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(I wrote the following after I gave birth to my elder daughter more than 40 years ago.  I was euphoric as the completion of her birth after a marvelously succeeded in birthing her without medication.  She was born in a military hospital in Fort Leavenworth, KS.  She was the first Lamaze Method baby born there.)

No,my daughter, babies do not come from storks!

We've come a long way from when babies came special delivery from this awkward looking bird.

Birth today is much more recognized as a mystery -- a beautiful and exciting experience.

Whatsmore, having a baby does not have to mean pain.  It's always hard work.  But will proper education and stick-to-itiveness, pain doesn't have to be a part of labor any more than it has to be a part of pregnancy.

In addition, having a baby need not be wife's solitary effort.  Instead it can be a shared joy for both husband and wife -- together during labor and delivery.

This is prepared childbirth in a nutshell.  Some people call it the Lamaze (from its innovator, Dr. Fernard Lamaze) Method.  Others mistakenly call it natural childbirth.  Doctors call it the psychoprophylactic method.

A prepared childbirth mother and father simply prepare to have a baby together.

First of all, they're educated to just what to expect during labor and delivery.

Then the wife learns the art of complete relaxation --- immediately responding to her husband's command to relax.

Lastly the wife learns how to breathe during contractions -- from deep abdominal -- to quickened and shallow breathing to mighty pushing to deliver the baby.

So when baby does come, instead of the hospital receiving a fearful tense mother-to-be, they greet a calm and knowledgeable couple ready to have their baby together with dignity and love.

Prepared childbirth -- an experience of a lifetime!

Thank God, another and better way has been found for babies to enter the world than by storks.

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  •  I took Lamaze classes and tried it (2+ / 0-)
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    BPARTR, Odysseus

    with our son 20 years ago.  Halfway through I was begging for relief;  it was too late for an epidural but I did get some painkiller.  With our daughter 13 years ago I requested the epidural ahead of time and enjoyed a blissfully pain free delivery.  Ah, science!

  •  I had a drug free delivery too. (2+ / 0-)
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    historys mysteries, Odysseus

    Thank you Dr. Lamaze.
    I stood in a hot shower for over an hour to ease back labor and it worked. There are lots of things that can be done to make things easier. Midwives totally rock!

    My mother did natural child birth as well, although the doctor insisted she have the anesthesia bubbling next to her the whole time, just in case and they left my dad outside, lol!

  •  Gravity. (2+ / 0-)
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    Renee, Odysseus

    Walk.
    Stay on your feet as long as possible.
    Once you're in the bed on your back with the intervenous lines hooked up ...it's their game.

    The pain of childbirth is empowering.

    "Children who are victims of failed personal responsibility are not my problem, nor are they the problem for our government." Tim Pawlenty April 2001

    by cosette on Thu May 10, 2012 at 09:25:22 PM PDT

  •  Personally, I would have preferred (2+ / 0-)
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    chicago minx, Odysseus

    to spend my entire pregnancy unconscious, and get a baby at the end.

    But then again, I am not exactly a blooming rose of happiness when pregnant.

    When you come to find how essential the comfort of a well-kept home is to the bodily strength and good conditions, to a sound mind and spirit, and useful days, you will reverence the good housekeeper as I do above artist or poet, beauty or genius.

    by Alexandra Lynch on Thu May 10, 2012 at 10:27:25 PM PDT

  •  there is no best way (4+ / 0-)

    The definition of a sucessful labor is a healthy baby and a healthy mom.  

    Congrats granny on a sucessful childbirth without pain medicines.  Of note, babies on average weigh a pound more now than just a decade ago, let alone forty years.  The birth canal has not grown significantly in that time...

    For some reason those who have less painful labors, or who accept more pain often feel superior to those who opt for a painless labor, and even sometimes try to shame them into forgoing pain relief. (granny, I am not accusing you of this.  I understand that your writing is really mostly concerned with the miracle of birth.). There is an enormous difference between labors, however, even for the same woman.  What is right in one case is not necessarily right in another.  Despite what some would try to tell is,  delievery with pain is not more laudable than childbirth without pain. By contrast, those who opt for an epidural rarely try to shame those who opt to go "natural ".

    As my father used to say,"We have the best government money can buy."

    by BPARTR on Thu May 10, 2012 at 10:50:45 PM PDT

    •  By the way (1+ / 0-)
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      Melanie in IA

      I have personally performed more than twenty thousand epidurals for labor.  Except for some rare medical conditions, I would never pressure a woman to have pain relief she did not want, but I do believe that every woman( regardless of insurance or no insurance) deserves pain relief if she asks for it.  

      No judgments.  

