This diary has nothing to do with any of the following directly:
- the election
- Any candidate
- Anything remotely political.
What this does have to do with is a total unforeseen life change.. in a very very good way.
If anyone even sorta reads my diaries, they will know that a few years back, my wife and I adopted a beautiful, healthy 3 month old girl.
She has grown to at this point be a beautiful, smart, funny (though at times highly challenging) 2 and a half year old.
My wife and I adopted simply because after 4 years of trying to have a child, undergoing multiple fertility treatments, we decided to adopt. We adopted domestically, in a "semi-open" adoption. Though our adoption case was a bit odd since the child was technically in foster care at the time.
But I digress.
We had ruled out adoption again (quite simply, adoption is NOT cheap) and had settled in to a happy little family. Me, my wife, our daughter, and our spazztastic (but lovable) dog.
Until last week..
Until after we had put our daughter to bed, and my wife and I were on the couch, cuddling/talking, relaxing after a busy day.
When my wife says "What are we doing for Thanksgiving?" Now my mid wonders what plans she wants to make for a holiday on the other side of the year.. she knows me, I don't plan anything past the next 2 days. When I made a rather non-committal answer and then..
"Want to have a baby? I'm pregnant"
I don't think I've ever been as stunned, as at a loss for words as I was at that moment. See, I was the reason we were not going to have a biological child. I have/had "unexplained male infertility" no underlying reason was ever discovered, and I was tested, prodded, poked, and other things that aren't fun, but I wanted to do for us.
We've since triple confirmed, including blood test.
Its still not "real" to me (though it is to my wife as I'm well aware thanks to nausea, and other symptoms that are coming regularly)
Why write this?
Well, I'm an old Dkos poster, and sometimes I miss the old sense of.. community that sometimes feels like its gone. Even more so when its an election year (candidate wars are nothing new)
So to share, to spread my joy..
I'm going to be a father again L And I couldn't be happier.
I'll have 2 children that I love very much, And nothing could ever make me happier.