Even if it's "just a lie of omission". Does your mother know about your high-school sweetheart? What would your father say if he knew what you know about your (current and/or first) husband? Familial relationships are, IMHO the hardest to speak openly about when one is speaking about their sex life. I'm still in the closet with most of my family, although I suspect that one of my sisters knows or suspects. She recognized a handcuff key on my key ring and just gave me "the look". But my family is very private about sex, no one in my family asks or tells. In fact, when I was told by one sister that another (unmarried) sister was pregnant, I was so shocked, I said, "How did that happen. Oh, wait, I know the answer to that one." We pretty much ignore each other's sex lives,so I'm willing to keep pushing the Thanksgiving turkey and gravy, never feeling the "need" to come out. Mostly because no one would care, and besides, my coming out is complicated, with someone I'm contemplating a relationship with; it can take a couple of hours.
But, really, who hasn't either lied about sex or lied by omission about sex? Or "rounded down" the number of sex partner they've had, or not counted same-gender, in-between-gender, trans-gender partners, because "they don't really count"? More rant below. (Is there a name for that orange squiggly thing?)
I mean, come on! There are things you don't tell family. There are things you don't tell friends. And that's a lie by omission. You don't want to unduly upset people in your family to no real purpose. You don't want to be remembered as the kid that ruined
Thanksgiving the year s/he decided to come out as grandpa was carving the turkey. (No one likes spending a holiday in the emergency room...)
And no one wants to upset their wives, husbands, children, uncles, aunts, grandparents with choices that may not have been well thought out. Yes, this is a Weiner diary, and no, it's not. I've been with people who I hope had the good sense to never, ever mention that I'd been with them. I sincerely wish that they take this secret part of their lives to the grave.
If it doesn't forward your personal familial relationships, or progress the cause, and you are not a public personality, like
I can't have any way of knowing what is right in someone's situation. I know that I will continue to support the LGBTQ community, not just the political sphere, but housing, food, finding a decent job. (Actually, I work for everybody in those areas, so if you're not LGBTQ, I'm still working for you.)
My reason for writing this diary comes from several comments, one saying that they didn't want to take their little sister to anything where there might be public sex. Not because of the little sister's objections, which might go as far as "Eewww..." but in fear that word might get back to Mom. And the many, many moralizing scolds on what is nominally a progressive site that supports more and better Democrats. Anthony Weiner is a better Democrat than the milquetoasts Debbie Wasserman Shultz and Nancy Pelosi are catering to with their pandering waving of the white feather.
When did "progressive" turn into "monogamously married only"? Yeah, yeah, I know he lied. He was trying to protect his wife, family and career. That's kind of my point. Everybody lies about sex under some circumstances! The first actual lie, not by ommission comes from, "Shit! How did he/she know that!" And then, the course being laid, so to speak, you follow it until you realize that it's totally untenable, so you confess. And then the fun really starts.
Yes, Anthony should have that night gone to his wife and said, "Remember that "problem" we discussed before we were married? Well, tomorrow..." But he didn't and I understand why. He thought he could beat this thing, that Breitbart, after ACORN and Sherrod, didn't have anything, anyway. And he loves his wife, and didn't want to subject her to what we can now see is just another media circus. He bet it all on black, and double zeros came up. And we have known for a long time that when a Democrat is in trouble, the Democratic Party is behind you. Running the other way.
How many of us lie by omission? How many of our parents know when we lost our virginity, and to whom? How may of our parents knew within 24 hours? Or, if we've had "affairs" how many of our partners knew? Is there a point to confessing if it will only hurt someone we love? Take the poll below. I deliberately left out people having "affairs" whatever that means, either you lie to your spouse, or you have an open arrangement, or you party together because you like either the extra attention, or you like to watch.