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I am a woman.  I work outside my home.  And I am a mom.

Ann Romney does not speak for me.

How often has Ann had to make harried arrangements for someone else to pick up the kids because she couldn't leave work?

How often has Ann slammed out another hour staring at a spreadsheet, then still had to go home to make dinner, lunches for the next day, start a load of laundry and find energy to be "mommy"?

How often has Ann stayed up all night with a sick child, and still had to go to work the next morning?

How often has Ann had wish she could just have a day off, just one?  And maybe a pedicure?

How often has Ann had to go into her boss, and ask to leave early one more time for any one of the multitude of occasions the kids were sick or there was a school event, and suffered that fear of disapproval?

How often has Ann had to figure out a way to carve yet another three hours a week into an already full schedule for an extracurricular activity for the kids, much less tried to figure out how to pay for it?

How often has Ann had to worry about the quality of the education of her children, because all she could afford was the crappy public school even though she's working her ass off?

It's unfortunate that Rosen gave them that little sound byte:

"Ann has never worked a day in her life"

to feed to the stay at home moms.  Being a mom is tough, and that's a real insult.

But I know Rosen didn't mean it like that at all.  I live that life. And Ann Romney doesn't know squat about what it's like for me.

Being a MOM is tough.  But being a WORKING MOM is tougher.

Ann Romney does not speak for me.

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  •  This is easy for a mother to understand. (11+ / 0-)

    It's exponentially easier to raise children if you have a bottomless bank account.
    My daughter has Aspergers---I'm struggling to raise a couple of thousand dollars before the summer in order to send her to a camp for a couple of weeks designed specifically for children with Aspergers. And I'm also struggling with trying to scrape together a few thousand dollars to send her to a private high school in a couple of years to avoid the inevitable bullying.
    These are issues that someone with resources similar to Ann Romney's doesn't have to wrestle with.
    I understood Ms. Rosen's point perfectly. It was a little sloppy, but she didn't say what most people think she said.

    "Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy." -Benjamin Franklin

    by hotdamn on Thu Apr 12, 2012 at 04:19:40 PM PDT

  •  Damn Right Being A Working Mom (14+ / 0-)

    is tougher.  The republicans keep talking about moms, but you notice they aren't talking about working moms.  In republican eyes if you don't stay home and take care of your kids you ain't nothing.  Ann Romney does not know what it means to be a mom who has no choice but to be away from her kids to make sure that there is food on the table, and shoes for the kids.

    "Don't Let Them Catch You With Your Eyes Closed"

    by rssrai on Thu Apr 12, 2012 at 04:21:36 PM PDT

    •  It's about choice. (6+ / 0-)

      Ann Romney had that choice...to stay home or work outside the home.  I didn't have that choice.  I had to work to feed and clothe my children and put a roof over their heads.  

      Ann Romney doesn't have a clue.  And if she had that compassion she says that she and Mittens have, then she wouldn't have responded with the "choice" mess.  

      I do not believe that Ms. Rosen's statement was out of line at all.  What she said was the truth.  And Ann Romney doesn't know the reality of the truth many many many women live everyday.

      •  How infuriatingly placating (1+ / 0-)
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        chimene

        that these people think they can just trot out "Mom Romney" and all of us ladies will just fall in line!  It's such an insult to my intelligence that they think they can talking point me into thinking the likes of Ann Romney has any regard at all for what constitutes AVERAGE American woman's life!

        Being treated like a dope pisses me off.

  •  The guilt. (3+ / 0-)
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    Blue Bell Bookworm, chimene, lctced

    Dropping my child off at day care in the morning, with him hanging on my leg saying "mommy don't leave me."  Picking him up late from day care because of traffic delays due to rain (why can't people drive in the rain?).  He would think I abandoned him.  Trying to fit quality time in the hour or so you have left before going to bed and starting over again the next day.   How can she say her and Mitt have empathy for what people go through.  We were ok financially back then, and when the opportunity to stay home came up, I did, giving up a career to do so.  The guilt of having a child I was not spending any time with got to me.
     

    "They love the founding fathers so much they will destroy everything they created and remake it in Rush Limbaughs image." MinistryofTruth, 9/29/11

    by AnnieR on Thu Apr 12, 2012 at 06:00:40 PM PDT

  •  Rosen was simply not specific. (3+ / 0-)
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    Blue Bell Bookworm, chimene, lctced

    I haven't heard a single criticism of Ann Romney. Not from Rosen or anyone else.

    But most women do work for a paycheck some time in their lives--in high school, during college, even if they stop when they have children. The experience of having to get up in the morning, obey someone else's rules, and make the check stretch for two weeks, is one everyone should have.

    Yes, Ann Romney, you missed something in life. That's not in any way diminishing your great accomplishment as mother of 5.

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