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Ok, I blew it.  I was scheduled to post today's diary and although it was in my planner, I missed it.  My daughter got married on Sunday, Oct 13th, and I'm still recovering from being a party planner and a full-time school administrator.  
In honor of their marriage, and the continuation of our family, I'll share how my parents met, which I think may be a universal American story.

My mom was a country girl, born in Crawford, TX. (Crawford was later to become a fake home of Geo. W Bush.) At about 20 years old, she took off for the big city, Ft. Worth, TX. Where she lived with her aunt and uncle and worked as a bookkeeper.

My, dad was a first generation American, the son of Jewish immigrants from Brestlitovosk, Russia. My grandfather came to America in 1905, and became a successful carpenter and then, contractor.  My grandfather lost everything in the 1929 crash, and the family broke up. My dad graduated from high school and joined the Army Air force in 1939.

Fort Worth was in a dry county, so people had to "join" private clubs where they could have some beers and jitterbug all night. While stationed in Fort Worth, my dad took a blind date, and met that country girl. They both loved big band music and loved to dance.
They fell in love, got married, and moved to NJ, where everyone thought my mom was the Jew and my dad was the goy.

Mel Brooks is a fellow Jew who married an Italian, Catholic girl, Anne Bancroft.  He tells the story that when he told his Jewish mother that he was marrying an Italian girl, Mel's mom said: 'Bring her over. I'll be in the kitchen - with my head in the oven'.

That didn't happen in either of my families.  I guess, cause they were all Democrats. LOL. Have a great weekend.

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  •  Tip Jar (20+ / 0-)

    It is ridiculous to pretend that firing teachers based on student test scores, starting charter schools, giving out vouchers or implementing merit pay will overcome the challenges facing a child living in poverty. -Jersey Jazzman

    by Desert Rose on Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 07:40:01 PM PDT

  •  Gosh... (4+ / 0-)

    Am I the only one here?  How awkward, because there are no vets in my pedigree until I get to the Civil War, hence no war brides.  But I'm glad you posted this nevertheless.

    "There is no way to give to honest toil its just reward--its full share of all wealth produced--but by the full application of the single tax. And righteousness and justice require it to be done." --A. Moll, 1897

    by Zwenkau on Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 08:00:36 PM PDT

  •  this comes under the category of excused (5+ / 0-)

    absences.  :)

    Congratulations!!

    Thanks for sharing this story of your parents courtship ... there are such things as good blind dates.

    My parents met as a result of a blind date ... Dad's best friend was dating Mom's stepsister--who arranged the meeting. Like your parents, my Mom loved to dance; Dad unfortunately had two left feet. Oh well -- both couples eventually eloped, and they witnessed each other's ceremonies.

    "If you are sure you understand everything that is going on around you, you are hopelessly confused." Walter Mondale

    by klompendanser on Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 08:06:38 PM PDT

    •  Thanks!! (3+ / 0-)
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      klompendanser, edwardssl, Aunt Pat

      It is ridiculous to pretend that firing teachers based on student test scores, starting charter schools, giving out vouchers or implementing merit pay will overcome the challenges facing a child living in poverty. -Jersey Jazzman

      by Desert Rose on Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 08:10:53 PM PDT

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    •  Yeah, I actually was hoping it would be posted (5+ / 0-)

      late.  I had a wisdom tooth pulled this morning, and I didn't think I was going to be in a condition to participate much if posted at the usual time.

      The swelling and soreness has gone down quite a bit now.  At least, I'm functioning.

      I have no idea how my parents met, but I did know that they (ahem) HAD to get married.  They had 4 kids altogether, he was a wife-beater, she divorced him after 10 years of (bad) marriage, he skipped the state rather than pay child support, I haven't seen him since I was 10, and haven't missed him a bit.

      Other than that (meaning him), I have a great family ;-)

  •  No war brides (that I know of) (4+ / 0-)

    No civil war ancestors.

    Just a lot of farmers.

    Farming must be in my genes, cuz it's the only thing I can think of that explains my gardens.  I just love growing things.  You plant a seed, something shoots out of the ground, eventually you pick the fruit of the plant and you eat it.

