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This had just been the best, most gorgeous day in Minnesota. And you know what? It was cloudy and rainy here all day, right up till the 3:00 vote on gay marriage rights. Then the skies cleared in what seemed like moments, and the sun poured down on us. At almost the exact moment of the last vote. It was as if all the heavens approved, contrary to the Michelle Bachmann rant, which I'll get to in a bit.

First things first. My son is gay and was at the capitol this afternoon with thousands of others. He came home as joyous as I've seen him in years, and seemed to this mother's eye to be walking taller. The embrace we shared when he walked into our house will be with me till my dying day.

There were so many who made this happen. One couple in particular, who have so touched my heart. Their gay son died in Afghanistan, and since then they have devoted themselves to making gay marriage legal in Minnesota. They have done amazing things. Here's a story on them that I think is well worth the read.

I was driving home from a work appointment, listening to my little progressive radio station, and this couple was being interviewed. I was crying so hard---the fabulous release of a battle hard won--- I had the urge to turn on my window shield wipers, even though the sun was shining on our little corner of the earth. These people and so many others, including myself, have worked hard for this, and today it came true. And I felt young again. Yes I did. Because what makes you feel young is believing dreams come true.

Now my son has choices. He loves the Twin Cities, it's his home place. Now he has the choice to stay if that's what's right for him, rather than being chased from here in search of his full rights. And what's more, he's seen that little by little, more and more, the America he calls his home land is willing to see him as an equal. To pay him the respect as a human being that should have been his due the day he was born.

As a mother, I'm so happy to see that he will not have to marinate in anger and disappointment. That he can move forward knowing sometimes things turn out right. We all need to believe in that to keep chugging along, in whatever battles we fight.

As for Bachmann, she made such outrageous comments today, that I truly doubt her full sanity. I'm sure this will be covered here, so I'll leave that to others. She'll not rain on my parade, not one fucking drop. I can only hope her threats are true, and that she's packing up her family to head for some other place as we speak.

In conclusion, the dictionary simply doesn't have the words for how I feel tonight. Happiness, joy, relief---they all only get half way there.    

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  •  Congratulations to you and your son (11+ / 0-)

    It doesn't matter what the weather was like. Today was a beautiful.

    Here's to looking ahead to many more.

    P.S. I am not a crackpot.

    by BoiseBlue on Mon May 13, 2013 at 04:44:49 PM PDT

  •  so happy for your son and you ! n/t (6+ / 0-)

    Conservatism is killing this country. Jayden

    by swampyankee on Mon May 13, 2013 at 05:17:40 PM PDT

  •  Thank You For This Diary And For Bringing The (6+ / 0-)

    CNN story to our attention.

    It is a must read.

    "I think that gay marriage is something that should be between a man and a woman.” - Arnold Schwarzenegger 2003

    by kerplunk on Mon May 13, 2013 at 05:24:30 PM PDT

    •  Yes. (6+ / 0-)

      These people are the kind of people that make you happy to be human. And they give me hope.  And God knows, we can all use some more hopeful. These parents lost their blessed child, who died fighting for a country that would not give him his full rights. But they stepped right over all that, and put their elbow grease into honoring him in the best way they could. One can only say "bravo!"

      Thank you for adding in here. I'm very appreciative of those who have found their way to my diary to share in my joy.

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 05:40:30 PM PDT

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  •  Thanks so much for sharing your story, and (7+ / 0-)

    this is such a great day not just for Minnesota, but for the whole country. It's an example of what is right about our country, Minnesotans and Americans at their very best.

    I would like to think that even if I had some religious problem with homosexuality I would support marriage equality on the basis of the basic human right to experience happiness along with every other facet of the human condition.

    I resent that. I demand snark, and overly so -- Markos Moulitsas.

    by commonmass on Mon May 13, 2013 at 05:43:25 PM PDT

    •  Amen. (4+ / 0-)
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      And I use that word not so much religiously, but as the last word on what this country long ago literally declared itself behind in the Declaration of Independence, "Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness."  

      As for myself, I see no correlation between being a good Christian and denying my son his civil rights. For me, the two are not able to be intertwined. If you consider yourself a Christian, and are still willing to say my son does not deserve what you do, then to me, you are not a good Christian.

      While I have no desire to talk anyone out of their religious beliefs, I have a great desire to state MY view of what I would hope Christianity is---as in what would Christ have done?

      Although raised as a Christian, I long ago realized I may not be one. Because if being Christian means my son is not entitled to the potential for full happiness, including marrying the one he loves, and having a family, well then, I just might not be a Christian.  

