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is that i could watch the shutdown travesty unfold round the clock.  and i have.

hi.

i'm back, sorta.

well, i'm still in hospital - been here since monday.  tried to get message out but phone is not working in here - messages don't send.  calls, intermittent.  

the peace and quiet (aside from cspan) has been good.

on top of everything else - getting home is getting to be a big fucking deal.  getting my stuff out of 88 yr old woman's house and back to mine has been complicated - to the point i'm ready to leave hospital and go move sh*t myself tomorrow - i NEED my effin' jewelry - if i don't make up for lost time, i lose much more than my sanity.

i missed you folks.

really.

almost dying will do that to ya.

below the fold is the whine - you don't have to read if you're not in the mood - i'm needing to vent as much as i dare at the moment.

okay - here's wtf happened.

the elderly woman i moved in with to help (because she was afraid to be alone, she said when she friggin BEGGED me to move in) - was very sick. undiagnosed uti - over medicated and taking a ton of meds that were having negative interactions.  her blood pressure was hovering between high 170s and 190s (think stroke time).

the day after i moved in, she was confused, dizzy, incoherent - i called my friend and her daughter and said - urgent care or e.r. - but tomorrow! no excuses.  the next two weeks involved finding her 40 yr old bed with lumpy mattress cover was killing her very scoliatic back, she was nauseaus and taking prescreption meds for nausea - then taking meds for dizziness (caused by nausea meds) and xanax and percoced and ambien and hi blood pressure meds (too little), antibiotics FINALLY prescribed for uti and more.

insisted she take bp every few hours, did chart, sent to dr and he corrected her meds down to 135 - 145.

got her healthy then she turned.  decided i was staying "out too later" for a sigle woman (wasn't in by 8pm nightly).  then got nasty and finally sweetly told me she wanted to live alone and to move.

NOT a problem - i was SOOO ready after spending two months getting her healthy and NOT doing my own work. . .  except...

the next morning at 6:30 am, had MAJOR gall bladder attack.  so bad, ended up at the e.r. - wasn't sure if heart attack or gall bladder.  was fairly sure it was the organ i'd ever thought about before in my entire life.

the e.r. doc had me an appt withn the hr with a gall bladder surgeon - and less than 48 hrs later, i was on the table.  day surgery.  was an easy surgery.

so, out it came and at the end of day, i peed and they sent me back to the old woman's house.  dtr had asked me to wait until jan 1 due to the fact they would have to pay someone a minimum of $3k a month to stay with mom due to fact she couldn't stay alone at night and i was staying for free.  

i figured i'd recover - then work with them to find someone. and move my sh*t home.  ha!  every day, the woman paid someone to stay over and spent the entire time on phone or talking to woman grousing about how i "stayed out late" every night.  now i'm the most boring person in the world - i am either taking care of my pony, taking care of friends in trouble OR (one a month) going to large animal evac meeting (volunteer to rescue horses in danger of fire, earthquake, etc) - yeah, i'm a real "party girl".

by monday, i was ready for the doc followup to get the hay out... problem was my appt was tues and i showed up monday.  when i found out, told the doc's secretary that they had a choice for me - urgent care OR the e.r. - they sent me to e.r. and they immediately put in catheter - i filled two liters immediately and within an hour, dumped another two liters and another 4 liters in less than a day.  urine backed up into kidneys, kidneys showed markers for damage - so i was on iv of saline - constantly for two days and had bright pink uring from overstretching bladder and the blood vessels tearing loose.

by now, i KNOW i am not returning to the house where i was "helping" everybody but myself... the problem was - all my stuff i need to survive was there - ALL my jewelry supplies and findings and completed orders - my tv (for cspan) - you know, the essentials!

so, i'm trying to coordinate with dtr to get stuff back into my own place instead of scattered all over effin' world.  

add to this, the barn has no idea why i've not been over to pay more on sani's board.  how do you spell s... h... i... t...?

