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So, I'm flying from San Francisco to New York yesterday. I even got upgraded to business. Pretty uneventful flight. Pretty choppy. Loved you can get wireless Internet on select American flights now. Oh and some passenger had some nut allergy, so the captain ordered all hot nuts recollected from the passengers in business and first class...which many found excessive..

But I digress...I saw this family traveling on the flight with this adorable little girl under 3 years of age..It was a normal family on a normal flight..

Dozens of people waved at this adorable little girl. She was clean, well-dressed, had an adorable pixie cut. She never cried once during the flight. Tremendously well behaved. The parents each took turns holding her, hugging her. She smiled happily and waved at her fellow passengers. Her parents had a panoply of toys to entertain her, asked the stewardess to heat up her bottle several times. Like so many parents who travel, it was tough carrying the kid and all of her supplies and toys. A normal family, on a normal flight..

..oh, by the way, did I mention that the parents were 2 gay men? Now, I know most people here at this site will say, "Yeah, so what?" But for the majority of voters of Arkansas and other red states eager, the Rick Warren's of the world and other "religious" people who want to stop gay people from adopting, I wish I had a video of that lovely, well-adjusted child. (Note, I am making an assumption here - I saw the couple share a kiss before the flight, each handled that child exactly as a parent would, perhaps I am mistaken, perhaps the child is one of theirs biologically or there is another explanation but even if I am, it was a powerful and lasting symbol.)

I have to admit it: as a gay man and a native Californian, I was much more focused on Prop 8. And then Warren. I was just shaking with rage about it and still feel a bit betrayed by my president-elect whom I worked very hard to put into office. But this scene made me really think about the prohibition on gay adoption and just how hurtful it is. My partner and I do not have children, probably will never want them. But my heart aches for all of the loving homes denied to children whom no one wants because of the bigotry against and the hatred of gay people

First I thought of Melissa Etheridge. She has had contact with Rick Warren, she has advised the gay community to give reaching out and Obama a chance. While I think she is being a bit naive and let Warren's flattery of her cloud her judgement a bit, she is someone whom I respect immensely. Her words carry a lot of weight with me. I thought I she invited Rick Warren to meet her family. A big and bold step. Because first of all, it pokes holes in his bull-shit argument that gays are a "genetic dead end" - um, asshole, Melissa Etheridge, whom you so love, has 4 children with her former and current partner. And of course, what about all of the gay people who adopt children, probably 95% will grow up to be heterosexual, who may have died from neglect, disease or drug addiction because people would not give them a home?

I was thinking Melissa made this offer because, of course, she has nothing to hide: she can show him 4 well-adjusted children who present the same problems and joys as any other kids do (whether they are spoiled celebrity kids I cannot say). Mr. Warren and the social worker and/or church lady of his choice will find these kids indistinguishable from any other. But how sad that Melissa has to "prove" that to anyone - she has to see, look at my beautiful children, compare them to yours. In fact let's compare my kids to your in terms of tolerance. I doubt they would call other kids "son of a faggot" like kids of so many "religious" people do. Yet she can show her family, how normal and well-adjusted they are, and it's still not enough for the average hick voter in Arkansas.

So let me see, heterosexual parents + heterosexual environment can = someone who chooses to be gay, do not = heterosexual child all the time. But homosexual parents = always homosexual child. I suck at math, but even I can see that formula sucks.

Which got me thinking about Rosie O'donnell. You know, that lesbian with strong opinions the right wing says we should not listen to, because, evidently she is a fat lesbian with strong opinions. Well, Rosie and her partner have adopted 4 children. Given them the best home possible. They wanted to adopt a 5th foster child, Mia, whom they got in 2000. But Florida voted on denying same sex couples the right to adopt, denying this child the right to a home, she was forcibly torn away from it, a child with known abandonment issues before Rosie tried to adopt her. Rosie's oldest child, Parker, is 13 now, a handsome young man. I read a piece on Huffington Post a few week's ago about Rosie's trip with her son to see Billy Elliot on Broadway. Can't find the link now. But I was struck by one line, which I would love to rub in Rick Warren's face and in the face of those idiot voters in Arkansas, I'm paraphrasing here:

So I told Parker these are the kind of clothes you should buy, because the girls like them..

