deserves it, it is you!

    LL
    

    by LeftyLimblog on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:51:11 PM PDT

  •  All the best!

    Look forward to hearing from you again once you're settled.  Best of luck with everything.

    by Cold on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:12:52 PM PDT

  •  10-4 on the 4s

    Go home, damn it.

    by Earl on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:07:06 PM PDT

  •  thanks

    for sharing your story with us.

    by baccaruda on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 11:12:56 PM PDT

    •  Support The Troops!

      Give RetreatHell record 4's

      With 300 plus 4's you are now ready to go fight the next enemy: the Dkos ratings abusers

      :-)

      by roboton on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 06:55:04 AM PDT

  •  Wow

    Gonna need an extra bag or two to haul all those 4's home with ya!  Good on ya, glad to hear the news. Thanks for the insight you've given here, looking forward to hearing updates on your new adventures home. Blessed be!!!

    by ZaphodsSister on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 10:32:33 AM PDT

  •  Some info for you...

    Since you mentioned you would be looking for a wheelchair-accessible apartment, I have a couple of legal tips for you.

    -- Most apartment complexes built for first occupancy after March 13, 1991, SHOULD be accessible on the ground floor.  All units served by an elevator should be accessible.  By "accessible," I don't mean grab bars, low cabinets and all that, but more basic stuff like wide enough doorways, no steps, maneuverable bathrooms and kitchens, outlets and thermostats you can reach, etc.  However, a lot of architects ignored the law and continue constructing inaccessible complexes.

    This law applies to condos as well - all "covered multifamily housing" regardless of ownership setup.

    -- If you move into an older apartment or house and need a ramp or other accessibility features, you have the right to put them in at your own expense unless their installation would create a problem for others - i.e., a ramp that blocks others' access to their own units, etc.

    -- If you move into a place that's government subsidized, often the complex will be financially responsible for the modifications.

    Feel free to visit our web site at http://www.fairhousing.com for more info.  If you have any specific questions, there's a contact form on the site, and those messages come straight to me.

    Thank you for your service, and good luck!

    by bolgia7 on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 01:05:07 PM PDT

  •  You, me, a beer

    and a Hornets game!!

    I live up the highway a piece in Edmond and have a wheel-chair accesible minivan (for my kid).  When you get all settled in let all the OK dkos'ers know and we can  do a "Hell's night out" thing!!

    Good luck and welcome home.

    I'll put an email addy in my profile for contact purposes.
    

    by Kay Autic on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 01:23:54 PM PDT

    •  Awesome!

      What a kind & generous offer. THIS is why I like dKos so much.

      Mike

      PS - And if I lived anywhere near OK, I'd join you!

      by mlkisler on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 03:15:35 PM PDT

  •  Peace out

    and keep us posted, and most of all, congratulations on making your way home.  :D

    by celticshel on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 04:00:45 PM PDT

•  Congratulations!

  And good luck to you!

  by Ranting Roland on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 04:56:50 PM PDT

•  Godspeed

  I wish you and your father a safe and happy journey home to start the next phase of your life.

  by mlk on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 04:59:28 PM PDT

  •  And come home...

    And we'll be anxiously waiting for your 'homecoming' back to us at dKos.  We still need to hear what you have to say!

    by cRedd on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 11:25:55 PM PDT

•  Excellent, I'm smiling for you

  And thanks for being here at dkos.  Good luck to you and your family too.  I bet your parent's are really happy about this.

  by yet another liberal on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 04:59:36 PM PDT

•  Keep your head up!

  Good luck!

  Do NOT forget us......

  by 0hio on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 04:59:40 PM PDT

  •  Thanks, and I won't:) n/t

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:01:34 PM PDT

    •  If there's anything you need,

      let us know.  We may not be rich around here, but we do whatever we can.

      Let your family and friends take care of you for a while when you get home, even if you don't need it.  It'll help them get over missing you.

      Bless you, and thank you for your service.

      by jandey on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:33:00 PM PDT

      •  RetreatHell

        What jandey said.

        by Carnacki on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:56:35 PM PDT

•  Good on ya, Bud!

  Good luck, Godspeed, and the like.  Look forward to seein' you back here.

  by baba durag on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:01:01 PM PDT

•  Best wishes

  always remember that you can do it..I expect to hear from you down the road as a writer..so best wishes.

  by ohcanada on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:01:34 PM PDT

•  Congrats!!! (n/t)

  by BlueInARedState on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:02:50 PM PDT

•  I'll miss your diaries!

