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this* is what QUEER looks like By Mian Crarvin

I find this piece important because the images of ourselves in the media and at our own events are usually of the following sort:

Gay Pride Parade   802

Gay pride parade NYC 2009

GAY PRIDE AMSTERDAM 2008 - Canal Parade

This short video shows our community as we really are. Average people living average lives. Yes, we have our own little idiosyncrasies of flair, flamboyance and fabulousness but as a whole that is just a small component of who we are as individuals.

So the next time the AFA or Constipated Women of America do their blast of pride party photos. Make sure you have this one at hand for a rebuttal.

We also need to point out to them that photos like this from a Spring Break party are not used as representative of all straight people. In that vein why do we let straight people take pictures? I had to go through six pages of underexposed shots before I could find something I could use.

Rock the Rabbit Photos

Originally posted to Angry Gays on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 10:27 AM PDT.

Also republished by Milk Men And Women.

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  •  I Rather Like (11+ / 0-)

    The Pride Parade spectacle. I think it represents the LGBT community well and it's a lot of fun.

    LGBT people are different: We are distinctive. This is a fact. Giving expression to our distinctiveness through spectacle and performance is part of how we are liberating ourselves from past repression.

    We don't need to apologize for it.

    I am always a bit wary of videos like this, because I'm always afraid that they will be the type of thing that tries to show that "LGBT people are just like everyone else." This is not so.

    I was happy to see that instead the video showed a wide variety of people.

    As an aside:

    Remember the John Goodman sitcom in the 1990s called "Normal, Ohio" about a working-class gay guy who was completely normal in every way?

    Nobody wanted to see the show. Not even gay men, who are normally desperate for media representations of themselves.

    "I'll believe that corporations are people when I see Rick Perry execute one."

    by bink on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 10:36:44 AM PDT

    •  I agree. (7+ / 0-)

      In fact, my biggest tensions on this site recently have been with the heteronormative-ness present in the LGBT community here.

      I recognize much of the "just like everybody else" positioning among gay men to be internalized homophobia.  I say this as someone with, at times, very gender-typical qualities: I hiked 8 miles and sawed trees down yesterday. There's a lot of straight men whose asses I can kick in the wilderness. So I do not think all signs of masculinity or ordinariness are internalized homophobia. But much, if not most of that which I see among young people in the community, is.  The objectification of masculine qualities and the people bearing them to be disturbs me greatly.

      Faeries and butch lesbians and femme-boys make the world a better place. Drag queens scare the shit out of me, but that's owed to my life-long fear of clowns. There's plenty of discomforting aspects to the LGBT community with which it's unfortunate to be conflated. Mainly? The consumerism, the sexual objectification, and the superficiality.

      But we contribute something very important to the world.  Aestheticism, androgyny, gender-queerness, compassion, acceptance, perspective. Our distinctiveness is important to those ends.

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      by Nulwee on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 10:49:18 AM PDT

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  •  Thanks, Horace, that's a nifty short film. (12+ / 0-)

    Wide and wonderful variety of queer there. It goes to show that there is a lot of diversity just within our community.

    Santorum: Man on Dog; Romney: Dog on Car. Ren and Stimpy: Dog on Cat

    by commonmass on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 10:39:50 AM PDT

  •  oh come on- who looks "normal" in a parade??? (9+ / 0-)

    have you seen those really stupid band uniforms lately-
    or those princesses in phoney tiaras, or those nuts throwing around batons and dropping them, looking even sillier when they have to chase those dropped batons  down.
    or the Shriners in their own clown cars or worse in their fezzes ( i think that is what you call them) looking nutty

    yes I know you have seen the weirdness us americans call a parade!

    "It's never too late to be who you might have been." -George Eliot

    by live1 on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 10:42:31 AM PDT

    •  ...and don't get me started on (4+ / 0-)

      ...the Knights of Columbus!


      "The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed." ~ Steven Biko

      by Marjmar on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 11:51:15 AM PDT

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      •  Oh yeah. The stupid Italian Admiral outfits (2+ / 0-)
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        Horace Boothroyd III, Marjmar

        I began to worry about a friend of mine when he joined the Kof c, supposedly for the sword and the costumes--not that he was gay, but that he was going right-wing Catholic. The clothing  part i could beleive, since he was an expert tailor famous throughout the SOuth for his codpieces (he wore 15th and 16th century Spanish), and as straight as they came.  He liked to go to a gay bar in the area because it had the best DJs (which was also true of where I lived at the time; if you were in Pensacola and wanted to dance, you went to, I think, the Red Garter--half the straight guys from the Bavy base brought their girlfriends there).

        ANd I was right.  His marriage strted to come apart over whether, if they had kids, they'd raise them Catholic (she felt strongly that you don't make a commitment for someone else by baptizing them as an infant--she was WIccan). Eventually, he got caught cheating openly, and they divorced. I figured it wa par for the sourse--the more hydterically right-wing they get, it seem that they're more likely to cheat

        The last time we mixed religion and politics people got burned at the stake.

        by irishwitch on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 07:42:32 PM PDT

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  •  I so understand how unfair it is to stereotype (8+ / 0-)

    from a parade photo

    (speaking as an old white guy....)
    Beck Tea Party Rally
    Boston Tea Party Rally, 4/14/10

    If cats could blog, they wouldn't

    by crystal eyes on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 11:03:16 AM PDT

  •  You know, our events and our... (0+ / 0-)

    ...imagery and our culture are for US and personally I don't give a rat's ass wart what fucking straight people see, believe or get worked up about. And it would be nice too if queers weren't always apologizing for the "fringe" factor of our community. If it wasn't for the efforts and sacrifices of the "extreme" Gay folk, the boring tools wouldn't have any rights whatsoever. I'm getting so sick of homo on homo horseshit to appease fucking straight people and their delicate sensibilities. In another forum I discussed how it'll be the "clean" queers, the ones that mimic heteros with the marriage/children/ "I'm just like you!" shit that will eventually be the most strident opponents of the sex-pig and flamboyant contingents just like ex-smokers. I have never needed, wanted our appealed for "acceptance" from straight society. I'm all for marriage equality because it ensures basic human rights and it'll be a boon to Lesbians, trans-nationals and those too exhausted/homely to be part of the hunt any longer. Let's just remember that men always had the right to love each other, what we fought for was the right for them to be able to fuck each other without social or governmental repercussions.

  •  DAMN IT! (4+ / 0-)

    Are you seriously telling me that all gay people aren't twenty, in perfect shape, and don't walk around mostly naked???!!! Or that all straight people aren't???!!!

    Well, you've ruined my image of all the fantastic gay  AND straight Kossacks out there now. Thanks, Horace. Now I'm seeing y'all as fiftyish and as dumpy as the Fiat I followed the other day. You should be very proud of yourself. ::sniff::



  •  What's really "funny" is..... (1+ / 0-)
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    Horace Boothroyd III

    All the gay pride parades and events I've attended the "gays" all looked like the ones in the video.  I guess I haven't been to the right kind of events.  HHmmm?  Although......well.....I think.....I have been places where both "straight" and "gay" guys have looked like the guy in the first pic.

  •  Great! Love the vid! nm (1+ / 0-)
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    Horace Boothroyd III

    202-224-3121 to Congress in D.C. USE it! You can tell how big a person is by what it takes to discourage them. "We're not perfect, but they're nuts."--Barney Frank 01/02/2012

    by cany on Sun Mar 11, 2012 at 06:57:48 PM PDT

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