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Well, I got the news yesterday that my (I thought soon-to-be) ex-husband has emphysema.  It's stage 3 which is considered to be severe.  From what I have read on-line about it, it sounds like a death sentence to me.

More below....

One of the things my ex and I used to fight about was the fact that he smoked while having asthma, and I just knew that it was going to turn into something worse....which now it has.

Here's my dilemma: the liberal in me wants to help and do what's right, so do I continue with the divorce or do I stay and take care of him?

I have already spent 21 years of my life with this person (a lot of them bad) and well, I really am all he has.  He doesn't keep in contact with any of his family, and because he's a truck driver, he doesn't have many close friends.

My friends and family tell me that I deserve to be happy too and that I can still be there for him as a friend after we're divorced, but I still feel somewhat bad to be adding our divorce onto his plight.

I guess I am seeking some advice and any personal stories that are similar to my situation because I really feel torn....

Thanks, I love you people.

Originally posted to angrybird on Tue Jan 12, 2010 at 07:11 PM PST.

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