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All together, with everything going in your life, can you say you are happy?

I would bet that most of us are happy in some areas, unhappy in other areas, and would feel more comfortable grading our happiness on a 1-10 scale of happiness, something like "With 0 being not happy at all and 10 being extremely happy, how happy are you?"

But I thought I would ask the more difficult question.... overall, would you say at this moment in life that you are "Happy?"

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At this moment in my life I am....

57%63 votes
42%46 votes

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  •  Tip Jar (26+ / 0-)

    I'll tell you what justice is. Justice is a knee in the gut from the floor on the chin at night sneaky with a knife brought up down on the magazine of a battleship sandbagged underhanded in the dark without a word of warning.

    by BFSkinner on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 07:34:44 PM PST

  •  Happy for me. (11+ / 0-)

    Not happy with the state of the world.

    "Hate speech is a form of vandalism. It defaces the environment, and like a broken window, if left untended, signals to other hoodlums that the coast is clear to do more damage." -- Gregory Rodriguez

    by Naniboujou on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 07:47:29 PM PST

  •  Very unhappy . (11+ / 0-)

    I didn't know of this sort of unhappiness before .

    "please love deeply...openly and genuinely." A. M. H.

    by indycam on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 07:49:19 PM PST

  •  There was a time ... (6+ / 0-)

    Punxsutawney Phil has been unfriended.

    by jwinIL14 on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 07:52:39 PM PST

  •  Ya Feelin Alright? (7+ / 0-)

    -4.75, -5.33 Cheney 10/05/04: "I have not suggested there is a connection between Iraq and 9/11."

    by sunbro on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 07:58:42 PM PST

  •  As long as there is bad news, I'm happy ;-) (6+ / 0-)

    Everything Right is Wrong Again - TMBG (lyrics)

    by GreenPA on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:00:16 PM PST

  •  "It's not having what you want. (11+ / 0-)

    It's wanting what you've got." --Sheryl Crow

    "The Democrats are the lesser evil and that has to count for something. Good and evil aren't binary states. All of us are both good and evil. Being less evil is the trajectory of morality." --SC

    by tb92 on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:01:18 PM PST

    •  Much more easily said with $40M in the bank. (5+ / 0-)

      I love her as an artist, but I learned long ago that successful artists are just about the worst source of effective advice on earth, unless you're looking for an agent or a publicity firm.

      "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." - Voltaire

      by Greyhound on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 09:01:47 PM PST

      [ Parent ]

      •  But you know, (2+ / 0-)
        Recommended by:
        BFSkinner, tuesdayschilde

        Going through a painful breakup and cancer seems to have helped her figure things out and find out what would make her happy.

        I don't know why people think that rich people, especially celebrities, are any more inclined to be happy.

        Yes, it's hard to be happy if you lack adequate food, shelter or medical care. But if I put all the unhappy affluent people I know in one room and all the unhappy working and middle class people i know each in their own rooms, those three rooms will be equally populated.

        And I don't know more than a maybe a handle of "famous" people. Add "famous" to affluent and I think you can get a whole other level of unhappy.

        Money brings lots of nice stuff. And money brings its own set of problems.

        © grover


        So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

        by grover on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 12:17:33 AM PST

        [ Parent ]

        •  Different kinds of happiness and unhappiness (4+ / 0-)

          There are different kinds of happiness and unhappiness, but an unhappiness when you can feed and clothe yourself without worry is a hell of a lot better than an unhappiness when you can't.

          •  It's not for me to judge. (1+ / 0-)
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            BFSkinner

            People who are deeply unhappy and wealthy are harder to help.

            I do what I can to feed as many people as I can and heal the injured that can be healed.

            But rich unhappy people? I don't judge them because that's a pain that isn't easily treated. And they have more tools at their disposal to make self destruction more likely.

            © grover


            So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

            by grover on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 02:01:35 AM PST

            [ Parent ]

      •  I take wisdom where I find it. nt (0+ / 0-)

        "The Democrats are the lesser evil and that has to count for something. Good and evil aren't binary states. All of us are both good and evil. Being less evil is the trajectory of morality." --SC

        by tb92 on Wed Mar 05, 2014 at 08:57:46 PM PST

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  •  First Full Sized Meal in 3 Years. (8+ / 0-)

    Feeling a little stuffy 4 hours later; but that's a pretty big improvement. A bit of fresh ginger in some weak tea should help.

    Happy could be here within another two weeks.

    The Big Snow is just resuming, 4-7" anticipated by tomorrow night after an initial freezing rain mix the next few hours.

    We are called to speak for the weak, for the voiceless, for victims of our nation and for those it calls enemy.... --ML King "Beyond Vietnam"

    by Gooserock on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:27:42 PM PST

  •  Mostly happy (8+ / 0-)

    Except for a few difficulties. Where I don't have control, I at least have some influence. And support. Also, I'm an optimist at heart. Not the 'Mr. Sunshine' kind of optimist that you want to choke with your bare hands, but the quiet, surly-on-the-surface kind, always ready with encouragement and happy to offer advice when asked.

