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Conversations With a Wingnut Mom

Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:10:04 AM PDT

I talk to my mom about politics all the time. She was a Goldwater Republican in college and we disagree on just about everything all the time. However, there's nothing more enlightening than speaking to a real wacked out wingnut Republican. Here are some of the things I've gathered and strategies for dealing with them in conversation:

They aren't big fans of the war.

My mom feels like this whole war was "mismanaged". She believes we should have gone in an nuked any palace Hussein might have been in and then just left. She believes that helping them build their nation is a bad thing and is why we're in so much trouble. Oh, and she also believes weapons of mass destruction were shipped to Syria.
When you hear something like this spouted from a wingnut it's just best to let it go. Anything that drives war dissatisfaction is just fine in my book. I don't care how they get there, just THAT they get there. Arguing against any of these gems is going to be like trying to teach a pig to fly, because lack of evidence doesn't prove anything to these people.

Iran is interfering in Iraq because they're evil.

Mom believes all the propoganda about Iran arming the Sunni insurgents. She also believes that the author of the Muslim religion is Satan, so it's not a far stretch, I guess, to believe Iran would sow discord and chaos inside of it's close neighbor, Iraq.

This one is really awesome because even someone who thinks in black and white (hi, Mom) can understand this simple equation: Iraqi insurgents=Sunni. Saudi Arabia=Sunni. Osama bin Laden=Sunni. Al Qaeda=Sunni. Iraqi government=Shia. Iran=Shia. Iran wouldn't arm Sunnis when they're Shia. (Yes, gross simplification, but so what?)

By the way, the rebuttal is (get ready) "I didn't say it was the Iranian government doing it. There's a porous border." To which, I replied, "So we shouldn't go to war against the Iranian government who could actually put a stop to this, should we?"

Our army is stretched to the breaking point.

Yeah, this one doesn't need a rebuttal, but it's good to reinforce and start asking questions about those 30,000 soldiers who are "coming home any time now" because we've had such a "huge success" with the surge. Let the wingnut prattle on a while about how great that is and then tell 'em that those 30,000 people are coming home because our President has no choice. Then sucker punch them with the 15 months out, 12 months back thing. This worked for REALLY great effect with mom.

Now might also be a good time to attack Petraeus and his halo. Tell your victim/wingnut that Petraeus was grading himself, that he has political ambitions, and that he's been for the surge the whole time. So the damn "But he's perfect and unbiased!" thing is a huge crock.

There's a huge deficit because Bush appeased the Democrats by spending so much.

I nearly spewed coffee from my nose with this one. Here's the reasoning: In the first two years of the Bush Presidency, Bush passed NCLB and Medicare part D (Edit thanks NoMoJoe) to appease Dem senators. Because of this, we've spent ourselves into debt.

I couldn't help getting a little riled at this one, but here's the way the rant/smackdown went: NCLB was a big fat duping of the Dems who got on board. It's a way to get more fed control of schools, prove that public education is a big failure, and hey, it wasn't even a funded mandate anyway, dammit.

Medicare part B, as we all know was a Rovian scheme passed to steal older voters from Dems, and wasn't funded with a tax increase or anything (so we're, as I love to tell Republicans, borrowing money from Communist China which dilutes our currency and makes your dollars worth less.)

Of course, the most hypocritical thing is "both parties are at fault" which is a big one that disaffected Republicans always fall back on. They can't seem to bring themselves to criticize JUST the Republican party. They'll criticize Dems or they'll criticize both parties for doing something "they all do anyway" but never EVER will they single out Republicans. This trait, my friends, is how you can identify a true, red throated wingnut.



So did any of this do any good? Not really. Mom thinks Ron Paul is the answer to all our nation's ills. Of course, she has no idea what she'll do when he loses the primary. I like to use that time in the conversation to point out that all the others are true believers in this war and that they've all lined right up behind Bush. She has no idea who she'll vote for, but she's in the anyone but Hillary crowd. (By the way, Bill cheated with Monica and it was okay because, "Look who he's married to.") At the very least, my mom is ideologically pure. She's handicapped and gets Social Security but she hates both it and Medicare. So I (in a moment of ire) told her I was going to run for office, kill SS, kill Medicare, and make her live under my roof and under my rules, dammit.

Oh, and before any of you damn bleeding hearts get your panties in a bunch, I told mom I loved her and I always have fun talking to her. The old bird needs someone to spar with every now and again. It keeps you from going senile or something.

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  •  Complaining about the media (32+ / 0-)

    is fun, but it doesn't get us anywhere. Going out and talking to the unwashed masses is where we need to improve. Have you talked to your local wingnut lately?

    The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

    by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:03:17 AM PDT

    •  Um, sorry . . . (20+ / 0-)

      I can't go out and talk to my local wingnuts.  I'd end up strangling them and they would certainly end up shooting me.

