This diary is intended to somewhat inform, but mainly to send a message.
The inform part addresses the fact that no matter how anonymous we may feel we are it is an illusion.
Given enough time, and obsession, anyone can comb your comments and diaries and piece together enough information about you as fodder for other venues of invading your privacy, whether that is by legal or illegal means.
Reading further than this may be puzzling, even boring. It is a personal venting of my feelings and opinions. It does NOT apply to any active member of this community, but only to a sick and obsessed lurker who blames me for their life changes and has been obsessed with following my every word in this community for some time now, and anything I've posted here since Nov 1st of 2004. This is what I have to say to them....
The changes that happened in your life were not my fault. I did not cause them.
You had a part in what happened in your life.
Those around you may be too polite to tell you, but they are sick of your self pity. And really, have you no shame about laying your misery on people you scorned and made fun of for so many years?
Digging up my past to make me look worse says a lot about the sad state of your own self-worth.
Yes, what you said, and who you said it to, got to me for awhile.
But what matters most is that it helped me in the long run. I remembered that all those things you dug up were obstacles I'd overcome in my life. And I'm damn proud of where I've been, what I've overcome, and the wonderful woman I am because of, and in spite of, all that's happened in my life.
I am a good parent, raised my daughters on my own. Do you know that there are people who take good, loving, fathers for granted? Hard to imagine, huh? Maybe not.
For me there wasn't anyone around that I could whine to and say "I don't have the emotional bandwidth" and then blame others when things didn't turn out the way I thought they should have. It leaves me to ponder if that kind of an ungrateful person might exist? I don't know.
My daughters are strong, intelligent, self-sufficient young woman who have character, humility and damn good work ethics. They work full time and go to college, an attitude of arrogance and entitlement are not part of their makeup.
You know the things you did, I know them, there is proof.
So nothing was "dropped", it's "on hold." There's plenty of material to keep pursuing the direction things were going. But there are so many more worthy things in life than holding you accountable for your actions.
There are causes and people in our lives that we've made commitments to and holding you accountable was going to be a waste of our time and resources. Your bitter and miserable existence are your natural consequences.
I know in my heart who I am, and along my life's journey I've learned the value of peace.
That peace is so much more valuable than holding you accountable.
Letting go of a quest for justice isn't surrender, or losing, it's victory for me.
I have a happy and fulfilling life with a wonderful man who I don't take for granted as just some "asshat". We enjoy our lives to the fullest and will continue to do so.
Your obsession with what we do and say here at Daily Kos is sick and creepy, but most of all, it is sad.
Please do yourself a favor and get some help.
It is my hope that something will jar you from this cesspool of bitterness and guide you in a positive direction. You do deserve happiness, but you're not going to find it obsessing over our every posting here at Daily Kos.
Best wishes for a healthier and happier future.