    •  Uh oh, we should either meet up or avoid (3+ / 0-)
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      BFSkinner, rebel ga, alx9090

      each other at all costs.

      Too similar for comfort, or so similar we should be friends.

      Are you an old white geezer, too?

      "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." - Voltaire

      by Greyhound on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:58:50 PM PST

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      •  Too funny ;) (3+ / 0-)
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        FiredUpInCA, BFSkinner, Greyhound

        Well, when I'm around like-minded individuals, chaos/hilarity quickly finds us. So I get what you're saying ;) And to answer your question: white dude - yes, old geezer - let's just say 'opinions vary'.

        •  At 52, I'm closer to the end than the beginning, (6+ / 0-)

          OTOH, I don't much appreciate the majority of my peers while I do find hope among people 20 years or so younger than I.

          I find the generation that my kids would be in, had we had any, to be a lost cause. Too much reich-wing indoctrination and lack of education to overcome, at least with my capacity to persuade.

          But, their kids have shocked me over and over with understanding far beyond what we had at their age. They seem to have an immunity to advertising that took me 20 years to develop, and their bullshit detectors are much better than ours were.

          "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." - Voltaire

          by Greyhound on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 10:03:59 PM PST

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  •  No vote. Neither - both. (5+ / 0-)

    Personally, I'm just wonderful. I'm white, I'm pretty rich, and I have the liberty that comes with that in this fascist state.

    OTOH, I don't support the fascists state that both political parties built and support. I don't believe that others, having not been born into the right family in the right culture, are less than I, or deserving of whatever shit my peers decide to dump on them. so I support real change, at a foundational level.

    This of course, puts me at odds with almost everybody, from Markos, the entrepreneurial conservative "might makes right, and America is better because we have the biggest stick (and Democrats are better because they make me a bunch of money)", to the "Tear it all down and give it all away" Communist/Socialists.

    So in the end, I'm very happy right now and almost all of the other times, but pretty fucking unhappy about the fact that so few of you seem to have any motivation to demand your own dues and follow that up with what you all know is required to make it happen.

    "Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will. Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them, and these will continue till they are resisted with either words or blows, or with both. The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress." - Frederick Douglass

    "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." - Voltaire

    by Greyhound on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:42:44 PM PST

  •  Today (3+ / 0-)
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    BFSkinner, ZenTrainer, tuesdayschilde

    I can truly say that I'am..... Tomorrow, though, I know that my happiness could disappear....

    I love Burt Lancaster!

    by secret38b on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:43:55 PM PST

  •  About 90% happy (4+ / 0-)

    At this exact moment in time. 10 mins from now, who knows?

    O great creator of being grant us one more hour to perform our art and perfect our lives. ::: Jim Morrison :::

    by Kevanlove on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 08:54:58 PM PST

  •  Very unhappy, mainly from persistent (7+ / 0-)

    post-surgical pain and heart damage caused by pulmonary emboli, but doing my best to suck it up. Lots to live for.

    Every day is a surprise.

  •  I am negatively optimistic (8+ / 0-)

    I have the sincere hope that things cannot get any worse and I will not be able to handle it.

    Hugh Mackay is the founder of the Australian quarterly research series The Ipsos Mackay Report. He is a psychologist, sociologist, social researcher, writer and former teacher. Here is his take on happiness:

    I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that - I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness.

    It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish.

    Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much.

    Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!”

    I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.

    Hugh is a little hardcore.

    I would say that for me resilience, contentment and solitude are my pursuits, with happiness being a part of that but not the whole of it, knowing that there is too much out of my control and too much suffering somewhere in this huge cosmos to insist on complete happiness all or most of the time.

    "I am not interested in picking up crumbs of compassion thrown from the table of someone who considers himself my master. I want the full menu of rights." (From "You Said a Mouthful" by Bishop Desmond Tutu - South African bishop & activist, b.1931)

    by FiredUpInCA on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 09:41:55 PM PST

  •  Extraordinarily Happy (2+ / 0-)
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    BFSkinner, FiredUpInCA

    As it happens I have been conversing with daughter about the Stoics, and the nature of happiness, and Freud's observation that the point of analysis is not to make you happy happy [sic] (sic) but to clear out the ways that you sabotage yourself so that you can get on with the difficult business of living (this being an extraordinarily loose paraphrase of the original austrogerman).

    So I try not to be overly exalted over good news regarding events that I can not influence nor to be overly distressed over similar bad news, but to keep a cheerful disposition as well as I am able in the hope that I will be over time and in fact be more cheerful than not: because you can't think yourself happy but you can sure as hell think yourself unhappy.