okay - sani's meds, i've got covered, his food, covered.  i've got two weeks to get everyting together because i have to go to n.c. on the 25th to meet with my lawyer for stage two - oh, yeah, that side of my "simple life".

that, all i will say for the moment, is going in the right direction.  the caveat is filed, my sister served - her attempt to force the sale of mom's house went to court on the first with my lawyer in the courtroom - we agreed to the sale PROVIDED that all funds will be put in the estate until the caveat is resolved so my sister can't strip out money from the house (as she was trying) AND i will go over to see the home of my youth and privately say goodbye to mom and dad and see if there is anything left that belonged to my parents.  then the legal wars begin... but my lawyer was very pleased, as was i, when the day ended... SOON, my life will return to being my own.

but, for the minute, i'm still screwed, financially.  fortunately, i've a good lawyer who is working with me to set things right - and, unfortunately, for my sister, he, too, believes in honor.

stress, much?

you know your life sucks when a three day stay in the hospital appears like a mini vacation!

oh, yeah - then, the young e.r. doc who tried to discharge me today without even physically examining me or informing me of what was going on in MY body learned never, never, never mess with a horsewoman!  i threw him OUT of my room after telling him i was NOT leaving today because i was told i would be discharged tomorrow (and why) and that going back "home" was not an option on no notice because my friends waited to move my sh*t (thank you, george carlin, i LOVE your definition!).

after i told him to send another doc, he actually had the temerity to threaten me with being billed if i didn't leave when he discharged me - i smiled and asked for the kaiser grievance form, his very nice associate brought it, i called medicare and actually can stay til THEY tell me the appeal is rejected - another 2-3 days, BUT i want out of here!.  then i called the kaiser hospital patient relations line and told them to send me a new doc.  needless to say, the original doc isn't my doc any more - then i asked for social services, explained the situation to both her, my surgeon and told them my hope was to make the doc a BETTER doc, when all was said and done.  medicare works.  i'm glad i survived long enough to use it!

so, my stuff is half returned, the rest on it's way back - and i'm going to be working wittle fingers off tomorrow (uh, yeah, at some point, i need to get back to physical therapy on my... dur... fingers!

BUT, for a week, i get to wear a catheter, then, i get to retrain my bladder to behave on command (hrummpf - sit up, roll over, bark?) then i'm back to normal.

the hospital corrider is interesting.  one patient just had hip replacement and keeps forgetting he is in hospital - partially deaf, so his "call button" is his voice.  fortunately, got to talk to his lovely wife today and let her know kaiser now has an acupunctue dept that might help him.  twice now, at 2:30 in the morning, poor guy rolled over and yelped.  told the nurses who were with him at the time they needed to check the morgue in the basement cuz i was SURE he woke the residents up!  - so i got to watch the replay of cspan and bonehead whining.

in the meantime,  I'M fine!

oh, forgot, i think my phone is broken... silence is golden.... most of the time - it's like having my phone screen my calls for me!  ;)

okay... enjoy george!

OH! OH! OH! OH!   i forgot the BEST news of all!!!!

my friend's sammy girl had PUPPIES!! yes, poppy had four little "seedlings" - and i'm bringing one home!  let me be the first to introduce you to "alta's dancin' in the moonlight"

his dad's name is "stolychnya and he believes in living up to dad's name!  - at 2 1/2 weeks, here's da BABY!  

SEEEEPin' not dancin'

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and here he is just hours old - bet you can't pick him out!  ;^)

poppy and her seedlings

so, life does get better.... if you wait long enough!

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  •  I remember when my mother (10+ / 0-)

    had her gallbladder removed. The next week she developed a stomach bug that left her so dehydrated I took her to the ER, and only relaxed when they announced her BP was normal. She was in overnight while they rehydrated her. (Her surgeon gave her a hard time about it when he was doing rounds.)