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 06:08:03 PM PDT

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      •  Lutherans were important to winning in MN (7+ / 0-)

        The ability of the marriage equality movement to gain support from the Lutheran Church as well as other mainline Protestant Churches was important.   I think this really undercut the efforts of the Catholic Church and the more fundamentalist Christians aren't that powerful in Minnesota.  

        There was support from the Jewish community as well and very vocal support from Jewish legislators in the Twin Cities.

        •  Thanks for this input, greenbell. (5+ / 0-)

          It is so easy to blame the religious right in this country, and not give due credit to the religious fair, square and open minded.  I know you're right about those religious places that are now speaking up for gay rights, or at least not stopping them. And it is absolutely true that we couldn't have moved to where we are without their help.

          I just wish that Christianity in America would take the HUGE LEAP, and embarrass anyone who dared to try to say that my son does not deserve his full rights because he is gay. I wish that Christianity would disavow those who would deny my son what he deserves. In short, I wish Christianity would step up to the plate with a voice loud and proud for what Christ, as they describe him, would have said.

          But hey, progress happens an inch at a time, and even though I have a gay son, this does not entitle me to more progress or justice than any of us get day by day, inch by inch. It's a long fight.

          But today, in Minnesota, we more than made up for our inch of progress. YAY!  

          "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

          by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 07:29:34 PM PDT

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        •  Lutheran splinter groups (5+ / 0-)

          I live in Minneapolis, but the Lutheran Church in my hometown split off from the ELCA to join a small splinter group because this church felt the ELCA was too friendly for them.

          No one was going to make them hire gay ministers, but apparently, simply knowing that somewhere out there, there were gay-friendly ELCA churches was just too much for them.

          But perhaps there are benefits to splintering. It can be like removing shackles, the group isn't chained down by their anti-gay churches. The splinter group is quite small. The splinter group, the NALC (North American Lutheran Church) has 348 congregations to the ELCA's 10,008.

          The wolfpack eats venison. The lone wolf eats mice.

          by A Citizen on Mon May 13, 2013 at 07:31:26 PM PDT

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          •  Interesting post. Thank you. (4+ / 0-)
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            And yes, I DEFINITELY think there's a benefit to splintering. And it's just what you say. It removes the shackles from those of us who wish to move forward.

            Let those who cannot move forward splinter into their own little place on earth. I guess there's room for them to be their own island. At least that's what our constitution says.

            So they splinter and enjoy their freedom to do so, and in the meantime, the rest of us move on w/out them being an anchor on the progress the majority wants.

            Oh, would it only be so for the GOP.

            "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

            by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 07:45:38 PM PDT

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      •  I was in the state capitol rotunda yesterday, (1+ / 0-)
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        waiting with hundreds of others for the vote count. I was right behind an absolute phalanx of clergy, including Lutheran, Jewish, Unitarian.
        I was directly across from a sign that Catholics for Equality had unfurled from the second floor balcony.
        So, you are not alone in wanting the best for your son and others!

    •  Oh my gosh, (4+ / 0-)
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      I got so tangled up in the religious issue, I forgot to thank you for being here and sharing in my joy.

      Thanks ever so for being here tonight w/me commonmass. I know how well you understand my happiness. And I hope you are moving along that road to finding joy again for yourself after your loss.

      Life is so hard. But worth it, yes?

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 06:16:12 PM PDT

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  •  {{{{{{{{Stella Ray}}}}}}}}} (6+ / 0-)

    I felt the same way when our state, Washington, recognized marriage equality.

    My son's still in college for the next few years (and too young  to be thinking about marriage!) but knowing that when his friends wedding invitations inevitably start coming our way, we'll be able to send out announcements legally and fully equal to those of his straight's a feeling that I can't describe.

    Here's to someday being mothers of grooms equal before the law. Oh and grandkids...(eventually :)

    We view "The Handmaid's Tale" as cautionary. The GOP views it as an instruction book.

    by Vita Brevis on Mon May 13, 2013 at 05:56:04 PM PDT

    •  Where are the teary emoticons when you need them? (5+ / 0-)

      Thanks Vita. Your comment went straight to my heart. So good to connect with other jungle mamas---those of us who will fight forever for our children, and what this country promised them from the get go.  

      And yes, "here's to someday being mothers of the grooms equal before the law."  Won't that be a glorious day?!

      When my son came out to us, he expressed fear we'd be disappointed somehow, even though he knows both his parents are bomb throwing liberals. But he was worried that somehow he was depriving us of those parental things like standing up at their child's marriage, and having grandchildren.