What is this? That Rosie O'Donnell is encouraging her son's heterosexuality? Telling him ways to be more attractive to the opposite sex? Before you know it, that Parker O'Donnell will be in a heterosexual relationship, partially with the support of his mother!

And then I though of a recent piece I saw on CNN TV. I searched for a link, couldn't find one, maybe someone can find the video. But it was about desperately poor and AIDS-infected children in Africa that NO ONE WILL ADOPT.

Here is a 2006 piece I found on CNN
Alternative to adoption bleak for African orphans
http://www.cnn.com/...

JOHANNESBURG, South Africa (CNN) -- Twelve-year-old Koketso Motshoane is just one of many millions of children in Africa orphaned by AIDS. She has five other siblings scattered across various orphanages whom she gets to see just once a year.

She's never heard of pop star Madonna but says she'd jump at the chance to be adopted by anyone willing to give her a home, celebrity or not.

"I would feel happy," she says. "Because I have no mother." (Watch Koketso Motshoane describe her feelings on adoption -- 3:38 Video)

.......

Koketso lives in an orphanage along with 58 other children between 12 weeks and 21 years old in Johannesburg. It's run by Gail Johnson, a white South African who adopted a black child she named Thabo Jeffrey Johnson after she found him abandoned in a warehouse five years ago on Christmas morning.

This is her second black adoption. Her first child died of AIDS when he was only 12 years old. (Watch Madonna visit African orphans -- 1:30 Video)

Johnson has two biological children, now in their 30s, but she believes she has the right to offer the best care she can to children abandoned or orphaned.

"It would freak me out to give him up, but if there's a young couple who want him or a black couple who want him, I would hand him over," she says.

Here's another from the Times

In the story of Gezahegn and Atsede, who cuddle the H.I.V.-infected orphans no one will adopt, we see individual acts of love that take your breath away.

So here is my question to you, Mr. Warren, people of Arkansas:

What about these desperately poor, HIV-infected children that no one want?
Would it not be better to give these children a chance at a loving home with the acursed faggots and dykes that to see them die miserable deaths of neglect and disease?
I'd be willing to bet if asked, many of the "religious" right would say in a round-about way, "better to let them die!"
And of course, CNN will do a story on this angle of the kid no one will adopt right? RIGHT? BUHLER?

And of course, the fundies HATE abortion. So while this gay man will support a woman's right to choose as long as he draws breath, I say to Mr. Warren and the people or Arkansas and Florida and other "religious people":

You say that abortion is murder. So let's make an arrangement that  pregnant women can also choose for their child to be raised by adoptive gay or lesbian parents in Arkansas, Florida or any other state. Particularly the babies many won't adopt - those to be born with HIV or Downe's syndrome, those who are not lilly white. By doing so, you can prevent "murder". So you should be fine with that, right?

They were a normal family on a normal flight. But the image spoke a thousand words. So many children no one wants, so many worldwide who die of HIV/AIDS, yet some would rather condemn these children to death instead of letting a gay/lesbian couple adopt them.
Rick Warren did not seem to "object" to Melissa Etheridge's family. But then, he's a "fan". The couple on the plane would not be so lucky if they lived in Littlerock.

Originally posted to gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:02 PM PST.

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  •  I think you mean an extraordinary family... (24+ / 0-)

    ....on a leg of a very, very long journey.

    Tonight I'm going to party like it's 1929.

    by Bensdad on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:09:21 PM PST

  •  Tip jar? (42+ / 0-)

    For letting gay and lesbian families adopt the children no one wants.

    Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

    by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:22:19 PM PST

    •  Glad you had a good flight. I always wind up (5+ / 0-)

      flying "Screaming Baby Airlines", and even after a short hop, want to stand at the door handing debarking passengers a condom.

