I've grieved over and over and over again about the state of America. I grieved when Bush II was "selected" and again when he won a second term after starting two wars.
I've grieved over two dead husbands with cleaner, clearer grief but with the same sense of having failed. And the same incessant "what ifs": What if I had done more, cared more, understood better, etc.
So finally I've gone looking for some help for myself because the almost insane grief of finding that having held the WH, the Senate and the Congress meant very little.
One website promises some help:
Recover from grief
There is no neat progression from one stage to the next. In reality, there is much looping back, or stages can hit at the same time, or occur out of order.
Some of us are clearly at this stage:
For example, generally, a long period of "depression" (not clinical depression), isolation, and loneliness happen late in the grief process, months after the tragedy strikes. It actually is normal and expected for you to be very depressed and sad eight months later.
Outsiders do not understand this, and feel that it should be time for you to "get over it" and rejoin the land of the living. Just knowing that your desire to be alone with your sad reflections at this time is normal will help you deal with outside pressures. You are acting normally. They just don't "get it".
The last stage: Acceptance and Hope is one of those ironies that could completely fell me. I was finally feeling hopeful and I was beginning to accept that President Obama was not going to deal with the Bushco illegalities in any way. But I was noticing that his covering for Bush was getting more and more involved.
I noticed he did not enlist us, as Bush did not enlist us as a whole nation in the war efforts. I noticed that he left his young fans adrift for about two years, until he started campaigning again about 2-3 months before election. I noticed that he blames us for his problems along with the rethugs and the Bush incompetency. I noticed that he is working to seal off the last right: The right to publish documents that are not top secret by attacking Wikileaks on all corporate fronts. I noticed he did not say he would veto extending the Bush tax cuts which have added and will add to the deficit without adding a single job.
I think I am still at the anger state with this new grief.
But in the comment section, if you will, talk about where you are in whatever grief process you are going through and please be very kind and supportive to others. As a community, we owe it to ourselves to be supportive and kind to each other in the face of adversity. Keep judgments at bay and try to respond to each other (AND TO ME!!!!) with kind eyes and tongue.