      His fear of that tore my heart up at the time. I tried so hard to find the words to tell him that I only cared about his happiness, that I'd had my share of happiness, am responsible for my own happiness, and didn't need him to deliver that to me.

      But today in Minnesota makes it all possible. For him. And that's what it's all about. I never had to face what he has in his life. For me, so much was a given that was not for him. Now it's a given for him too, in this great state of Minnesota.

      Again, at a loss for the joyful emoticon.  

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 06:30:47 PM PDT

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  •  {{{{Stella Ray & Son}}}} (4+ / 0-)
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    Today IS a beautiful!  :)  

    Don't let anybody rain on your parade, or your son's, either!  

    I felt like bursting into song, when I heard it on the news at work "Oh what a beautiful morning, oh what a beautiful day!  I've got a beautiful feeling...."  

    Just wonderful, wonderful news - the dominoes are falling and I really, really hope that Florida will be on it's way to tipping over within the next couple of election cycles - if South Florida ran the state, we'd already be there, we have to wait a little longer to get past the stubborn north / north central retiree brigade.  

    I really want my darling nephew's mommies to be able to marry their loves.  

    "Focusing your life solely on making a buck shows a certain poverty of ambition. It asks too little of yourself. Because it's only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential." - Barack Obama

    by Ricochet67 on Mon May 13, 2013 at 06:35:48 PM PDT

    •  With special thanks to BoiseBlue, (3+ / 0-)
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      yes, "today is a beautiful!"

      And I LOVE what you said here: "the dominos are falling." Oh yes, they are! And now I will put you and your darling nephew in my prayers that Florida comes next....well, um, or at least as soon as possible considering the current political landscape there.  But hey, despite Rick Scott and any other Florida crazies---and God knows we've ours in Minnesota---Florida DID vote for Obama in the end.

      As Dylan would say "the times, they are a changin'" And Ricochet, I just know your "darling nephew" is going to see a better world in this respect. Somehow.

      Thank you for being here, and adding into my happiness tonight.

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 06:52:01 PM PDT

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  •  Congratulations, StellaRay! (3+ / 0-)
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    and to your son, and to everyone else in MN. This is a great day for your state.

    •  Thanks, Mike. (4+ / 0-)

      I love hearing from you. I always feel we're a river apart, but so close in our aims.

      And yes, this is truly a great day for our state. I love that we're up there amongst the first in what is inevitable.

      Now---grrrrrrrrrrrrr----I have to find a way to fight for my home state, Wisconsin. Wisconsin should be right there with us today, by every measure of the state I grew up in.  And I will continue to find ways to fight for my home state, from another state across the river.

      My heart will always have room for both Minnesota, my now life, and Wisconsin, my past life. And so will my fight.

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 06:59:47 PM PDT

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      •  Enjoy your victory, for today. (4+ / 0-)

        Ours will take longer. It will come, but it's not going to happen overnight. We've got the game rigged against us, but we're continuing to fight.

        For tonight, and for the near future, enjoy what Minnesota has done. Perhaps that's the best thing you can do for Wisconsin, to show us that a progressive state can be successful.

        •  And I'm going to be there to fight w/you (2+ / 0-)
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          for Wisconsin, in every way I can. Much of my political donation money goes to my home state. Not only because I loved growing up there, and how it once was, but because I have so many friends there who are screaming under Scott Walker.

          But yes, for tonight I'm going to just be happy we got where got in Minnesota. And maybe what you say is true. Maybe Minnesota might just embarrass Wisconsin for being so far behind the times. And not just regarding gay rights.

          We are currently doing better than Wisconsin in many ways. And I have to say, imo, this is in large part due to our very good governor, Mark Dayton, who has done a brilliant job of flying under the national radar, much like Al Franken. Dayton has avoided being a target for the right, at least on a national and noteworthy level.

          And, he did hold off a republican house and senate between 2010 and 2012. And he wasn't noisy about it. He just did it by quietly making clear what he'd back and what he wouldn't. He's done a good job.

          And to all those here who would and do say, regularly, that there's no differance between democrats and republicans, that it's all a big money sell out, I would say to you---not according to my son. And not today.

          "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

          by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 08:17:40 PM PDT

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  •  And Now We Are So Happy (3+ / 0-)
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    •  HUGE GRIN. (2+ / 0-)
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      Thank you, koseighty! Yet another smile to add to my night. Lord, It's an embarrassment of riches!

      "A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues." Theodore Roosevelt.

      by StellaRay on Mon May 13, 2013 at 07:03:33 PM PDT

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