  Look forward to when you can write your diaries again, I found them to be compelling reading. But I am so happy for you. The very best of luck to you.

  by BCO gal on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:03:11 PM PDT

•  Get settled in ...

  then hurry back soon. Couldn't be happier for you.

  by SusanG on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:04:10 PM PDT

  •  RH, you won't be able to stay away for long

    dKos is like a damn drug i tell ya, you'll be jonesin' for some 4s before you know it!

    well OK, i was able to shake the habit for lent last year, so i'm sure you can too.  but once you get settled in, i hope you get back in touch.

    good news, good luck, godspeed and god bless.

    by zeke L on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:40:16 PM PDT

•  Good luck and when you come back...

  stick your head in over at the Cheers and Jeers diary. You'll get so many fours, you'll have your TU status back in 24 hours!
  
  Can't wait to see Part III of the 23 days, once your all healed up and all set up in your new digs.

  by Hoya90 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:05:51 PM PDT

  •  Hey there . . .

    You're right about ANGLICO.

    I was a navy officer assigned to 2nd ANGLICO at LeJeune from 1974-1977.  You're the only person who's ever even asked about it!  

    So . . . how come you know such obscure military trivia?

    by Anglico on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:13:22 PM PDT

    •  Had to define the term in a paper once

      I was writing about the U.S. presence in Lebanon 1982-1984 and there was an ANGLICO with the Marines in Beirut.
      
      It also helps to be a font of obscure trivia generally.

      by Hoya90 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:28:56 PM PDT

•  Congratulations

  Hope we hear from you in the not too distant future and that you enjoy the move homeward....Take care.

  by ksh01 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:06:44 PM PDT

•  It *is* good to be alive :-)

  Glad to hear you're going home to Moore OK. The diaries you wrote gave me a good picture of what was going on over there, and they were very much appreciated, and I look forward to more.

  Off topic...were you living in Moore in May 1999?  That's the time of that humongous F5 tornado that really tore things up.  Hope y'all were not too badly affected...I've seen the pictures and have a video (I'm quite a weather geek) from it and it wasn't pretty at all. :-(

  by billlaurelMD on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:08:50 PM PDT

  •  That tornado was a bitch!

    I was hiding out in the giant Papa Johns(where I worked then) refrigerator. But we didn't go into it until the last minute we had to. I've still to this day never seen a tornado of that size and power. It was an awesome, jaw-dropping sight.

    I wasn't directly affected, luckily. But alot of my friends were. I was helping clean up after that twister for months. I hope I never have to experience that kind of fear and powerlessness(is that a word?) again. It sucked...

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:15:53 PM PDT

    •  it sure is a word (powerlessness)

      sometimes I feel that way when too many republicans (I mean reactionary radical Christofascists) get their way.

      by billlaurelMD on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:17:11 PM PDT

    •  Across the river from Moore

      and I was one of those idiots who went under an overpass ... me and my husband holding our 2 dogs.  If we had been hit with a direct hit, my dog probably would have made it cause I had him crammed in a crevice between the ramps and the bridge itself.  One guy kept going out to look at the darn thing and giving us all an update. I was so scared (never been that scared before or since) he finally had pity on me and quit giving me an update.  When we drove away, I looked up into the clouds and there were little cyclonic swirls above us!

      We now have a storm cellar!  

      The tornado's path was about 100 - 200  yards from our house and we had small debris everywhere plus our houses were dobbed with mud!

      RetreatHell .... welcome home!  We're too old to party-down, but I'm sure glad you're making it home!  I have tons of cousins in Houston (all Republicans) and Oklahoma, as dry and windy and HOT as hell as it gets, is a whole lot better!  

      by Southern Mouth on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 04:30:53 PM PDT

•  Happy Trails, Retreat; Keep in Touch! :)

  by PhillyGal on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:10:18 PM PDT

•  congratulations, RH!

  that's awesome news. all the best, man and write that damn book!

  "after the Rapture, we get all their shit"

  It's time: the albany project.

  by lipris on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:10:27 PM PDT

•  Thank you!

  Thank you for sharing your storywith us. Thank you for letting us Know you get to go home. This diary gave me a little more hope than I had just 10 minutes ago. thank you again & make your trip home be safe.

  Jill

  by jeeugena on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:10:58 PM PDT

•  oh boy, now the adventure really begins

  good luck in your transition to "real life". get yourself settled in & comfortable. we'll be here when you're ready to start writing again. take good care.

  by rasbobbo on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:13:01 PM PDT

•  Good luck to you

  And let those Sooners know what you were fighting for.

  by TarheelDem on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:14:05 PM PDT

•  This is great news!

  All the best for the next stage of your life and please hurry back to Daily Kos.

  by Loquatrix on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:17:50 PM PDT

•  That's great news

  Keep keeping us posted. You rock!

  by mrblifil on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:18:16 PM PDT

•  Finally some good news.