      Kudos to you for being able to take it, though.

      Bill Sali is an absolute lunatic

      by Idaho Guy on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:09:42 AM PDT

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      •  Frankly (0+ / 0-)

        all it takes is a malicious sense of humor and a willingness to use it against friends and family.

        The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

        by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 08:02:55 AM PDT

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    •  We don't have local wingnuts (3+ / 0-)

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      where I live, but I frequently talk to my wingnut uncle.

      "Intelligence and stupidity have no limits. Unfortunately it looks like stupidity has won" -Arsene Wenger

      by brownsox on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:29:40 AM PDT

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    •  My sympathies for your mother's illness (1+ / 0-)

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      Here we are now Entertain us I feel stupid and contagious

      by Scarce on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:51:18 AM PDT

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      •  Are you talking about (1+ / 0-)

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        her disability or the fact that she's a wingnut?

        Because she only needs sympathy for the latter, to tell the truth.

        The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

        by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:52:51 AM PDT

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        •  Her real disability is a mental illness (1+ / 0-)

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          ..not a physical one.

          Here we are now Entertain us I feel stupid and contagious

          by Scarce on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:54:30 AM PDT

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          •  She doesn't believe me when I tell her that. (1+ / 0-)

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            Yes, I'm mean to my mom. I'm a terrible person. She only forgives me because I can make her laugh.

            The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

            by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:55:23 AM PDT

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            •  Invoking Godwin here... (0+ / 0-)

              Hitler had some good ideas too.

              Here we are now Entertain us I feel stupid and contagious

              by Scarce on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:56:54 AM PDT

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            •  I think (0+ / 0-)

              it's hard to believe that this person who raised you, who probably had a huge part in actually making you a liberal, could believe the things she does.  I know that is the way I feel about my Mom.  She always was kind and fair to people and taught me to be the same.  I think there is a large group of people in this country who have been brain-washed by Rush and his ilk.  She was not happy when I told her one day that I thought Rush Limbaugh was one of this country's biggest traitors.

              The enumeration in the Constitution, of certain rights, shall not be construed to deny or disparage others retained by the people. - 9th Amendment

              by TracieLynn on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 09:08:17 AM PDT

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              •  Is your mother Sicilian? (1+ / 0-)

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                I think there is a large group of people in this country who have been brain-washed by Rush and his ilk.  She was not happy when I told her one day that I thought Rush Limbaugh was one of this country's biggest traitors.

                If so, I think she's related to my father. :o)

                I, too, cannot understand how it is that this man who I have loved with so much of my heart for all my life, a man who taught me decency, tolerance, and compassion, has turned into such a willing consumer of Rush, O'Reilly, and the like.

                He wasn't always like he is now.  His temper has gotten shorter (IMO not very conducive to someone who has had a stroke), he does not seem as happy as he used to be, he really, really hates it when I make a valid point (I realize that validity is/can be subjective, but in some cases it's not, and in those cases he still goes nuts).

                Right wing noise makers should preface their shows with the following:

                Watching or listening to us can be hazardous to your health.

                "You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." - Mae West

                by urbannie on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 09:49:42 AM PDT

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                •  No, she's not Sicilian (1+ / 0-)

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                  It seems wingnuttery isn't confined to any particular nationality.

                  As for your Dad being short-tempered.  This happened with my step-Dad after his heart attack.  He was always one of the easiest-going guys and is now quite often mad.  I think the medications they take has a large part to do with it - that and they had the crap scared out of them.

                  Best of luck with your Dad!

                  The enumeration in the Constitution, of certain rights, shall not be construed to deny or disparage others retained by the people. - 9th Amendment

                  by TracieLynn on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 10:19:10 AM PDT

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                  •  Thanks - and best of luck to you, too. (1+ / 0-)

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                    Heaven knows Dad takes enough medicine to kill a horse.

                    He's 78, and I sometimes wonder if he is simply angry about getting old and facing death.  

                    You'd think something as scary as a heart attack or stroke would send the message: "Chill out, dude!"

                    "You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." - Mae West

                    by urbannie on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 11:36:15 AM PDT

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    •  My Mom (1+ / 0-)

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      is the same way.  I know I've won the "discussion" when she has no response or throws that "both sides do it" argument at me.  I recently gave her Thom Hartmann's book, Screwed, to read.  She says she will read it.  I can't wait to hear what she has to say since I think Thom takes on the issues rather gently, but very persuasively, without attacking most Republicans outright.

      The enumeration in the Constitution, of certain rights, shall not be construed to deny or disparage others retained by the people. - 9th Amendment

      by TracieLynn on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 09:04:40 AM PDT

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  •  Fox News (4+ / 0-)

    Does you mom watch Fox News?