    (Is it time for the pitchforks and torches yet?)

    by PJEvans on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:35:14 PM PDT

    •  so glad she was okay! (8+ / 0-)

      i ended up with two days worth of non-stop iv to flush out my kidneys and restore the balance.  the weight i loss before i got sick is now back in water weight!  - can't win sometimes!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:41:48 PM PDT

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      •  Thanks for the update Edrie. (6+ / 0-)

        So glad you're feeling better? A little. You sure went through a lot here.

        I stayed overnight when I had my gallbladder out because I had no one to take care of me at home.

        Two people in scrubs tried to send me home in the recovery area. Luckily for me I couldn't even lift me head. They were trying to send me home before a doctor even saw me after my operation or gave me pain meds.

        As it was patient care is abysmal where I was. The nurses, refused to give me water because I said no when they wanted me to use a bed pan. Guess they didn't care if I got dehydrated.

        A nurses aid I knew came by after an hour or two and got me some water. She arranged me in the bed with pillows too.

        The nurses had just put me there and left. I couldn't move to re-arrange my body and just laid there haphazardly.

        My hospital was so bad they were forced to sell it to another company.

        I was sure you'd have a much easier time than I did. Guess you didn't.

        I put the link to your Shop on my blogroll. Hope you get a lot of business Edrie. Your jewelry is beautiful.

        Brought To You By That Crazed Sociologist/Media Fanatic rebel ga Be The Change You Want To See In The World! Gandhi

        by rebel ga on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:54:19 PM PDT

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        •  thanks, rebel ga - i'm a kaiser member and i (4+ / 0-)
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          am 99.990 percent satisfied - that little 0.009 percent will be corrected.

          when i get angry, i turn green and people don't LIKE me.  i don't get personal, i get factually specific.  ;^)

          for the most part, kaiser is great - a few folks working here wander in by mistake, but they usually don't last long in this system.

          there is a great grievance and review process - i know, i use it well to praise AND to criticize WITH suggestions how to repair the problems.

          well, i may try to sleep early since i'm going home tomorrow...  can't wait to get outta here!

          EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

          by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 08:09:13 PM PDT

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        •  your experience is abominable! they were ASKING (2+ / 0-)
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          for complications - they were lucky you didn't have them!

          i'm glad they got sold - they don't deserve to work a mortuary, much less a place where the clients are still breathing!

          EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

          by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 08:10:26 PM PDT

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  •  Be well, edrie. (10+ / 0-)

    ,)

    I would rather spend my life searching for truth than live a single day within the comfort of a lie. ~ John Victor Ramses

    by KayCeSF on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:39:33 PM PDT

  •  Aloha edrie-- (6+ / 0-)

    I'm sending positive thoughts your way--

    My good habits are suicidal and my bad habits bully them.

    by tharu1 on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:40:30 PM PDT

  •  edrie please take care... (7+ / 0-)

    I'm sorry this happened to you.

  •  Glad things are looking up. Hope you feel (7+ / 0-)

    better soon!

    if a habitat is flooded, the improvement for target fishes increases by an infinite percentage...because a habitat suitability index that is even a tiny fraction of 1 is still infinitely higher than zero, which is the suitability of dry land to fishes.

    by mrsgoo on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:44:59 PM PDT

    •  i'm glad, too - and feeling majory like an over (4+ / 0-)
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      inflated tire at the moment, swimming in my own skin, but my doc says it's normal to feel like 55 psi for a normal 35 psi...

      the tire analogy is in honor of hospital eggs that taste like the chicken walked from china in rubber boots, stepping in every road kill blotch on the way for seasoning.

      NEVER NEVER NEVER order eggs from hospital menu!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:52:54 PM PDT

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  •  edrie, I'm so sorry (8+ / 0-)

    that you've been through so much! Sending lots of love and healing thoughts

    What an adorable puppy!!!!