  Congrats..you put a smile on my face. Let us know if you need anything when you get settled.

  by Chamonix on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:18:55 PM PDT

•  Godspeed

  Good Luck and best wishes.  Looking forward to your next diary.  

  by bloomer 101 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:19:27 PM PDT

•  HOOAAHH!!

  by The Baculum King on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:21:32 PM PDT

•  Looking forward to your posts

  Stay strong!

  by Bubby on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:21:39 PM PDT

•  I haven't caught your

  earlier diaries (due to daily life interfereing with my oh so valuble diary reading time) but congrats from me and my hubby (who is a grad of the class of 1986 of Moore High School)

  Be well and happy!

  by smokem2271 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:22:13 PM PDT

  •  Tell him

    I said "Go Lions!". That's where I graduated from. Of course that was in 2000-2001. Not that long ago.

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:35:33 PM PDT

•  Luck. Love, and thanks.

  Please do pop in for a minute somewhere and let us know how you are doing, till you get your next diary up.

  by emmasnacker on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:23:50 PM PDT

•  Good Luck

  It's GOOD to be alive! Good luck to you and thank you immensely for your service to our country. You are truly amazing!

  by cohe on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:24:48 PM PDT

•  Good Luck and...

  pass that copy of "Johnny Get Your Gun" around, that book can change lives, sure did for me.

  by blueyedace2 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:25:58 PM PDT

•  Good luck, man

  Keep healing.  

  by ChuckLin on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:26:40 PM PDT

•  Congratulations.

  It's great to hear.  Good luck to you, and your family.

  by Tod on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:26:45 PM PDT

•  Great news! And I had been wondering

  where the next installment of your story went.  Get back in touch as soon as you can--meanwhile, we'll miss you and your great writing.  

  by bibble on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:28:24 PM PDT

•  Please stay in touch.

  
  I'll be watching for you down the road. Thanks for staying in touch.

  You wrote some kick-ass diaries.

  Hugs from another mom,
  H.

  by hoolia on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:28:43 PM PDT

•  Speed of God to you

  I've read your diaries since you starting posting them.  You've faced challenges I could only imagine, there and here. That's simply marvelous you are going home finally.  Absolute best of luck to you in the future.

  by Rey Mota on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:28:54 PM PDT

•  Best of luck

  to you. Please keep us updated on how things are going for you.

  I can't imagine how good it will feel to be home after that long a stay in the hospital.

  I'm sure your family is estastic?

  by Ga6thDem on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:30:09 PM PDT

•  would you mind emailing me?

  yearlykos at gmail dot com

  by gina on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:31:30 PM PDT

•  I've sorta followed your diaries

  but missed the ones which explained where you lived.

  Being in the middle of Red World I'm wondering how your family, friends and acquaintenances will be when you tell them you've been talking to the ultimate left-wingers here at dKos.

  Anyway, good luck to you and please be sure to come back often.

  by CanYouBeAngryAndStillDream on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:34:13 PM PDT

  •  My father (A Repub)

    has already taken notice in my change. He's always making a bunch of snarky comments now when we're watching the news together, because we don't agree on anything now. But it makes for good debates with him.

    And I don't have to worry about any of my close friend's views, because they could care less about anything unless it affects them directly. They always tell me to chill out.

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:40:39 PM PDT

    •  "Semper Fi, Marine!"

      A salute and blessings to you & yours!

      by majcmb1 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:27:31 PM PDT

    •  You are proof...

      ...that what goes on out in the world does affect them directly.  Whether they know it, or admit to it.

      by ABBinMI on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 11:24:47 AM PDT

•  Johnny Get Your Gun

  Over the weekend I asked my friend from high school (33 years ago) if he remebered reading Johnny Get Your Gun. He said sure.

  It is one of the books that changed my life. I talk about it with my college students. (I teach.) I remember lending Johnny Get Your Gun to my grandfather after I finished it. He liked it but said it struck very close to home. He served in WW I. Joined up at 17. Was shell shocked and gassed. Went on to live a very productive life. I know how to properly fold an American flag becasue of him.

  Good luck man. May you too show your grandchildren how to fold a flag.

  by Better Days on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:37:24 PM PDT

•  Can I get contact information again?

  Please excuse me, I missed the diary where an address or email address was given.

  I would have done something.  I still will if I've got a way.

  Please take care.  Please write again.  I wish ...I wish I did not sound so smarmy sometimes, my wife says I'm a drama queen given half the chance.

  Peace be with you.  You're not alone.

  by paradox on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:38:28 PM PDT

  •  My email's in my profile,

    and the address I gave in a diary a little more than a month ago is no good after Saturday, because it's my hospital address, and I'm leaving. And I'm for damn sure not giving my home address to all you crazies:)

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:44:32 PM PDT

    •  lol

      Sometimes I don't think, of course it would be in your profile.