    Thrice is he armed who hath his quarrel just. Sherlock Holmes.

    by Carnacki on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:10:55 AM PDT

  •  I think you are in my family (4+ / 0-)

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    this conversation sounds so familiar :-)

    Senate passes expanded GI bill despite Bush, McCain http://www.salon.com/politics/war_room/2008/05/22/gi_bill/index.html opposition

    by ScienceMom on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:11:49 AM PDT

    •  I'm so sorry (3+ / 0-)

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      for your loss. ;)

      Look, if you have a sense of humor and a computer at hand you can do all sorts of things. Like when she said Chris Matthews was a huge liberal and hates Bush you pull up quotes about his sunny nobility. It's the easiest thing ever to counter the propoganda if you have facts (or Media Matters) at your fingertips.

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:16:38 AM PDT

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  •  Ok. Now you've finally pushed me into dispair. (3+ / 0-)

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    They believe the dems have something to do w/ the deficit?  

    Oh my.

    Maybe you should take her to the bridge in alaska.

  •  Thanks for Your Hard Work (5+ / 0-)

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    Arguing with a wingnut is hard enough, but arguing with one who can throw the old "I carried you in my womb for 9 months!" argument at you, well that takes real guts. :)

  •  father-inlaw (9+ / 0-)

    Used to do this with my father-inlaw. We loved to stay up late arguing and debating. But it was always friendly at heart. The conversations would be puctuated by the occasional "may I get you another drink." Drived my wife and her mom nuts. They worried the two of us were actually getting mad at each other. Not the case, the gentleman just liked a good argument. and I always hoped I would bring him around.

    But alas, we can no longer have such debates. Now it is a matter of comparing notes on just how much the GOP have fucked everything up. Bear in mind he lives in the suburbs of Flint, MI. Bush et. al. have managed to do what I never could: make this lifelove conservative hate the GOP.

    He was riveted when I showed him "Power of Nightmares." He didn't agree with everything, but he got the message he had been manipulated. He is pissed and has sworn off voting GOP forever. From a man that voted for Nixon.

    Looking forward to his visit this weekend. Just don't tell my wife.

    The Place of Dead Roads
    "The City of Louisiana has dodged the bullet with Hurricane Corrina."

    by Dr Benway on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:27:03 AM PDT

    •  I love to hear stories like this. (3+ / 0-)

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      More people need to take politics out of the Taboo Conversations List and talk freely. I had my formerly GOP boss voting Democrat in no time and we never had a rancorous conversation. Like I said previously, this needs to be our next goal: talk to Republicans or undecideds. See if you can change their thinking on something, ANYTHING!

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:41:38 AM PDT

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  •  Are we siblings? (3+ / 0-)

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    Sounds like my mom, she's disabled, and I think she's overdosed on Foxnews cuz she can't get out.  she has started to watch MSNBC more often though.

    •  My partner's widowed sister-in-law (3+ / 0-)

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      has Fox on 24/7.  It's obvious that it's a stretch for her to be in the same room with me.  She's appalled that I put an Obama bumper sticker on my mailbox (no signs allowed), not because he's only a dreaded democrat but horror of horrors, he's African American.

    •  Oh yeah, (2+ / 0-)

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      that came up when talking about the "liberal media". When they spout that, count the conservative commentators with them. Then they'll say the "big 3" network talking heads are Dems (with no basis to back it up, of course) and you can point to Katie Couric and give 'em the "Not so fast!" Of course, THEN you can say "Is it really fair to say the media is liberal when the pundits are almost all conservative and freely shill for their candidates but the anchors (even if you're right) play it straight and just report the news?"

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:39:59 AM PDT

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      •  I hate to reply to myself (1+ / 0-)

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        but it's really fun sometimes to start talking about how Republicans are FINALLY doing something you agree with and then go on for a while about something they're doing lately that even real conservatives would hate. Your wingnut will actually listen to you rather than tune you out, and will only belatedly realize you're yanking their chain.

        The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

        by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 08:07:54 AM PDT

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  •  You've got more patience than I (4+ / 0-)

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    Good for you that you've got the patience.  I'm the polar opposite of you.  

    I haven't spoken to one of my  sisters since Bush won reelection.  I pleaded with her not to vote for him, emailing her a list of reasons and talking to her frequently about it.  She laughed me off (literally).  First and foremost among those reasons was the republicans' treatment of gays and gay issues (I'm gay).  She kept saying that he's not like that at all.  I told to her to pray for us if he wins. It was the final straw for me.

    'It's not the greenhouse gases, it's the white house gases' - David Letterman

    by perky mcjuggs on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:33:00 AM PDT

    •  You need to talk to her. (1+ / 0-)

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      Here's an idea: call her on the phone socially and shoot the breeze. Don't mention politics at all. Maybe, at the end of the converstaion, tell her that you've converted to the Republican party. If she asks why, tell her it's that they're finally getting back to their fiscally conservative roots and that Bush is going to veto that damn health insurance for poor kids bill. Invoke a little social Darwinism and sign off the conversation.