      Yes, winning was nice, but we go back to work 01-21-09. Remember what FDR said, "I agree with you, I want to do it, now make me do it." -8.25, -6.21

      by Jacques on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:50:59 PM PST

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      •  Actually (3+ / 0-)
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        the new in-air wireless is way cool.

        Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

        by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:57:32 PM PST

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      •  Before I had kids, (4+ / 0-)
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        I always seemed to have a knack for winding up on those flights, too.

        Both of my kids are actually excellent travelers, but I do remember once instance when my oldest was not quite three.  She'd been seriously a perfect angel the whole trip, until the last leg of the flight home, and then she decided she'd had quite enough.  The tantrum was absolutely epic.  Complete with (accidentally, but still) slamming Mommy's finger with the tray table.  She settled down after about 10 or 15 minutes, but I felt like suggesting that we put her in cargo, and I don't think any of the other passengers would have objected.

        Karma for all the death daggers I spent years looking at other parents, heh.

        •  Family Guy (5+ / 0-)
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          Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

          by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 08:01:03 PM PST

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        •  Yes to cargo! I have often thought that (1+ / 0-)
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          the greatest invention in the world would be a baby carrier that would ship in cargo. Dogs, cats, other domestic animals ship in cargo, why not?

          Bottle warmer, rattles, computerized monitor, even WiFi cameras for nervous parents.

          Yes, winning was nice, but we go back to work 01-21-09. Remember what FDR said, "I agree with you, I want to do it, now make me do it." -8.25, -6.21

          by Jacques on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 08:21:21 PM PST

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          •  computerized monitor (1+ / 0-)
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            So, um, what would you do in the event was really wrong? Ma'am, I think my baby is teething, we need to do an emergency landing?

            Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

            by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 08:24:50 PM PST

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      •  LOL....great sense of humor (0+ / 0-)

        "To thine own self be true and it must follow as the night, the day, thou canst not then be false to any man." - Shakespeare

        by Soulmentor on Mon Dec 29, 2008 at 08:58:25 PM PST

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    •  More than that (5+ / 0-)

      Of course gay couples should be able to adopt the kids no one else wants, but they should also be able to create families any way they want to, just like heterosexual couples can. That includes adopting non-disabled babies; using in vitro fertilization or surrogates; or whatever works for them. In my mind, it's just not anyone else's business, whether their name is Rick Warren or James Dobson or whoever.

      Those people should not have any say about whether gay couples can marry, or whether they can have kids, and if so, under which conditions. I repeat: NOT THEIR BUSINESS. I don't even like to move to the next step of pointing to reseach showing that kids with gay parents fare just fine. That doesn't even matter; and we certainly don't scrutinize the setup of heterosexual families and wring hands in anguished pretense about what's "best for the children". I really can't wait for the day when anti-gay bigots will just shut the heck up and stay out of other people's personal lives.

  •  They can pry my hot nuts (8+ / 0-)

    from my cold dead fingers.

    Seriously though, nut allergies are nothing to fuck with, unless you're a fan of emergency landings and in-flight tracheotomies.

    Omaha is Obama Country.

    by The Creator on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:24:07 PM PST

  •  As an internationally adoptive parent, (9+ / 0-)

    I do feel I have to point out that when you're talking about adopting orphans from another country, you not only have to deal with US laws but also the laws of the country from which you seek to adopt.  There are a lot of states here where the laws are bad, but I don't know of any poor, impoverished country permitting its children to be adopted internationally, that permits gay parents to adopt.  The countries vary in how nosy they are about it, and of course some gay adopters do successfully hide their sexuality for the adopting process, but I was single when I adopted my daughter and I literally had to submit an affidavit swearing that I'm straight.

    That rambling point aside, I've said elsewhere that as awful as gay marriage bans are, my opinion is that gay adoption bans are even worse.  They not only punish would-be gay parents, but they hurt children who already very often have had more than their fair share of hurt in life.  

    I don't know of anybody who works in our child or foster care systems who thinks we should be working to decrease the number of good adoptive homes.