    •  through all of this, i've just been muttering (7+ / 0-)

      PUPPY PUPPY PONY PONY PUPPY PUPPY!!!

      my friend is so awesome - on way back from n.c. to see mom's house for last time and say goodbye to mom and dad, (AND meet with my lawyer), i'm flying through chicago and they are meeting me in airport with the baby.

      i can survive ANYTHING for sani and a puppy!

      this is my last chance in life for a puppy - sams live 15+ years - and in 5 days i'll be 68.  if i wait much longer, a sammy pup would outlive me.  my friend is offically his "co-owner", so if something happens to me, i know he'll be okay!

      he was born on a full moon - so his name is from the song "dancin' in the moonlight" - it fits!

      when poppy got tired of nursing one day (at 4 wks), she got out of whelping box and "scraped" the seedlings off - all except for baby, who hung on until the middle of the bedroom floor, FINALLY dropped off and then started barking until someone came and got him and took him back to bed.

      the lyrics of "dancin' in the moonlight" have one stanza that says "they don't bark and they don't bite..."  - well, it's HALF right!

      enjoy!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:01:14 PM PDT

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  •  xoXO(((((♥edrie♥)))))OXox (7+ / 0-)

    I ♥ President Barack Obama.

    by ericlewis0 on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:50:36 PM PDT

  •  Omg!!! edrie!!!!! (8+ / 0-)

    Huge hug and many prayers.  You are on my prayer list.  Please recover soon.

    " My faith in the Constitution is whole; it is complete; it is total." Barbara Jordan, 1974

    by gchaucer2 on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:53:16 PM PDT

    •  thanks - gettin' there! NO more fatty foods EVER! (3+ / 0-)
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      SANI will be SOOOOO pleased!  well, i wanted to get back to my ideal weight of 145....

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:15:26 PM PDT

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      •  No more fast foods for me. (3+ / 0-)
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        Without the gallbladder I can't tolerate all the carbs, spices, oil, etc. I tried to eat them again one more time last week and really looked at what I was eating.

        Decided better to get my sandwich meat at the deli counter in the supermarket and make my own sandwiches. Lot less fat, salt, etc.

        Decided a grilled cheese sandwich with sliced tomato was much healthier than pizza.

        I too am in the process of losing 50 pounds. Since I stopped eating fast food and potatos even once a week. I seem to be losing weight.

        Ever hear of Ezekiel Bread? It's usually in the Organic, frozen food case.

        I buy the kind with sunflower seeds. It's really good. $4.99 a loaf, but worth it. Much more filling than plain bread and 8% protein in each slice.

        All the best Edrie, feel better soon.

        Brought To You By That Crazed Sociologist/Media Fanatic rebel ga Be The Change You Want To See In The World! Gandhi

        by rebel ga on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 08:13:51 PM PDT

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        •  thanks, reb g... (2+ / 0-)
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          i'm with ya on the fast foods - started slacking a bit after tee died - while he was alive, i wouldn't eat anything he couldn't eat - and while he lived 3 1/2 yrs with his diabetes managed, i started eating what i cooked for HIM and  i started losing weight and feeling great, too!  fresh steamed veggies, sofo (brown rice and lentils), rolled oats or grits, lean pork or buffalo and pumpkin!  i'm going back to tee's diet of fresh and healthy!

          funny how "REAL" food is so much healthier!  will try the ezekiel - my "passion", though, is my "namesake" bread - schwarzwalder pumpernickel - love it. don't eat plain bread any more.  may start baking again when estate settles and i settle.

          i love to bake and want to try cooking with stevia and whole healthy grains!

          i'm on a mission now and have been since tee - fresh additive free and no additives, antibiotics, organic only!

          EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

          by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 11:40:11 PM PDT

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  •  The best thing about being in a hospital (7+ / 0-)

    is getting out of it. 4 years ago I had an almost fatal heat attack. 4 days in ICU the first 2 with a catheter shoved up the you know where. I had more tubes and wires coming out of me than a V8 engine. I was hooked up to an automatic blood pressure tester that went off every 15 minutes, just could not sleep.
    What was really odd is that every one working in the ICU was way overweight, some of them really obese. they were dressed  in pink.  Drugged up as I was they looked like a bunch of pink hippos floating around. I'm like: why me??