      I will write soon.

      by paradox on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:29:29 PM PDT

•  yayy!!!

  very much appreciate your writing here, and even more glad to hear you're going home.
  heal well, write soon, have fun.

  by Terri on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:38:36 PM PDT

•  Best News of the DAY!!!

  Happy as hell for you. Looking forward to reading the rest of the series once you've settled in back home.

  by boadicea on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:39:53 PM PDT

•  RetreatHell

  my dad is in a wheelchair and lives in OKC at the Pheasant Run Apartments, NW 63 @ Meridian...I'm sure OKC has plenty of apartments vacant these days but I do know that is one possibility.

  by BlueInARedState on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:41:40 PM PDT

•  Have a great trip home

  Keep us posted on your progress!

  by I like Ike on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:41:45 PM PDT

•  Thanks for sharing the good news! And...

  do you have a computer of your own?

  by roses on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:41:54 PM PDT

  •  Yeah I use my

    laptop here at the VA, and will buy a PC when I get my own apt in a few weeks/month. I'm all about the techno toys!

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:48:38 PM PDT

    •  That's good...

      I didn't want the lack of a computer to keep you from posting here. I don't think I've commented in your diaries before, but I always read them and I appreciate your sharing your experiences with us. I'm very happy for you tonight.

      by roses on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:53:34 PM PDT

•  Retreathell...until we meet again

  May the road rise to meet you,
  May the wind be always at your back,
  May the sun shine warm upon your face,
  The rains fall soft upon your fields and,
  Until we meet again,
  May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

  I am going to order that book for my son today.  He still wants to join the Army so maybe I can get him to read it.  I never heard of it but it sounds like it may deter him from wanting to join.

  by pmob5977 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:42:22 PM PDT

  •  Yes!

    That book was the start of changing from a somewhat militarized reserve brat into a full on peacenik. Should be required reading!

    by blueyedace2 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:58:28 PM PDT

    •  err....

      should read "changing me"... Must not post on dKos while on the phone with programmer....

      by blueyedace2 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:59:34 PM PDT

•  Chiming in!

  What great news!  I hope the transition is smooth for you and you start posting again as soon as you can.

  by Naranjadia on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:43:14 PM PDT

•  Hip Hip

  Horray...

  by goodwill on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:43:28 PM PDT

•  Best of luck!

  Can't wait to read the first book you have published!

  by superba on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:44:24 PM PDT

•  best thing I've read today

  Make that this week.

  Please hurry back.

  by newfie53523 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:44:59 PM PDT

•  Great news!

   Have a great life and keep in touch please!

  P.S.Sorry I missed your diaries. Husband has had 2 surguries in the last 4 months.

  by arkdem on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:45:55 PM PDT

•  I don't know about OKC or Moore

  but is there a military base or a VA hospital where you will be able to continue to receive care?  My biggest concern for all those injured is that you will not be near a VA center to take care of your medical problems.  They have closed so many facilities. I hope there is one nearby for you.

  by iceblue on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:46:40 PM PDT

  •  It's actually only a

    fifteen minute drive to the OKC VA. So it's not a problem getting there. The problem is that it's the second-to-worst VA in the nation, right below the NOLA VA, which I hear is the worst one. That's why I came here to Houston as an inpatient, even though it's far a shit away from home, it's a modern hospital and they specialize in SCIs. Basically, OKC VA SUCKS!

    And we also have Tinker AFB there in the city too. So I don't have it too bad there in OKC, at least as an outpatient anyways.

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:53:40 PM PDT

•  This is our year..

  We will be here if you need us...We need you to help us get these jerks out.I recommend getting in touch with cindy if you need help, she has a lot of contacts..This is our year...

  by bayside on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:48:14 PM PDT

•  Woohoooo!

  Great news!  Little teary-eyed, here.  We'll be right here while you get settled.  Good luck to you and your folks.  Big adjustment for all.  But a good one.

  I'm so happy for you RH.

  Come back soon.

  by CJB on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:54:21 PM PDT

•  Hang in there

  Transitioning to civilian life is going to be a high hurdle. I have no doubts you'll do fine, but people and things are going to test the hell out of your patience.

  Today I had a conversation with one of our people who lost his hand to a sniper in Tal Afar... a relatively minor wound, compared to what you're dealing with. Still, he's got three surgeries and an MEB in front of him.

  Guys like you two are my heroes.

  by Oregon guy on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:55:34 PM PDT

•  missed you last Friday

  I logged on my home computer specifically to read "Part III," and when I didn't see it, I worried that something had happened to you.  Wishing you all the best from Tampa, Fla.

  by eightlivesleft on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:56:57 PM PDT

•  Come to Colorado

  Its only a state away from OK, and we have Evans Army Hospital @ Fort Carson and all the AF facilities here in the Springs, and the VA in Denver is supposed to be top-notch.