    •  Then its time to get in their face (4+ / 0-)
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      and say these children will DIE if they are not adopted. Is death better than that? This is of course part of the "good" Mr. Warren is spreading in Africa, we'll help if you've got AIDS, and embrace our views, but no condoms for you, only abstinence, CAUSING more AIDS than he helps prevent. Just more backwards idea that costs the lives of millions in Africa.

      Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

      by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:28:42 PM PST

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      •  Well, (2+ / 0-)
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        The obstacles to international adoption are many and manifold, even for married straights like myself.  Of course it's better for the kids to grow up in loving homes--especially comparatively rich Western ones where the kids will get some access to sanitation, education, and all that good stuff.  No need to convince anybody of that.

        But "getting in the faces" of countries other than our own, about values-type things, has limited efficacy.  That's not to say you don't try to use what diplomatic and other leverage you may have to change what you see as bad human rights situations abroad.  Of course we should.  But it's a little hard to do that when your own house isn't completely in order.  And as a potential adoptive parent, you by yourself really can't.  You play by the rules of the country from which you seek to adopt, or you don't adopt from there.

        I actually don't want to sound like I'm arguing with you, because I hope it's clear I agree with you.  I'm just saying that there's a boatload of other crap you have to deal with when you're talking about adding the extra layer of adopting another country's kids.

        •  No I find your comments very informative (2+ / 0-)
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          And I'm not arguing it for myself but it just seems to me, that would be a better point of departure than the much hailed Warren "abstinence-only" approach to relief efforts.
          If Obama is interesting in making inroads on a subject like this, he'd do well to frame the issue with "This can prevent X abortions and X children dying from neglect.."

          Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

          by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:39:47 PM PST

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          •  We've had an awfully retrograde stance (2+ / 0-)
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            on things like international family planning efforts for many years, dating back probably to the Reagan administration.  I do hope that an Obama administration will do things to change that.  It's pretty cost-effective as international aid efforts go.

            •  retrograde is a good word, but this (0+ / 0-)

              But "getting in the faces" of countries other than our own, about values-type things, has limited efficacy.  That's not to say you don't try to use what diplomatic and other leverage you may have to change what you see as bad human rights situations abroad.  Of course we should.  But it's a little hard to do that when your own house isn't completely in order.

              is not really the answer. No, our house isn't in order; but dying children, orphan children, neglected children and sick children are not well-served by appeasing the status quo, either in religious or in diplomatic terms.

              if not us, who? if not now, when?
              and if you want religious grounds, you can find them in Jesus' admonition in Matthew 25.

              I doubt there's anything in the Holy Quran to dispute either the admonitions to love one another, or the prohibitions against injuring children, that can be found in the New Testament.

              As for a Christianity that wants me to tremble in fear of the Old Testament rules, and forget the wisdom and generosity of the Savior, I defy it. It's not a true faith if it's built on fear.

              John Edwards:"One America does the work, another America reaps the rewards. One America pays the taxes, another America gets the tax breaks."

              by BlackSheep1 on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 03:53:16 PM PST

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      •  And the fundies will say (1+ / 0-)
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        "Yes. They are better off dead than in the hands of gays. God will take care of their souls. Gays will damn their souls. Better a little physical suffering now than eternal suffering later."
        Soul versus physical happiness. Soul wins out every time with the nuts.

        To have faith in the power of a human being is no crime. The crime is to have no faith in your fellow human being.

        by RElland on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 09:11:58 PM PST

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  •  It is a disgrace. (3+ / 0-)
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    There are so many children in need of loving homes and to deny someone the chance to adopt one of those children based solely on their sexual orientation is obscene.

    I thought I had read recently that the Florida Supreme Court would be ruling soon on the adoption ban?

    •  I don't know if there's a ruling soon (3+ / 0-)
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      And in fact I don't even know if the case has been argued yet, but I do think I also remember seeing that a suit had been filed challenging the constitutionality (under the Florida constitution) of the ban.

      Don't know that much about the Florida supremes, nor the existing case law, but it goes without saying I hope they win.

      •  They won't rule in favor of gay adoption (0+ / 0-)

        I would assume that most of the judges are Bush and Crist appointees. They aren't going to allow gay adoption in FL. As it is the state already bans gay marriage.