      As my father used to say,"We have the best government money can buy."

      by BPARTR on Thu May 10, 2012 at 10:55:25 PM PDT

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    •  I'm not berating those who get pain relief (1+ / 0-)
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      nicolemm

      However, none of my children were below 8 pounds.  I had five of them, on the average of 4 years apart.  The last two were induced, which often makes labor even more unbearable.  Normally I weigh just over 100 pounds, but once a doctor told me that my pelvic was made perfectly for having babies.

      Nevertheless, when I go for a tooth cleaning, I ask for something to deaden the pain.  I think we all have a pain threshold, and only we can judge what is best for us.

      I certainly don't feel superior to those who don't use Lamaze. I'm training to be a doula, after all.

      Remember, I wrote that Lamaze isn't natural childbirth.  It is a stimulus-response practice.  When you feel the contraction (We don't say pain.), you respond with a particular type of breathing, plus total relaxation of all other muscles.  Lastly you almost go into a trance coming out when the contraction subsides.  It's also good to know that most contractions last only about a minute.  You take it a minute at a time, and again relax between.

      I had my first child unmedicated until they gave me a spinal block towards the end.  I was miserable through the whole thing.  I swore after that bad experience that next time, there had to be a better way.  

      Making a better world for those who follow us!

      by people power granny on Fri May 11, 2012 at 10:26:36 AM PDT

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  •  As I vaguely recollect, and I do mean vaguely! (2+ / 0-)
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    myboo, Odysseus

    I wasn't planning on medication, and ended up getting through on about a quarter the usual dosage. Couldn't go as natural as theoretically possible, what with being 44 and pre-eclamptic.

    thanks to the DH's eagle eye and stern measures, I never actually tipped over into eclampsia, but it took him a LOT of work! and the last month off work, with him taking my BP every hour, and charting it -- impressed the nurses a bunch! He was pretty impressive during delivery too!

    "real" work : a job where you wash your hands BEFORE you use the bathroom...

    by chimene on Fri May 11, 2012 at 12:20:14 AM PDT

  •  I need to look closer before I vote! The best way (1+ / 0-)
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    Odysseus

    is the one that ends up with a healthy baby and mother. I was able to have mine without medication. I do have another option, though, used by my sister-TENS. It is electrical stimulation controlled by the patient, she was happy with it. On the other hand, I know 2 people that recently had abdominal surgery. They were given epidurals for a few days for pain control after the surgery. They were still able to get up and walk.

    Oh for crying out loud!

    by 4mygirls on Fri May 11, 2012 at 05:04:10 AM PDT

  •  Being prepared, (2+ / 0-)
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    Odysseus, shanikka

    understanding what contractions are intended for, knowing to relax into them (with or without a husband to command it) can only help the mother, and the baby, too.

    I did not have pain relief, but I didn't have a choice. My small hospital, at the time my son was born 23.5 years ago, did NOT have an anesthesiologist qualified to do epidurals. I could have general anesthesia in an emergency, but that was the only choice.

    I did well, no pain until the very (and I mean VERY) end. But my son was more than 8 pounds and I am not large. He was stuck. Forceps were required. I doubt if most women could relax through that, regardless of training and best intentions.

    Do not condemn those who choose pain relief. Would you have surgery or have your broken arm set without pain relief? I doubt it.  

    Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

    by Melanie in IA on Fri May 11, 2012 at 06:41:37 AM PDT

  •  Midwives! (0+ / 0-)

    and/or doulas

    I was "prepared" but my first son was born C-section, partly due to posterior presentation, partly due to having a doctor who was of the "where did you get you medical degree?" mindset. In the small town where I lived then I did not see that I had choices...

    So for my second son;s birth, I was genuinely prepared, I read books, did some non- mainstream mental and physical exercises, interviewed midwives and picked a team. Then I got very lucky,  a new woman doctor came to town who was willing to work with the midwives. So I had a natural VBAC, no pain meds at all for that one. I won;t say it was pain free, and it was very long and we had to get past a cervical lip , but I remember it as WAY less painful than having surgery

    I think my c-section for my first was totally preventable, both were big babies, but my second son was bigger overall and had a bigger head too

    -7.75, -6.05 And these wars; they can't be won Does anyone know or care how they begun?-Matt Bellamy

    by nicolemm on Fri May 11, 2012 at 07:17:48 PM PDT

    •  Great! (0+ / 0-)

      Dedication to be prepared is crucial.  I thought with my first that it would be no big deal as far as pain.  I was unprepared and very much in pain.

      With my second on, I was prepared, taking childbirth classes and Lamaze refreshers with each.  It worked!

      Of course, the first is usually the hardest to birth, so it probably was much more of a impact on my body.  That first one also taught me a big lesson.

      All said, however, to each their own!  Having a baby is a very personal experience, involving personal decisions.

      Like someone else said, a healthy baby and mommy is all that really counts.

      Making a better world for those who follow us!

      by people power granny on Fri May 11, 2012 at 07:29:25 PM PDT

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