  Plus, I'd love to buy you a beer, or a root beer, or whatever you drink.

  by Oregon guy on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:57:04 PM PDT

•  best of luck to you, brother!

  I just went back and re-read your first war diary, and that was only 2 months ago. It's obvious from all these comments that you've made a difference at this community in such a short period of time. Keep on keeping on! I look forward to hearing from you in the future here.

  by sadair on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:57:42 PM PDT

•  Great news

  Best of luck, and congratulations!

  by Devin on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:58:30 PM PDT

•  I'm so happy for you.

  I've been following your diaries since you started posting, and your good news is a bright spot in what has been a hard week for me.  Its just the kind of news I needed to hear.  I wish you all of the best and look forward to your return.

  by Ellicatt on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:58:52 PM PDT

•  And a BIG Wooo-Hoo

  from Seattle!

  God speed.  Keep us in your thoughts.  You're in ours!  la

  by LarisaW on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 05:59:09 PM PDT

•  Life is good ...

  and I am really happy that I got to read your diary just now.  There will be some cold days on the plains soon, and a Blue Norther or two might blow through.  But catch a sunrise at Draper, and know that the glow of the sun is nothing compared to all the love, admiration, and affection that a kossack nation has for you.

  And don't let them forget:  you haven't even started to fight!

  by Dustbowl Observer on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:01:47 PM PDT

•  wonderful

  best of luck to you.  Thank you for writing your diaries, and I hope that you continue them once you're home.

  by maracuja on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:02:15 PM PDT

•  Awww Sweetie...

  I'm so glad to hear that news.  I'm teary now thinking of your such good news.  I'm so happy for you.  Please know all of our good thoughts and wishes are there with you... I know you know that.  I'm just so happy to hear this for you right now...  Take care and be well.  And stay in touch.  Please.  Good for you sweetie.

  by shermanesq on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:03:23 PM PDT

•  Yeehah!!

  Mom's home cookin' just around the corner!

  We'll be here, waiting to hear from you. :-)

  by teresab on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:07:39 PM PDT

•  Yay!

  I'm so happy for you! I am in awe of your sacrifice and your amazing attitude.  My Dad became a spinal cord injury patient at the age of 24 (he's 71 now), and I've spent my life around pars and quads with varying degrees of abilities.  Wheelchairs, loft strands, hand controls, straight-cathing, etc. were always just a part of my life.  Some of the most successful and wonderful people I have had the privilege of knowing view the world from a chair and fall down a lot.  I have been blessed to have been touched by them, especially my Dad, and dKos is blessed to count you among us.  Please continue to share, the good and the bad, we'll be here for you.

  In the meantime I'm happy to celebrate with you today...you're going HOME!  The best medicine.

  by poe on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:08:43 PM PDT

  •  That's uplifting about your dad...

    I'm 24 now, and was 21 when I was shot. I always wonder if I'll live a full and happy life. And since your father was injured at a young age, as was I, and he led a long happy life with a family, then I know I can do the same. If your father did it with all the crappy equip he had back in the day, then my life should be a piece of cake, and very do-able.

    I know ya probably didn't intend to, but you just inspired me with your details about your father......thanks:)

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:24:17 PM PDT

    •  Well, now you've gone and done it...

      You had to make me cry?  I inspired you?  You have that quite backwards, my friend. : )

      BTW, if you're so inclined, see about joining a wheelchair basketball team when you get settled.  Some of my happiest childhood memories are of wathcing the Detroit Sparks kick ass.  Those guys were something else...they played regulation from their chairs.  To this day the best b-ball I've ever seen!

      by poe on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:10:12 PM PDT

      •  naw man

        it is all about the wheelchair rugby.  ever seen murder ball?  those guys are bad asses.

        by juls on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:42:38 PM PDT

•  best of wishes

  And make sure to keep in touch with us!

  ( P.S. go visit grandma)

  by Fabian on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:09:08 PM PDT

•  Good to Go

  Glad you are going to finally make it home.  I enjoyed your diaries and hope you don't forget to come back and write more soon.  I think you are still serving this country, thank you.

  by DeadB0y on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:10:26 PM PDT

•  Good luck

  I'm psyched for you.
  I hope you find a great place.
  We'll see you 'round here when you get back.

  by justme on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:16:01 PM PDT

•  I have really enjoyed your diaries!

  even though they sometimes make me cry.  It is terrific that you are going home.  Write again soon and let us know how the transition home goes.  Don't be surprised if you find yourself feeling down and by all means log onto Daily Kos for support if you do!  

  by flo58 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:21:25 PM PDT

•  Home, home, home!