        •  But I wish people would frame it like I said (1+ / 0-)
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          You could stop X abortions or X children nobody will adopt from dying. Is it worth it then?

          Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

          by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:36:07 PM PST

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  •  So what happened to Mia? (2+ / 0-)
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    Is Mia out of Rosie's life completely? Did she end up with another family? Hopefully she ended up in a better place than Rilya Wilson.

    •  I know Rosie (2+ / 0-)
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      was heartbroken at the time. I know she said Mia had abandonment issues when Rosie took her in. No clue whatever happened to her.

      Until Obama does something tangible for the GLBT community, beyond pretty speeches, he is just "All-Talk Barack"

      by gladkov on Sun Dec 28, 2008 at 07:34:18 PM PST

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      •  Ok (2+ / 0-)
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        The links I tried to find about her said nothing about what happened to her.

        •  Trust me the system doesn't care! Just lost (1+ / 0-)
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          a child, pre-adoptive, from foster care system, after 18 months.

          You know, way before 18 months, you're in love with the child, and they you. Every parent knows this -- how long does it take to fall in love with your baby?

          It might take a few days with a toddler, but then, that's all she wrote. And for a toddler, when you give them what they NEED, they bond to you like glue. They want and NEED you -- not someone else, they need YOU to keep being there for them, so they can keep hoping they've finally hit the jackpot, a safe, secure place with love.

          The judge refused to say it was in the child's best interests, he didn't believe it was! Counselor said he shouldn't go -- social service fired her. Child's CASA said he shouldn't go, he was doing well here. Trust me, not an easy child on arrival, oh my goodness, Mr. "Let me drive you crazy". Much better after 18 months of hard work. On both our parts.

          Yet, the social service agency plowed right ahead to rip him out of here. "Mommy, why do they want to steal me from you?" Oh yes, and more. Dec. 17, "Merry Christmas, little child, nothing like leaving your home for the holidays".

          Even other social workers in other branches said to me, "... will be outraged if he is moved." The system is broken.

          Be good to each other. It matters.

          by AllisonInSeattle on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 02:58:55 PM PST

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  •  The Rick Warren Liking Melissa Etheridge Reminds (2+ / 0-)
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    me of the Don't Ask, Don't Tell Senate Hearings back in 1990's when Sen. Strom Thurmond was questioning Sgt. Greta Cammameyer and noted at the end of his questioning that Greta was one of the "good" gays, not like those other ones.

    Thank god we have a few representatives now with some intelligence like Patrick Murphy.  It is sick to have to listen to Elaine Donelly who is a clone of Rick Warren.  

    I hope Obama can see through the Elaine Donnelly and Rick Warrens.  It is ashame Obama is elevating Rick Warren by participation in his Inauguration.

    http://www.youtube.com/...

  •  What an eloquent testimony but..... (2+ / 0-)
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    ...as you allude to, you're preaching to the choir mostly. I hope you sent it to Warren and Focus On The Family AND the President-Elect. Not that Dobson would deign to read it, but Warren might and Obama surely would.  

    "To thine own self be true and it must follow as the night, the day, thou canst not then be false to any man." - Shakespeare

    by Soulmentor on Mon Dec 29, 2008 at 08:57:08 PM PST

  •  As a side note (1+ / 0-)
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    Gay adoption should be legal just out of fairness.  If one couple should be able to adopt, so should another.  And I understand there's a ton of evidence out there that children do as well with this family structure as any other.

    But there's another reason it needs to be legal and common, too.  I live in a rural area and as I watched my children grow, one of my son's best friends suffered a huge amount of embarrassment and angst to be the child of divorced parents, whose mother was now a part of a gay couple.  It was simply seen as odd in our community.   And I've watched my niece and nephews, as young adults, struggle to accept their mother's long-overdue coming out of the closet.  Part of the emotional struggle for them and for my son's high school friend was due to the sense of difference they felt because of their family structure.

