I am makiong the same request I did yesterday. Please regard this diary as my living room or my husband's hospital . If you want to know WHY I am making this request, go read yesterday's dairy. I don't feel like repeating it. Basically, it's pretty simple. If you can't be kind and supportive, don't comment. I am a 64 year old woman who survived the loss of one husband and 15 years as a military wife during both Middle Eastern wars--oh, and Kosovo, can't forget the recon flight he was never officially on when the crazies launched a missile at the plane. I am extremely strong and have survived stuff most people never face.
This is my Safe Place, where I can vent about the problems of being Wiccan in an area of very right-wing conservative evangelical Christians, and we had problems people in the hospital with Dad. I think I was entitled to be a little bit terrified and panicked when we first got the news. This is where I can say the things I am feeling safely so I can go in to the hospital and be patient and pleasant to the staff--because it is necessary. However everyone under the kind of stress I am under is entitled to the occasional fantasy of grabbing the tie sof an officious admin Rush Limbaugh clone and jerking him up short. Didn't do it, won't do it, but somebody really, really needed to explain common decency to him. Luckily I haven't to deal with hm again
The rules are simple: No name-calling. No ad hominems. No lectures--I have two master's and I am not stupid. Most of all, be kind. Remember my situation and don't make it worse, just because you don't like references to what I call Faux Christians (the ones who don't thump a Bible but use it to bash others, and who seem to only like Leviticus and the smiting parts and who apparently have never read the Sermon on the Mount--I am talking to you, Rand Paul, Paul Ryan and Ted Cruz's father). At tiems I am angry and soem men don't deal well with angry women or strong emotions--if you're one of those, you're better off not reading and definitely I w ill be much happier without condescending comments, however well-intentioned.
Here's the update. I stayed home today because the cats needed Mama, and I needed some solid sleep. However; I've talked to Ben twice on the phone. They have schedules surgery for Monday; the time is still unknown. It will be at least triple bypass. If it happens on Monday, he should be home by Friday, with any luck.
He;s flriting with the techs and nurses. He was born in the wrong era. He was meant to bow and kiss ladies' hands and flirt outrageously. He was meant for the 18th century ir the Regency. SO the nurses are kinds having fun.
I'll know more about his new dietary requirements and the cardiac PT he'll be getting. I haven't even tried to think about what Tricare Prime will cover, because if there's a co=pay, we can't pay it--we're living on about 1500t- 2000 a month.
And I'd like to kick Paul Ryan in his capped teeth because he'd call us moochers. Ben spent 23 years in the military, was in both Gulf Wars (his last squadron was in Afghanistan BEFORE the SPecial Forces got there, doing recon; they were responsible for the takedown of at least 2 of Osama's third--it has occurred to me that being Number 3 in Al Qaeda is a lot like being a Commodore on the Death Star), had to personally take out a sniper while on flightline watch in Saudi, seen Saddam's handiwork with chemical weapons up close and personal in 93 when supposedly THOSE weapons were; they weren't. Men like him are what allows the Paul Ryans and Mitt Romeys of the world to make their money and pat themselves on the back for being makers when in reality THEY are the takers, depending on others to keep them safe--military guys, firefighters, the good cops (they do exist, really---but the bad ones get the press and need to be treated like any other killer when they cross the line). It;s men like them who are the Real Takers, and it is time liberals started saying that, actually screaming it into a bullhorn as loud as they can.
Ben wanted me to thank everyone for their support. He does apprecitate it. I think he's beginning to understand why I love the place--hehhas an accopunt but seldom reads or posts becasue can only takle limited amounts of stupidity that people are writing about. Sadly Stupid is as stupid does, and these days, stupid seems to be doing a helluva lot. SO tahnk to you all. Heather and commonmass and the rest of the Ecumenical Prayer Squad and the people who have made it through the surgery or are dealing with diabetes, thanks.