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A very wise man once said: "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone."

As Lauren A has learned (to the surprise of few) there are way too many of his professed followers who just can't seem to understand the wisdom of that quote. No surprise there. There's fear in the air, lots of it.

This controversy splits us into two camps: those who see the expression of sexuality as a basic human right and so long as everyone is a consenting adult no harm done; and the traditional view that human sexuality must be repressed and channeled in order to preserve social order and discipline.

Lauren is firmly and bravely holding up the flag of free sexual expression. Her opponents are mostly resorting to the ancient weapons of shame and guilt to punish her. Throwing the symbolic rocks named "slut" and "whore" to defend traditional culture. The vehemence of the reaction higlights how much fear lies behind it.

Some men fear and resent the loss of privilege that comes with the loss of the power of patriarchy. Many others of both genders just fear social change and want to roll the clock back to a time when they imagine people felt safer because their society was more orderly.

To those latter ones, I'd like to reassure them that the ancient rules were made in an era when neither democracy nor reliable contraceptives existed. There was no concept of individual rights when the Old Testament was written.

We have entered a new world, and it's scary. I understand that. But there is no going back, short of abolishing democracy in place of theocracy. Take a deep breath, and try and get over it. People are going to be doing things that you don't personally approve of. And maybe posting videos of it. I understand this is offensive to you, because it scares you, but the best advice I can give is to be careful where you go on the Internet and learn tolerance.

To the mourners of the crumbing patriarchy: it's a new world. Get over it.  I know you might be afraid that if women are empowered you'll lose your job and maybe never get laid again.  I can't help with the job except to advise you to be competent at what you do; but I can guarantee you'll probably get more, and certainly get much better sex if you learn to treat women as fellow human beings instead of objects to be used.

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