    get well quick, edrie

    Happy just to be alive

    by exlrrp on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 06:55:43 PM PDT

    •  oops, just disturbed the hall LOLing! (5+ / 0-)

      i can imagine that!

      fortunately, i'm already a night owl so the sounds were fascinating - lots of hands on data collecting for down the road.  one thing kaiser does right is EVERYONE is all smiles and works very hard to make people feel secure.  i really like kaiser!

      now when that young doc finishes getting schooled (i get to do an evaluation - i'll be fair but firm and specific as to why i "fired" him) - well, like i mentioned, he'll never take on a horsewoman as a patient ever again!  even the nurses were grinning in their sleeves!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:14:35 PM PDT

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  •  Quite a story. (7+ / 0-)

    I can see how it has different sub-plots and extensions going on, enough to turn it into a novel.

    Except as Tom Clancy (may he rest in peace) once said, "It's hard to write fiction, because fiction has to make sense."

    Glad to hear you got through the hospital part.  Whew!

    Courtesy is owed. Respect is earned. Love is given. (Unknown author, found in Guide to Texas Etiquette by Kinky Friedman)

    by marykmusic on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:00:27 PM PDT

    •  just heard about tom clancy - i've even forgiven (6+ / 0-)

      him for the last book he "phoned in" using a ghost.  i love his work.

      and, yes, this one has much potential.  kept honing my skills keeping the nurses cracking up during a rather difficult several days - couple of interesting hall mates.  i've had a private room with a view - been nicer than some hotels i've stayed in - AND with room service, to boot!  the chef, however............

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:11:40 PM PDT

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    •  Don't know about a novel (4+ / 0-)
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      but it certainly would make for a soap opera - not all things end at the same time.

      Edrie, nice to see your sense of humor didn't come out with your gall bladder. Wishing you well and happy quickly. Cute puppy, too. Must get his own chapter in the soap...

      Being attentive to the needs of others might not be the point of life, but it is the work of life. It can be ... almost impossibly difficult. But it is not something we give. It is what we get in exchange for having to die. - Jonathan Safran Foer

      by ramara on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:41:19 PM PDT

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  •  edrie, (5+ / 0-)
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    I texted you last night, was waiting to hear from you and now I know why I haven't. I'm unable to read your diary just now so I am not sure if there is anything else you want me to know other than what we talked about. I can come see you tomorrow if you want company, or help. I'll look for your reply.

    "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass... it is about learning to dance in the rain." ~ Vivanne Grenne Shop Kos Katalogue!

    by remembrance on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:04:17 PM PDT

    •  hi, remembrance - (4+ / 0-)
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      not sure when i'm getting sprung tomorrow but i have a feeling i'm going to crash!

      give me a call tomorrow nite - i'm hoping the weirdness with phone is just the hospital electronics - i'll know tomorrow.  if now, i'll be replacing my phone on friday.

      i have another one - don't have a clue where it is - if i'm LUCKY, i'll find it tomorrow - anyway - tomorrow will tell.

      thought about yall a lot - looking forward to talking to you - and when the catheter is out and i can safely go back to barn, tell maya, SHE has a big obligation - "her" pony is so ready to get back to work!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:09:48 PM PDT

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    EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

    by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:18:01 PM PDT

  •  hugs edrie, (3+ / 0-)
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    so glad you're on the mend.

    I want that puppy!!

    Off to bed now but, I want that puppy!!!

    I'm a sad case, just a irredeemable woozle person.