    The more people are able to be open about who they are, and the more common families with two parents of the same gender become; the more "normal" life will be for those who live in those families.  And, another reason: the normalcy of those families will also enable young people who are recognizing their own homosexuality to feel more "normal", too.

  •  Thanks for this diary (1+ / 0-)
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    I work with adoptions from foster care here in the SF area.  There are so many kids who just need parents - gay, straight, single, married, doesn't matter.  Someone who will love them and be there for them forever.

    I'm not trashing your book. I'm trashing your philosophy of life. -Jon Stewart

    by Tara the Antisocial Social Worker on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 07:30:08 AM PST

    •  How are your laws? Gay friendly? (1+ / 0-)

      What's the latest skinny on "Attachment Disorder" down there? Do SWs still think kids have it? Or is it being downplayed?

      Finally, what's the dynamic on bio and non-bio families down there? AFA, once the child's in foster care, is there a preference to place with one over the other? And if so, is there any "standard" practice regarding the dynamic of children staying in once place for xyz amount of time, and being "so attached" that they should stay? (Whatever type of family it was.) I read an article from Canada, where a social service agency up there was researching that length of time... danged if I can find it again.

      Love your handle -- would love to hear the story behind it! It's very funny.

      Be good to each other. It matters.

      by AllisonInSeattle on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 03:05:17 PM PST

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      •  That's a lot of questions (0+ / 0-)

        There's a preference for placing with bio family, especially early on.  The longer kids stay in one placement, the less inclined agencies are to move them if family members come forward later, but that's very case by case.  There's no real standard amount of time, but after 6 months, the foster parents (or relative caregivers) can apply to be "de facto parents," meaning they have standing in court along with the parents and kids.  (Not all foster parents do this - usually only when we're moving toward adoption.)

        Attachment disorder is an official diagnosis, which can manifest in kids having difficulty bonding or trusting others - or going to the other extreme, where they'll go to a strager as easily as a famliar person.  It's usually something you see when kids haven't had a stable, reliable parental figure - and the more kids are moved around, the harder it is for them to trust that this adult is really going to be there for them permanently.

        Interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

        I'm not trashing your book. I'm trashing your philosophy of life. -Jon Stewart

        by Tara the Antisocial Social Worker on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 05:23:16 PM PST

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      •  Oh, and California laws (0+ / 0-)

        don't discriminate on sexual orientation for adoptive parents.  There may still be unofficial bias in more conservative counties, but mine is very gay-friendly.

        I'm not trashing your book. I'm trashing your philosophy of life. -Jon Stewart

        by Tara the Antisocial Social Worker on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 05:24:48 PM PST

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    •  Also, reading your aging-out diary (1+ / 0-)

      http://www.dailykos.com/...

      Wish had seen sooner. I see you're answering some of my other questions in that, AFA Cal. practice.

      Do you know about the Mockingbird Society up here?
      http://www.mockingbirdsociety.org/...

      We have a cluster of groups serving foster children in the "Treehouse Building". Now I type that, I think I know who paid for the building, but nevermind. Treehouse is serving foster children's needs also.
      http://www.treehouse4kids.org/

      But more to the point of your diary, perhaps, there's a group, a coalition of representatives of groups serving adolescents, that meets monthly to work on what legislation will they sponsor this year. As result, we have several great programs for teens, and aging-outers.

      To include, Medicare till 21 for I think all ex-fos, 18-21. SOME scholarships for ex-fos, I think 50 statewide. SOME beds for 18-21, like fos care, I think 50-100-200 state wide. THey have to be achieving to stay in the beds. And some rent-assist for post-fos, I believe must be college-enrolled to qualify. I think that's about it, but they all are better than the garbage bag and slammed door.

      Would love to dialog with you about what's down there, hope you keep writing diaries about this topic. Or drop me an email (in profile).

      Be good to each other. It matters.

      by AllisonInSeattle on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 03:12:45 PM PST

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  •  Great essay, great points n/t (0+ / 0-)

    Be good to each other. It matters.

    by AllisonInSeattle on Tue Dec 30, 2008 at 02:59:30 PM PST

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