    It's magic.

  •  'alloooooooo, GFHC Volunteers. (3+ / 0-)
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    klompendanser, Desert Rose, Aunt Pat

    Who's got a good story they want to share?  Or who's had an interesting discovery?  Or who knows a great research or preservation technique that we could all benefit from?

    Then why not volunteer to host a Friday GFHC Open Thread?  There's tons on interesting subjects to talk about.  

    Like War Brides :-)

    Current Schedule

    Nov 1     mayim
    Nov 8     Land of Enchantment
    Nov 15   fenway49
    Nov 22   open for adoption
    Nov 29   klompendanser
    Dec 6     open for adoption
    Dec 13 (aka Friday the 13th!)  open for adoption

    Anyone want to take a date?

  •  Don't you just hate it when you discover (5+ / 0-)

    that you made a mistake?

    The parents of one of my German ancestors were born in Holland.  The father's name was Jan Albert Tanking (Tank/Tankink/Tankinck/you name it).  So in the records of the small town where he lived, I found a death record of Albert Tanking.  I've thought for years now that this was my guy.  But it turns out this was actually the death record of Jan Albert's brother, Albert (blast those parents who couldn't come up with a more original name for their second son!).

    I just discovered this mistake yesterday.

    I HATE that!  Especially because so any blasted people have copied to their trees on Ancestry from mine.  (Hellooooo, you guys! - Doesn't anyone double-check?)

    •  that kind of thing happened generation (5+ / 0-)

      after generation in my Dad's dutch family, not counting the families of cousins with the same names (since they were named for the same grandparents) that wandered around aimlessly in my database until I figured it out--not all of the original records had patronyms recorded ... sometimes it was not until I snagged birth/marriage/death records for each individual that I discovered my errors. I had printouts lined up all around my desk, highlighted, color coded, and crosshatched until they were illegible and I was absolutely positive I finally had it right.

      "If you are sure you understand everything that is going on around you, you are hopelessly confused." Walter Mondale

      by klompendanser on Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 08:57:18 PM PDT

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      •  Y'know, 'danser, I read this (4+ / 0-)

        series b/c I just love the stories so much. But when I read about all the headaches involved in doing the actual research, I know I will never, ever try it myself.

        It is entirely too much like work. In fact, it is entirely too much like what it must be to put together a doctoral dissertation (which, thank FSM, I never had to do: never went that far after college).

        So, good for all of you who pursue your ancestors, and please keep those stories coming! I admire your perseverance. But I'm never gonna go there.

        Irony takes a worse beating from Republicans than Wile E. Coyote does from Acme. --Tara the Antisocial Social Worker

        by Youffraita on Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 10:31:55 PM PDT

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        •  Well, leave what you know, so your kids (5+ / 0-)

          have a trail to begin with.

          It is ridiculous to pretend that firing teachers based on student test scores, starting charter schools, giving out vouchers or implementing merit pay will overcome the challenges facing a child living in poverty. -Jersey Jazzman

          by Desert Rose on Sat Oct 26, 2013 at 05:31:43 AM PDT

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        •  my love for puzzles and mysteries keeps (2+ / 0-)
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          Youffraita, edwardssl

          me coming back for more.

          The dissertation analogy ... though I haven't done one either! ... is probably apt. There is a certain *tone* when my brain tells me "That. did NOT. happen." not unlike an imagined academic advisor talking to a hapless grad student.

          "If you are sure you understand everything that is going on around you, you are hopelessly confused." Walter Mondale

          by klompendanser on Sat Oct 26, 2013 at 07:40:36 AM PDT

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          •  Agree completely (4+ / 0-)
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            edwardssl, klompendanser, Zwenkau, Jim H

            I love digging in and seeing what makes sense and what doesn't. I just want to KNOW what happened, who's who, etc. I guess I have the right mix of curiosity and stubbornness to enjoy the puzzle.

            “Republicans...think American standard of living is a fine thing--so long as it doesn't spread to all the people. And they admire of Government of the United States so much that they would like to buy it.” Harry S. Truman

            by fenway49 on Sun Oct 27, 2013 at 05:31:53 PM PDT

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