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R.A. Dickey is releasing a memoir next week - an excerpt below:


“I have spent so much of my life running and hiding, and I wasn't going to continue doing that in the book," Dickey says. “What would be the point in doing that — perpetuating untruth? It was important to me to tell the truth, to be completely authentic. Sharing the pain I went through is part of the healing for me, a catharsis in many ways."

In the memoir, Dickey writes of repeated abuse by a female babysitter, and one instance perpetrated by a 17-year-old boy.

“I felt dirty, I felt ashamed and alone, and I felt there was something terribly wrong with me," Dickey says. He kept the secret for almost 25 years, not even telling his wife, Anne, until they were married for eight years.

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