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I am new here, and I am trouble. Perhaps the Obama and Clinton supporters should stop squabbling with each other and concentrate on me. I do believe that she who laughs, lasts, so humor might temper my elder arrogance.  My name is Mary Joan, and I am far more a Joan than a Mary. Imagine how much more fun Western art would be if Mary, the mother of God, and Joan of Arc had exchanged wardrobes.

I am one day older than the atom bomb, born the day after Trinity (I expect birthday greetings very soon if you know your history:) I was a 1960s radical nonviolent pacifist and am a card-carrying member of the War Resister's League. I can go spectacularly limp if you try to drag me from the demonstration. I have not changed as I raised 4 daughters, took care of my dying parents, worked as a public librarian and social worker. I am not a dried up old crone. My English husband, 16 years younger, gave up job and country to swim the Atlantic to marry  me.

We need a nonviolent revolution to transform America into a  children-friendly, family-friendly, elder-friendly, human-being-friendly society that is not the disgrace of most of the world. If you want to have children or take care of your aging parents, you would be better off moving almost anywhere in the world.

I supported Hillary and I am now supporting Obama by holding his clay feet to my progressive fires. I am a million percent sure the US will be better off with him as president than McCain as president. But I have no illusions he is a liberal or a progressive. He will only be as liberal as the country forces  him to be.

Let's stop squandering the ideas, energy, passion needed for the revolution on destructive family squabbles. I thought the feminists of my generation would change things so that our kids could combine careers and children and elder care. I intend to dedicate the rest of my life to making sure my grandchildren can. I have a 14-month old grandson with a granddaughter due in August and another one due in December.

If you think managing careers and child care is difficult, wait until a phone call in the middle of the night plunges you into the nightmare of combining elder care and your career. And no, Medicare or Health Insurance does not pay for custodial care  and help with the activities of daily life for failing or demented elders who are going to die of their illness. Medicare or Health Insurance might spend hundreds of thousands on death bed heroics. but they won't pay for an aide willing to change adult diapers. I hope you all are practicing. I suggest wrapping the use diaper in a plastic bag and tossing it out the bathroom window to a garbage can outside the window. But you need to live in a house for that.

I have been a feminist since my brother was born when I was 18 months old. Having 4 more younger brothers reinforced it. The culminating moment was when I was preparing for First Communion and the nun informed me that boys went up first because they could be priests and were closer to God.  !6 years of misogynistic Catholic education  guarantees radical feminism for life.

I was the only girl in my political science classes at Fordham and I especially love to argue with men. I don't do tact. So when is my birthday and why do I call myself Redstocking Grandma? If you can't answer those two questions, you undoubtedly need to read more history and do less blogging and commenting. Ask me for a reading list. I give lots of homework.

I blog as redstocking grandma. My blogs are Feminism in 2008 Election and Beyond  and Obama--Criticism and Support Time will tell if I moderate my blogs, censoring people who can't pass my history test:) That is a joke people. I am the proud owner of a red sweatshirt that says "Never love a man who doesn't love Jane Austen, Doris  Lessing, and Margaret Drabble." After 8 years of trying, that shirt got me an English husband. We met on a Jane Austen discussion group. A nonviolent revolutionary who loves Jane Austen, what's not to love?

Originally posted to Are We Drugging Children Into Obedience? on Fri Jul 11, 2008 at 08:21 AM PDT.

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  •  Kudos (2+ / 0-)
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    opendna, MsSpentyouth

    I relate on many levels with your life situations, (although not a feminist) being a single dad with my son in the military and helping both my parents through life threatening illnesses that took their lives.  Life it too short to squabble, advice many Kossacks could heed.  All the best on the valuable life you lead.  We are all contributors of our desitinies and our future.  Bless you.

    When liberals saw 9-11, we wondered how we could make the country safe. When conservatives saw 9-11, they saw an investment opportunity

    by Texas Cowboy on Fri Jul 11, 2008 at 08:30:58 AM PDT

  •  Guessing Games? (2+ / 0-)
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    opendna, MsSpentyouth

    July 17th is your birthday, and the phrase "Redstocking Grandma" would be a reference to intellectual women of the political left.

    Welcome trouble!

  •  I am not your gender, but I love your genius (0+ / 0-)

    I wish all  the KOSSACKS would sign your pledge.

    There is so much more to be gained focusing on our similarities than what GRAMPA MCSAME sees as our differences.


    NV-3 Let John Porter sell insurance again, as apposed to selling the country down the drain!!!

    by bglv on Fri Jul 11, 2008 at 09:05:03 AM PDT

  •  You sound like a lot of fun. (2+ / 0-)
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    KayCeSF, bglv

    Keep talking. I get over to your blogs and read...

    John McCain and George W. Bush: Let them eat cake. August 29, 2005.

    by rb137 on Fri Jul 11, 2008 at 09:13:08 AM PDT

    •  Lots of Fun (1+ / 0-)
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      My 14-month-old grandson, the happiest, most friendly toddler in Manhattan, thinks so. He waves at every single person we pass. He even waves at people in the street when he is on his 6th floor terrace. Since I spend 3 days a week taking care of him, my peer group is people under 2. Of course, I want a nonviolent revolution for him and his peers, and I have unlimited hope.

      She who laughs, lasts

      by Redstocking on Fri Jul 11, 2008 at 10:02:33 AM PDT

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