    Ron Reagan: "Sarah Palin's constituency are people who wear red rubber noses and bells on their shoes."

    by AnnetteK on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:19:28 PM PDT

    •  you can be auntie annette! (3+ / 0-)
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      i've wanted one of poppy's puppies for several years now (this is her first litter) - they are wittle "stinkers" - MY kind of sammy!  full of attitude and adorable!  been bugging clu since tee died - she waited until she was sure poppy was far enough along to finally tell me - i've been holding MY breath and not sharing so as not to jinx things.  poppy is a small girl - had the first baby stuck in the birth canal - rushed into an emergency c-sectoin - the first seedling didn't make it - the other babies did and are okay.

      and she is okay - that is the most important part.

      i met poppy's mom, HRH holly, a week after i adopted mr tee - have known clu since then and been friends since, too - she always said that she would want me to have one of the babies - she was my guidance through tee's diabetes and was our savior in keeping him healthy for so long!

      now, tee's legacy continues with holly's granddaughter!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:43:18 PM PDT

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      •  That is such a gorgeous puppy edrie, (1+ / 0-)
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        How lucky you both are to have each other.

        My fingers just itch to tickle when I see an adorable little belly like that.

        p.s. I saw your photo's downthread and you are just as lovely as your mother whose photo you showed some time ago.

        So glad you are improving, you've had a horrible time.

        Ron Reagan: "Sarah Palin's constituency are people who wear red rubber noses and bells on their shoes."

        by AnnetteK on Thu Oct 03, 2013 at 06:29:17 AM PDT

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        •  you made me cry. (1+ / 0-)
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          i've been so blessed to bear many of mom's features - and most of dad's obstinancy and determination to make sure what is "right" is done.

          i feel so honored to have had them to teach me the important things in life....  i try to live by their teachings.

          here are two of my favorite pics of them..... with critters, of course.  that term "whisperer" came into "fashion" with a book - i've always hated the term.  it is just what i grew up with and here is where i learned to "listen" (NOT to "whisper" - it is their voices that we hear, not so much their hearing ours.... IF we only stay still and will hear!)..

          dad with "little girl" (sasha) - the sammy girl born of my first samoyed - who came back three times.  the last time, i knew the ONLY home that would ever make her happy and respect her independence was where i grew up.  i called mom and said, 'i'm flying in (from ny) on sat, pick me up at 11... bringing dad's birthday present".

          mom said, without missing a beat, "don't you BRING a dog!"

          me:  "see ya at the airport!"

          mom:  "DON'T you BRING a dog!"

          got off the plane that sat morning and my mom was standing there, eyes narrowed and mouth grinning and pursed, saying "you BROUGHT a DOG!!!" (there was happy barking coming from baggage claim).

          i smiled and looked at dad and said, "i brought your BIRTHDAY present!"  it was love from all sides immediately.

          what i didn't know was that when dad was little, he had a samoyed!  i found out when i presented him with HIS girl of 7 1/2 months of mischief! (mom used to say sasha was JUST like ME!)

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          here's mom surrounded by all the dogs that knew our address and appeared to stay always unexpectedly.  daisy, the part corgi - dilly, the little curley one, sasha  (whom i called "little girl") the sammy born of my first ever sam are just a few of my four legged siblings...

          (sasha - "little girl" - had blown her coat in this picture)

          mom living room pic

          i never met this little one - the ferret was a friend of someone - but i love the looks between mom and the little guy.

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          dilly lived to be in her late teens, as did sasha (over 17) as did most of our dogs.  they knew a good thing when they found it!  mom's last dog, mozie, was 19 - he was visiting mom her last day in this realm - still that contact was so paplable.

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          and not just the small creatures loved mom - every one she and dad met would lock eyes and the stories would flow between them.  

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          people sometimes consider me "nuts" when i talk about "talking" - but they didn't grow up in this environment.  this was as normal as getting lost in a good book.  i cherish these memories and experiences.

          in every picture of my parents and the creatures who love them, you can actually "feel" the communication between them.  it is where i learned - from my little turtle who followed mom around like a puppy to the feral cats who adopted dad and mom (and us, as siblings) to dogs, horses, ferrets, chameleons, parakeets and so many more - everything i learned about "talking" with animals, i learned from them.

          one last - this is one of the last pics of dad - the funny thing whenever mom and dad were photographed, always ONE of them had their eyes locked on the other... the communication there is also paplable!  when i go home in october, i'll finally get my chances to say my goodbyes to them without distractions.  i look forward to that trip and i'm dreading it, too.  everytime i think of it, i weep.

          but, mourning and saying good bye and thank you is part of the journey.  

          ah, but that is down the road - today's focus is going home... and getting well enough to travel.

          EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

          by edrie on Thu Oct 03, 2013 at 11:02:19 AM PDT

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            I'm honoured that you showed me these photo's.

            So much love between your Mother, your Father and their beautiful animals. What understanding between them, lovely.

            You're a good person, it shines from you as it shone from your parents. The animals know.

            Tonight was a bit of the gathering of the clan for myself, sad and happy at the same time. Tomorrow (in nine hours) we go to bury my Dad. It's not easy as you well know but there are good memories to carry us through.

            I do so hope you make a complete recovery, that little ball of love is just the thing to help, you're going to be the very best of friends.

            I like to think that those we've lost aren't really gone, they stay with us forever. I know my Dad will be in my heart till my time has come.

            Be well edrie, be happy.

            Ron Reagan: "Sarah Palin's constituency are people who wear red rubber noses and bells on their shoes."

            by AnnetteK on Thu Oct 03, 2013 at 04:03:40 PM PDT

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              you will hear his voice, his words, his advice when you need it - and you will feel his love at the most unexpected times.

              they don't really "leave" us, they just change how they communicate.  life never ends - it transitions and grows into new form.

              may your joys be shared with your family and your memories comfort you.

              EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

              by edrie on Fri Oct 04, 2013 at 11:36:50 AM PDT

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    that little squee!
    Glad to hear you're kickin'..... doctors around. Give 'em hell!

    Only thing more infuriating than an ignorant man is one who tries to make others ignorant for his own gain. Crashing Vor

    by emmasnacker on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:25:52 PM PDT

    •  oh, i did and i do on a regular basis. i always (4+ / 0-)
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      introduce myself saying "i STARTED OUT planning to go INTO medicine before changing direction - i have a degree in biology" - i don't let them get away with anything.  it isn't just for my own purpose, it is for everyone they subsequently treat - and they WILL do it with respect and humility - not with arrogance, when i get through with them.

      i respect their knowledge - just not bad attitudes!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 07:45:05 PM PDT

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    for that woman you helped, back where your stuff is.

    Sorry to hear about all the shite, but encouraging to read the comebacks towards getting back right, again.

    "So, please stay where you are. Don't move and don't panic. Don't take off your shoes! Jobs is on the way."

    by wader on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 08:30:59 PM PDT

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      had and died of that horrid disease.  recognize the symptoms very well.  spoke to multiple nurses and docs hear - they ALL say she needs to be evaluated NOW.

      my stuff is at home.  unfortunately, on the bed - not on the table.  so tomorrow, when i get home, i'll spend the first few hours slowly rearranging stuff.

      sometimes, i think my mouth moves and no sound comes out.

      i am crashing out now.  am crossed eyed now...

      thanks for YOUR feed back, too!  we agree on that observation!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 09:05:14 PM PDT

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    I'm glad my life is boring for now. Hang in there kiddo. You're a tough one. I'll send you a little for the critters when I get flush. I wish I could buy some of your jewelry, but I've taught my three daughters too well. Not a one is into that stuff.

    •  old dog's new doggies CAN learn "new tricks"! (3+ / 0-)
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      bet i could customize something for them they would absolutely LOVE - have done it before and always get a kick out of it with their new "awakening'!

      here's just for you, jakedog42 - just posted to "selfies" from hospital bed for fb cuz it's 4 days before my bday!

      you've seen me so i don't think you'll have a heart attack.... ;)

      Photo on 10-3-13 at 1.49 AM #2

      Photo on 10-3-13 at 1.49 AM

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Thu Oct 03, 2013 at 01:54:12 AM PDT

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        I know you'll be up and at em soon. I'll send you some info on the girls when you are able to work again See what you can come up tith. Nothing like a new pup to make you heal quicker. Love the clothes. Looks like paw prints.

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