  Nothing's better. So happy for you. We'll look forward to hearing from you again once you're settled!

  by garbo on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:24:15 PM PDT

•  Best of

  You may never want to see a VA Hospital again, but make sure you demand and get every bit of treatment you deserve.  I've known vets who are so hardened against the VA that they won't get continuing care, which kind of makes me crazy but at the same time I can't blame them.  

  Anyway, BEST OF EVERYTHING to you, and we'll be e-talking again soon.

  by Bob Love on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:28:15 PM PDT

•  Hugs RH

  I have lots of family in that area.  If you need anything let me know. I'm in Ohio but have many cousins all around OKC, Norman, Tulsa, etc.

  by Margot on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:28:17 PM PDT

•  May God

  give you the strength to do what you want to do, be what you dream to be and grace you to inspire others.

  by Ruffledfeather on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:30:40 PM PDT

•  Welcome home

  My thoughts and prayers ae with you.  

  by elveta on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:33:21 PM PDT

•  you're gonna do fine.

  how do i know?

  because you're out there living life, even if it's just in cyberspace for now. attitude is everything, and you've got atttitude :)

  by campskunk on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:33:23 PM PDT

•  Best of luck

  and thank you.

  by EeDan on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:34:15 PM PDT

•  Best of luck

  and I hope it's a smooth trip back home.

  by LindainCinci on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:37:09 PM PDT

•  First time hearing of you

  Big time happy for your home coming.
  I have a brother who's a quadreplegic. I've watched him struggle through pressure sores and surgeries to fix them. I know it's not easy but he's done well and gone on to college and lead a pretty wild life for a while after he got hurt. I always made sure to be seen with him cuz he was never short of company if you know what I mean ;o)
  Your spirits sound high. Thank you for what you've done and I'm going to have to read your diaries now.

  Peace

  by supersoling on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:46:33 PM PDT

•  Big smoochie!

  Good luck and God Bless!

  Enjoy yourself!  ;-)

  by xyz on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:50:34 PM PDT

•  Hey Retreat

  I really enjoy reading your observations and posts. Take care of yourself, and make sure to drink plenty of fluids and get someone to get you some books on tape. They were so helpful when my husband was recovering in his chair and unable to hold a book. Anyway, God speed, and all the best to you.

  Nails

  by Nails on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 06:58:36 PM PDT

  •  I'm always drinking my water

    to flush the ol' kindneys! And I luckily have full hand and upper-extremity movement(I'm a T-12 Asia-A), so I can do whatever with my hands and upper body. If I got books on tape, that would make me lazy;)

    Not to mention if my Physical Therapist found out I was cuttin' corners by buying books on tape. He would lecture and chew me out for hours!

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:16:15 PM PDT

•  Hat's off to you...

  And all my best.

  by luckydog on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:06:38 PM PDT

•  Sooooooooooooooooo happy for you!

  Have a great trip home...and thanks for sharing your tales and excitement with us.

  All the best, RetreatHell!

  by ilona on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:06:40 PM PDT

•  fantastic news!!!

  you made my day!  I'm so glad you are coming home to stay!  Blessings to you as you transition into civilian life.

  by TrueBlueMajority on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:07:57 PM PDT

•  Best to you

  and love your diaries, they are filled with insight, emotion and well written.

  May your new journey be a wonderful one, and please keep us informed about how you are doing.

  Take care and know we are all, in some way, there rooting you on.

  by SanJoseLady on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:08:00 PM PDT

•  Great News

  So glad you are heading home.  Hope things are nothing but better for you from here on.  Hugs.

  by skptk on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:12:25 PM PDT

•  I'm hoping you read all of these comments

  because I'll guarantee you that everybody here wants to send a message of goodwill to you.  Thank you for your work. You're our hero.  Wishes for the best -- and whatever you need, you have an audience and a huge family here.

  by busternjake on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:13:20 PM PDT

  •  I read each and

    every one of them. Always have, always will. But all these nice comments here are making me all damn teary eyed. So many nice people with so many nice things to say. I just hope my time away from Dkos while I find a place and get moved in and situated won't be too long.

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:22:53 PM PDT

•  I'm very happy for you!

  I know your joy to be free again and on your own. May the goodness in your heart bring forth a wonderful future life. I knew that things would finally start getting better for you. Don't forget to let everyone here know how you're doing. Best wishes in your coming endevors!

  by raster44 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:18:00 PM PDT

•  Sent ya an email n/t

  by jabbausaf on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:19:11 PM PDT

•  congrats!

  very very happy for you!!!!!

  by OrangeClouds115 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:19:43 PM PDT

•  No place like home. Glad you're going there,

  I have really enjoyed your diaries - and your lively spirit.

  May your life be long and full of adventures. This is just the beginning...

