I read a diary this morning that was wonderful about the taxes and the farmer. It was called Do you know this man? I want to give that idea a different twist because it doesn't matter if it happens in the place we call America or home, it is the same feeling.
The whole idea of I am making it on my own made me think of some similiar things that have gone on in my own home and the feeling made me want to cry. I didn't know whether to cry for the stupidity of that kind of mindset or that it what one half of the country applies to their own nation. I know kids and many households go through this sort of thing. Jump below the fold so I can explain and break it down better
I wonder if this mindset is something giving and loving people cause by sacraficing or if it is spoiled brats who really believe this junk. I really think people that has this type of non appreciation are bitter epic fail people. Whether in the household or in the country.
Here is my example of how it breaks down in the home.
A family of modest means will reach out to adult children who may have lost a job or
had some emegency situation regarding evicition, children doing with less, or just can't make it. They appear on your doorstep hat in hand with tears in their eyes. They are broken people.
The family, usually 40 or over struggling but depends on themselves and not anyonel else because there is NO body else. They are the elders. In almost all of these situations the family votes dem or independent. I do not know any republicans who are caught in this trap.
1. They feel complete empathy for a bad situation and want to help out.
2. The grown child or child and partner and kids move in.
3. In the beginning they are appreciative
4. They ask if there is anything they can do like mow the grass or help with laundry or do dishes, or other housework.
5. Eventually they have staked out their own spot in the household. Their room, their garage, their basement, their attic. It is their spot. It is their private domain.
6. Pretty soon, they feel comfortable to go in the frig and get what they want to eat at all hours of the day and night.
7. It is not like they do not contribute but the amount is so small that it is hardly noticed by the elders. The elders are paying 80 or 90 percent of everything, sacraficing their privacy and all for wanting to maintain good family relations and to genuinely help.
8. They interlopers are staying more and more in their domain except to wander into your space and make a few requests that later become demands. Things like, I need to use the car because mine does not have a tag or won't crank. They then, start complaining about the kind of meals you have prepared. They have long stopped washing a dish or helping around to earn their keep. They are into their own thing.
They invite their friends and others to come into their space but invade your space to get there. Your peace is at stake at this point.
9. They may get some income tax back or some food stamps and not many but throw you some of either or both and then throw that up in your face that they are doing their fair share. Once a year or once a month they feel they have equaled to what you do every single month and week ever single day.
You listen to their thoughts of how they are basically keeping the elders up and therefore it doesn't matter how much you feel they should be doing more..it is that YOU are the ones who should be grateful they are there. It does not matter if you pay all of the bills. It does not matter if you make sure the children are well fed and clothed. It does not matter that you put all of the gas in all of the vehicles, running or not, and insure everything in the yard or garage. It does not matter that you have a sense of routine, if it intereferes with the occupiers of the house then you will have a bad day. There will be a blow up. You will get tired of looking for something special you bought to eat because those who feel so special have eaten it up. You want peace so you start finding cubby holes to hide for yourself just to have a twinkie. Toilet paper. OMG....Hide that because the people who have now claimed your place will yell at you because there is no TP in the house.
Basically you have lost control of your own dwelling and when there is a showdown , someone in your house will side with the occupiers and say, We can work this out.
NO.....it really cannot be worked out. You have put up with this nonsense for years, and with different sets of kids and relatives or friends. It is crazy and you become so depressed that you feel you are lost in confusion.
There are deadlines set to get out.
There are guidelines set to contribute more
There are reasonable rules and requests made
They like the republican congress will not budge. They still expect a sugar tit and a way to impose on your generoristy with full belief they are contributing more than their share and in the meantime if you do throw them out, they leave and never speak to you again and have squandered all your good will and preach individuality and standing on their own and never appreciate anything that was done on their behalf.
Isn't this the way the Republicans are and I might add these interlopers do vote republican later on and praise Ronald Reagan. They think you are a chump or too old to know shit from shinola and they really believe this. It is their mindset. It is all about them. This is the very same mindset of every republican voter I know and I guaratee you they do not put up with any helping their kids unless they are wealthy or helping anybody because they don't feel like we do and they don't get used either.
They will take and take from the Federal Government and basically as i always heard.
Crap on you and then gripe at you for stinking. It is and forever will be All about them.
They are spoiled brats who feel if they contribute to the government, it is too much but want to reap what the givers have put in place. I see this scenearo playing out in communties, homes and right on down to the ballot box. I am going by personal experience here and it is the same to me.
They look at you and me like we are their own personal servants and treasure box . And that is the whole thing in a nutshell. i have known people to have to get evicition notices to have their own family removed.
I have known one family to give blood that her family could eat after interlopers ( the ones who were supposed to have left the nest and returned) have taken more than their fair share, the elders may have special needs in the house and feel they need to have these ungrateful people in the house because there is some genuine fear of not being able to get around anymore. There may be children from different spouses and the argument ends up with the opposite spouse that the gorwn child belongs to. This is real trouble. Spouses start fighting.
They don't care about you.
They will dig into your social security, or benefits but wouldn't ask for any on their own.
They will eat your food but keep up a front they are doing all this on their own.
They don't respect you.
They really don't.
How many times have you heard republicans refer to the socialists living in the basement. Projection I tell you. Those people in the basement are Republican through and through. Even if they do not vote that way.
Republicans or users.....even if they are your own family....They don't care.
My advice. Never allow them back in your home. They don't have sense enough to know when they have overstayed, overborrowed, overextended and the first chance you get even if it rips your heart out, Throw the bums out !!!!! You may be alone with your principles but you won't be in a drama everyday of your life.