    And today finds me feeling really good about the general state of affairs, and thank you for asking.

    o caminho d'ouro, uma pinga de mel: Parati

    by tarkangi on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 10:18:02 PM PST

  •  Happy at the moment. (3+ / 0-)
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    GreenPA, BFSkinner, terrybuck

    Tracy B Ann - technically that is my signature. If I had Bill Gates money, I'd buy Detroit.

    by ZenTrainer on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 10:33:10 PM PST

  •  Not Even Close (3+ / 0-)
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    BFSkinner, blueoasis, terrybuck

    "In the morning when the sun rises, sometimes it's hard to believe there ever was a night." ~Joseph Cotten, Gaslight (1944)

    by churchylafemme on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 10:56:47 PM PST

  •  Happy. (8+ / 0-)

    Look at my signature.

    Today is a gift.  I have no idea when tomorrow simply won't be there.

    Today is all we got.

    Snowflakes, the feel of sunshine on our faces, trudging through mud puddles, a cat purring on our chests, soft doggy ears, a friend who texts just to say "hi,"  a perfect cup of tea, hitting every green light for a couple miles, the ability  to buy a stranger a cup of coffee, a hug, an apology, a laugh...

    Someday, tomorrow won't come. I don't dwell on that. I don't grieve the loved ones whose sudden departure taught me that lesson-- not any more. I miss them deeply though.

    But in leaving, they taught me every dang day is a gift. Waste it.  Take it for granted. Savor the heck out it. Curse it.  Either way, its going to be over in 24 hours. How you use it is up to you.

    Life isn't easy. It's often an incredible struggle. But I choose to see every day as a gift. And doing so, I tend to be really happy.

    © grover


    So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

    by grover on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 11:43:41 PM PST

  •  I can't remember the last time I was truly happy (7+ / 0-)

    "Wars of nations are fought to change maps. But wars of poverty are fought to map change." Muhammad Ali

    by blueoregon on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 01:16:34 AM PST

  •  Finally, at age 65 (8+ / 0-)

    It's not been easy. I've never been happy. Abusive parents, abusive child, 40+ years working for raving assholes in hospital labs. Single parent raising 2 kids working 2-3 jobs. Then suddenly at age 62, a head injury that changed my life. Got me out of the horrible hospital jobs. One of my kids, the difficult one, decided I was damaged and hasn't bothered with me in years. Sadly, this has also been a relief. Tho I have memory problems, my life is good now. No one to put me down, make me feel like shit, stab me in the back or take a mother's love and stomp on it. Now it's just me, the lovely gardens I've created, my kitties and the few friends who share my life. Happy. At last.

  •  happy (2+ / 0-)
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    jbsoul, grover

    woke up to find my sweet little daughter asleep and snuggling me.

    I MISS CACTUSGAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    by thankgodforairamerica on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 03:16:23 AM PST

  •  I don't think that being happy can ever (1+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    BFSkinner

    be a sustained state of being, and will never be anything but a temporary state that we can aspire to. I'm fine with that, because that is part of what makes life interesting.

    „Wer kämpft, kann verlieren. Wer nicht kämpft, hat schon verloren.“ - Bertolt Brecht

    by translatorpro on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 07:24:03 AM PST

  •  It is hard to be happy.............. (1+ / 0-)
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    churchylafemme

    when one is desperate.   I am not economically desperate, not physically desperate (although recovering from two years of back and knee surgeries due to crippling arthritis,) but emotionally desperate.

    Got a big verbal kick in the gut from my spouse yesterday afternoon.  I have to decide whether to ride it out and keep trying or bail.

    The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation--HDT

    by cazcee on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 09:58:19 AM PST

  •  Hope is the mother lode of human life. Optimisim (1+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    grover

    is it's cousin.  No matter what, be happy.  I once heard a survivor of the Holocaust and they were forgiving, sorrowful  and yes, happy for life.  Can I not be like this person, I can, I think.

  •  I am in a really excellent place in my life. (1+ / 0-)
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    Throw The Bums Out

    Every single problem in my life could be solved by a suitable application of money.

    But I have all the things money can't buy. I have a wonderful husband of 25 years whom I love more every day and who regularly tells me and shows me how much he loves me, a boyfriend who says he's never been happier with any relationship in his life, and two beautiful sons who are progressing with only minor bumps through their teenage years and out into the world at large. I have many friends who are true friends, and have my health enough to enjoy life around the pain and poverty.

    I am not looking forward to moving into a house without any of the utilities on, and no hope of getting them on any time soon. I am not looking forward to the inevitable effects of the cleanup on my precarious physical health. But I am actually very happy, most of the time. It is a great blessing.

    When you come to find how essential the comfort of a well-kept home is to the bodily strength and good conditions, to a sound mind and spirit, and useful days, you will reverence the good housekeeper as I do above artist or poet, beauty or genius.

    by Alexandra Lynch on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 02:52:48 PM PST

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