  As my old partner used to say, "keep everlastingly at it."

  by perro amarillo on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:23:24 PM PDT

•  You're being sprung!

  Congrats - you're getting out! Fresh air, privacy, better food (for sure).  I had to stay in a hospital for a rather long time, and the day I got out, I couldn't stop laughing or grinning.
  I think it's because it seems somebody gave you your life back.

  I look forward to your return and those diaries you promised!

  With your wit and outstanding sense of humor, you're all set.

  Hugs and kisses!

  by Mary Julia on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:23:33 PM PDT

•  Safe travels.

  by Five of Diamonds on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:24:45 PM PDT

•  Yea! Great News!

  by dangangry on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:30:10 PM PDT

•  It's not luck

  if you deserve it. Best of everything in your new life. Don't be a stranger.

  by northsylvania on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:35:48 PM PDT

•  So glad to hear you're going home

  I am sure that you will do well on your own.

  Please don't forget us though if for some reason you experience any problems.

  My email address is on my profile. Feel free to write me anytime if you want.

  by NYC Sophia on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 07:37:57 PM PDT

•  Onward and upward to you!

  You have been a gift to me, and if there is anything that I can do, just whistle. If you are ever in Chicago, our home is open to you. And it's wheelchair accessible.

  Just promise you will never let anyone (including yourself) tell you there is nothing that you cannot do. Good luck untl we hear from you again. [Air Kiss]

  by highfive on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:01:20 PM PDT

•  Hey, Way to go!

  I can't imagine how great it must feel to finally be going home and working towards getting your own place and starting your life again.  Awesome!

  by HappyMichBlogger on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:03:50 PM PDT

•  Don't be gone too long.,....

  Wish you good luck?   Of course, but I don't think you need luck.  You are going to make it with flying colors no matter what happens.  Look at your record--  you have never let a lttle bad luck or adversity get you down.   But I do hope life becomes a little less challenging for you.

  Again, "thanks" for sharing your story.  I feel honored to read it and I like to think of you not as only one wounded soldier, but as a voice for so many I will never meet or have the opportunity to read e-nails from.  You put a human face on what could all too easy be forgotten.  

  You and your Dad have a coonecting time as you start this new chapter in your life.  It will make a great chapter in your book.  

  Look forward to your next posting.

  God speed and God  Bless.
  Danny

     

  by doberg on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:06:31 PM PDT

•  Peace. Happiness. Home.

  You have still more to contribute, so keep on going on.  And writing.  And send some pics.

  by JPete on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:07:25 PM PDT

•  Thank You

  Your story has provided understanding of a perspective I wouldn't otherwise have access to. Good luck to you!

  by Lepidus on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:07:46 PM PDT

•  Congratulations on going home!

  I lived in Oklahoma City for a couple of  years a long while ago and I have to say, the best people ever, kind and gracious.  I'm sure you're glad to be getting back there.  Please keep in touch.  I've enjoyed reading  your diaries.  My Dad was a disabled WWII Vet.  I just happened to be looking at his dog tags, medals and patches from his uniform today.(Wish we would have saved the whole uniform)  He was always proud of his service and I looked up to him for it.  I am amazed by your positive outlook.  Best Wishes to you and thank you.

  by churchlady on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:11:20 PM PDT

•  Where are you from?

  Would you consider a run for Congress?

  by jkfp2004 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:20:46 PM PDT

  •  Moore, Oklahoma

    And I don't think I could ever play that dirty game. I'd screw myself by being too honest, having too much common sense, and by not giving a damn what the poll numbers are about me.

    That and I'm only 24. But who knows, maybe in a few years I'll develop an intrest in running for a local office and see where it leads me.

    Ya never know. As the kids in those McDonalds commercials used to say, "It could happen"!

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:39:56 PM PDT

    •  Do it

      You have more wisdom than 60% of the congresscritters already there!

      by Ed in Montana on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:55:16 PM PDT

    •  Run. Please

      by melvin on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 01:03:21 AM PDT

•  I am

  so happy for you!

  Enjoy being home. Don't rush it, but don't forget us.You are an inspiration.

  Keep writing. You have the power.

  by kpardue on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:26:34 PM PDT

•  RH, don't forget to take

  Omega-3 -- good old Fish oil,lemon flavored! Pretend it's Tequila ;-) I'm serious, it's very good for healing.
  Good luck to you, and please keep writing.

  by Petrasays on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:29:13 PM PDT

  •  I also take omega-3

    fish oil, it's not only for healing, but it it's also good for the brain. I know a couple people that take it to help with depression and one person takes it to help with arthritis.  Best stuff ever made!!

    Good luck adjusting to home.  Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    by Babsnc on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 06:28:29 AM PDT

    •  Fish oil-great stuff

      I used to have really bad hip pain, it hurt to walk. I started taking fish oil and poof..pain is gone. The only thing I don't like about many brands is the fish taste that comes with burping.