      Nothing like a little Passive Aggressive with your morning coffee.

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 08:01:34 AM PDT

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      •  Ha ha! (0+ / 0-)

        That might work, but probably not.

        See, she don't know nothin' 'bout politicin' 'n that kind'a stuff.  I think she relies solely on her husband for her opinion; he to my horror supported Pat Buchanan for president in 1996.

        I emailed her once in 2004 with information I thought would be helpful, using language that would make an easy read.  I really thought that it would make a difference coming from her younger brother.  We were close once.

        Her reply - I'm not joking - was "Hee hee, you're so funny.  How's the weather out there?"

        'It's not the greenhouse gases, it's the white house gases' - David Letterman

        by perky mcjuggs on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 08:16:26 AM PDT

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  •  One more: how to debunk "we need domestic spying" (2+ / 0-)

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    That is usually along the lines of "If we don't spy, we'll have another 9/11".

    My response (to my late father - same situation, and he wasn't even American!): Terrorism killed around 3000 people in the last ten years in the USA. Car crashes kill 50,000 people every year. I'll take my chances with the terrorists!

    Army 1st Lt. Ehren T. Watada, Lt. Cdr USN Matthew Diaz, SPC Eli Israel: true American heroes.

    by sdgeek on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:33:22 AM PDT

    •  I was gonna include that one (2+ / 0-)

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      but I can't remember how I got to the "We just need to spy on non-citizens." I think I explained all the FISA exceptions that made sure the law didn't need to be broken or changed in the first damn place. But it was a bit ramble (mostly because I throw all sorts of other things in to keep her off balance.)

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:51:33 AM PDT

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    •  Argumentum ad baculum: appeal to force (1+ / 0-)

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      "If we don't do X, there will be bad consequences."

      As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly.

      by ticket punch on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 08:01:52 AM PDT

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  •  Part D -- for Drugs. Medicare Part B has (2+ / 0-)

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    been around since the beginning.

  •  my beloved sister in law (2+ / 0-)

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    Thinks that the good Clinton economic years were a legacy from Reagan.She is a Guiliani republican and is not socially conservative.For that I can stand to be around her.She also says that Jimmy Carter was the worst president in modern history.This is because of high interest rates at the time.George Bush is not responsible for any of the bad things that are happening today.None.Not one.
  •  "Both parties are at fault": tu quoque, right? nt (2+ / 0-)

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    As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly.

    by ticket punch on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:45:56 AM PDT

    •  Exactly! (2+ / 0-)

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      Her illogic is unassailable, though!

      So here's a redeeming things about her: Hates Hannity and Coulter. Why? "They're not funny. At least Rush is funny." (*BARF*)

      So I reminded her about Rush making fun of Michael J Fox's Parkinson's symptoms. Twas like a knife in the heart, that one.

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:49:07 AM PDT

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  •  I can't talk to wingnuts. (4+ / 0-)

    I'm not one of the left's Diplomatic Corps, put it that way.  I hear one sentence out of a wingnut, and my face contorts in ire, and my voice goes up 3 decibels as words like "You spectacular moron!" issue from my lips.

    Wingnut Outreach is best handled by people with patience, of which I have little to none.  It's the fact that they're so completely irrational that has me dragging my hair out in clumps within minutes of contact.  But see, it's best that I not get started, because it's your mother we're talking about.  

    Let's just say you have my sympathies with your situation, and my admiration in how you handle it!!

    •  Thank you very much. (2+ / 0-)

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      But I admit my wife came in the room around the time I was threatening the entire Social Security program just to spite my mom.

      The true Ben Franklin quote from Poor Richard's Almanack is "Sell not virtue to purchase wealth, nor Liberty to purchase power."

      by Andy30tx on Tue Sep 25, 2007 at 07:50:11 AM PDT

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  •  My Dad, my neighbors, now my mother in law, (4+ / 0-)

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    all seem to be Fox News Zombies.  Hate sells.  But here's what my husband and I did with my Dad...He came to visit with us for three weeks at Christmas.  Sat down first day with his martini and cheese and crackers at 5 pm to watch Bill-O.  Sorry Dad, this is an O'Reilly free zone!  UH-OH, temper tantrum.  He acted like an addict without his fix.  We persisted, he continued to argue.  We changed the channel to Olbermann.  Every night for three weeks we turned on Olbermann at 5 pm.  On week two, day two, he giggled at something Keith said.  By end of third week, he was back to his jovial, loyal democratic self (he's been a lifelong union-member democratic voter).  Last time I visited him in Florida he was reading "Sweet Jesus, I hate Bill O'Reilly".  Now we're working on my mother-in-law (also a lifelong democrat, NY times reader who hates Bush but all of a sudden is watching O'Reilly!)  Sigh.

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