      I found a great brand by purity products called advanced omegaberry. They add berries to the oil so now if I burp, I get fruit salad!

      by michelle on Thu Jan 12, 2006 at 10:40:51 AM PDT

•  YEEEEEEEHAAAAAAAWWWW!!!

  That's wonderful news.  Congrats and good luck with the apartment search and all.  Look forward to hearing from you when you're all settled in.

  by mikepridmore on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:37:45 PM PDT

•  I was kind of busy over the holidays...

  so tonight is the first chance I have had to read your diaries.  

  Keep up the writing and the healing.  Your story touches me because not only do I have children close to your age, (their ages range from 15 to almost 22) but my sister is also a Major in the army.  She is a hospital administrator and injured soldiers end up under her command.

  I am glad that you made it out alive and if you haven't discovered "The Daily Show" on Comedy Central, please check it out.  It the best real "fake" news you will ever get!

  by thefos on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:49:02 PM PDT

  •  I LOVE the

    "Daily Show"! But I don't get Comedy Central here at the hospital, so I haven't seen it in over a year now. But I can't wait to get my daily show fix when I get home. I've been having withdrawls from comedy central, FX, HBO and many other channels and programs since I arrived here in Oct of 2004!

    by RetreatHell on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:56:55 PM PDT

•  I can only say "Get Well"

  and am glad you have a life again.

  by irishwitch on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 08:49:41 PM PDT

•  Woooo Hoooo!!!

  Going home!

  by kredwyn on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:00:01 PM PDT

•  We know you belong to the land....

  ...and that the land that you live in is Grand. I wondered where you were last Friday, now I know. I'm excited for you and the life you have ahead of you, which is different than the life you may have imagined, but you are the type of person who will make it happen. Look at the ripple of emotion you caused here. You make a grown man cry.  

  There is no homecoming like an Okie homecoming, so get ready.  I know, because I spent many summers back there visiting family. Y'all come back now!

  by Bensdad on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:01:42 PM PDT

•  I'm a moron

  according to my daughter. Since I grew up in Moore, Oklahoma and graduated from Moore High School. (There was only one HS in Moore in 1970). I live near Tulsa now but most of my family still lives in or near Moore so my wife and I visit there every few weeks. I've really enjoyed your diaries and was wondering about the latest installment. Happy to hear about your good newsand I'd be happy to buy you a beer when I'm visiting the Moore/OKC area.

  by sf on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:03:27 PM PDT

•  Raise Hell

  Keep up the diary!
  Best of luck, better yourself and your country by kicking ass back home. Why not start in Oklahoma?

  by easong on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:03:27 PM PDT

•  RetreatHell

  Thank you for your service... in Iraq and at Daily Kos

  Thank you for your courage
  Thank you for your insight
  Thank you for your honesty
  Thank you for sharing
  Thank you for your optimism
  Thank you for teaching
  Thank you for being willing to learn
  Thank you for not ever giving up.

  My best to you and your family as you embark on this new direction in your journey.
  

  by Sagittarius on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:04:06 PM PDT

•  An honor to have communicated with you!

  Thank you for joining us and all my best.

  by anotherCt Dem on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:07:56 PM PDT

•  Great News!

  Thanks so much for posting here.  My dad (WW II) stayed alive due to the V.A., so keep on asking for - -no, demanding! - -what you need. And let us know if they're not treating you right.
  Stay in touch.

  by maryru on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:23:53 PM PDT

•  Best news all day!

  I am so damn glad to hear it. I was a little worried when I missed your Friday entry. Say, keep an eye out for SoonerGrunt. He's a senior noncom in the Guard who can't be too far from you - hell of a good guy.

  Just remember in the odd moment you need a lift, a few hundred or thousand people here think you have tremendous talent, and expect you to do big things.

  Good luck!

  by Pacific John on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:32:44 PM PDT

•  Great news!

  So much love to you! I hope you continue to heal up, physically and emotionally.

  by Topaz7 on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 09:52:42 PM PDT

•  Heartiest Congrats! wOOt!

  So delighted to hear your news.  You've worked, and waited, with determination to defeat those sores.  This is just the greatest thing--thanks for sharing it with us. We'll be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers as you move and readjust--even good stuff is a little stressful sometimes, but you know we'll be hear to get the scoop when you can get back on line.  So behave (or don't get caught!), take extra special care of your skin, and enjoy, enjoy.

  by gazingoffsouthward on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 10:31:29 PM PDT

•  yay home!

  that will feel good, i'm sure.  do keep us posted!

  by Cedwyn on Wed Jan 11, 2006 at 11:32:53 PM PDT

•  Best to you RetreatHell