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I was playing golf with some friends last weekend.  The friend who was sharing my golf cart has, in the past, flaunted the fact that he was packin' - that is he had a pistol holstered and zipped up in his golf bag.

I've given him hell over this, asking him:  "Just what do you think you're going to do with a gun on the golf course?"  His point is that he feels a need to be prepared at all times in case someone armed with anything more dangerous than a golf club starts something up with him. To this, I have felt somewhat unsettled ever since I learned of his being so armed.

So last weekend we came to the part of the golf course where a nearby gas station comes into view from the fairway.  My Second A-friend-ment shared with me that before coming to the course that day, he stopped at that particular station to fill up.  He said, "This was one time I wished I hadn't accidentally left my gun at home."  

As his words sank in, I realized that he was saying that he had felt threatened when he went into the station to pay for the gas.  That's right;  you guessed it:  this is in a predominantly African American section of town and the only people in the station didn't look at all similar to his Whiteness.

So many things are wrong with this picture:  Was the station being robbed while he was there and he couldn't foil the robbery (or stand his ground) because he forgot to arm himself that particular day?  If so, there was no discussion of what would have surely been the talk of the golf round.  Was it because one of the men at the station made some kind of trouble for him - targeted him for his race - told him to get lost?  No, I don't think anything like that happened either.

I think he found himself being a patron of a business in a neighborhood where he was a minority and for that reason alone he felt "threatened".  He didn't have to give me any further details about his visit to that gas station for me to conclude all this.  He was telling me that he needs to have a gun on him in order to feel comfortable with black people.  

Similarly, there is a kind of person that I don't feel comfortable with - the kind of person that I find "threatening".  This is the kind of person who thinks he needs to carry deadly force with him everywhere, just in case he might need to use it.  I'm not comfortable riding in golf carts with his kind.  And I am not comfortable inviting his kind to play golf with me any longer.

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  •  You made the right choice (5+ / 0-)
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    Carlsson, JeffW, 88kathy, john07801, Alhambra

    By shunning those who choose to carry a weapon simply because they feel so threatened by their racist visions. In fact, even in the middle of the poorest slum, this concealed carry guy is by far the most evil and brutal person around, no competition.

  •  Lordy! (3+ / 0-)
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    JeffW, Carlsson, 88kathy

    "His point is that he feels a need to be prepared at all times in case someone armed with anything more dangerous than a golf club starts something up with him.'

    Well, I did play on a golf course once that had mongooses/mongeese run out and pick the ball up. But for a mongoose, he would need a really big long rifle. Damn!

    I'm glad you aren't going to play golf with him anymore. Safer that way.

    "Just when you think you've lost everything, you find out you can lose a little more." Bob Dylan

    by weezilgirl on Tue Jun 03, 2014 at 07:46:25 PM PDT

  •  You should have asked him. Now you'll (3+ / 0-)
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    Carlsson, kurt, JayFromPA

    wonder if you concocted his reason out of thin air because that's what you wanted to believe.  Don't get me wrong.  Not defending your "friend".  You could ban guns for all I care.  

    "The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubt." Bertrand Russell I'm very certain that is true. 10−122

    by thestructureguy on Tue Jun 03, 2014 at 07:55:29 PM PDT

    •  I know him well enough. (2+ / 0-)
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      Alhambra, trumpeter

      And he knows me well enough to not have "gone there".  And he knew that I knew, so he was wise to leave it at that.

      Anyway, yes I am concluding correctly.

      •  You still should have verified. (0+ / 0-)

        Refresh your memory...

        I think he found himself being a patron of a business in a neighborhood where he was a minority and for that reason alone he felt "threatened".
        You have no idea whether someone did become hostile to him at that gas station or not. Doesn't make any sense for someone to just become hostile to another person randomly at a gas station, but people do the strangest illogical things sometimes. I was once attacked by a guy that lived next door just because I was standing outside at the same time he had brought his dog out to crap. He was upset that I could see his dog crapping, as if the public sidewalk was somehow his private enclosed yard. Doesn't make sense, but People do the strangest illogical things sometimes.

        You have formulated a possible reason based on just what you know, but you haven't verified your theory and what I think is worse - you act as if you couldn't possibly be wrong. You make no allowances for the fact that people do the strangest things sometimes.

        MLK Jr 1968 "Maybe we just have to admit that the day of violence is here, and maybe we have to just give up and let violence take its course. The nation won't listen to our voice - maybe it'll heed the voice of violence."

        by JayFromPA on Wed Jun 04, 2014 at 04:37:59 AM PDT

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        •  No, in this case you are wrong. (1+ / 0-)
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          coquiero

          I know that no one became hostile to him at that gas station.  If someone had, this particular person would have made the incident the Talk Of The Day on the golf course.  He didn't to that.

          You are insinuating that I jumped to a conclusion - that I didn't have enough information to determine that he was tipping his "racist golf cap".  

          People do do the strangest, illogical things sometimes.  But not this time.  This time, a guy went to a gas station where he was the only white man and felt threatened enough by the experience that he had to lament his lack of being armed while he was there.

          Am I jumping to a conclusion here?

  •  You could have just ignored his gun and NOT (0+ / 0-)

    assumed the worst about him just because he chooses to carry a weapon. Gas stations get robbed very frequently regardless of the race, maybe he just wanted to be safe. The convenience store I'm hopefully going to be working at  is in a very white part of town but they understandably have the men work at night because things can get a little sketchy. Seriously, I thought anti-gunners were supposed to be all tolerant and nonjudgmental of other people, but I guess gun owners don't count.

    •  Hmm, you know the diarist all of 3 minutes from (3+ / 0-)
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      88kathy, unfangus, trumpeter

      reading 1500 words he wrote and whose being judgmental?

      He says that he knows this guy very well, well enough to know what was going on.

      "Looking back over a lifetime, you see that love was the answer to everything." — Ray Bradbury

      by We Shall Overcome on Tue Jun 03, 2014 at 08:21:55 PM PDT

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    •  Okay, how can I put this gently? (5+ / 0-)
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      88kathy, AJayne, Alhambra, unfangus, trumpeter

      He needs to carry a gun to protect him from the Black people!  It is an irrational fear!  His carrying a gun makes him FAR MORE dangerous than the people who he is fearing.

      I guess my diary could've just said that.

      You missed the whole point.  And if you think I am an "anti-gunner" you have misread me as well.

    •  Tough to ignore (3+ / 0-)
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      CwV, unfangus, Carlsson

      When someone is paranoid enough that they feel the need to be armed 24/7 and feels the need to proudly announce to everyone.

      I realize it's a Catch-22, but the people I've known who most felt the need to carry were usually the ones I wouldn't trust with a weapon.

      If the pilot's good, see, I mean if he's reeeally sharp, he can barrel that baby in so low... oh you oughta see it sometime. It's a sight. A big plane like a '52... varrrooom! Its jet exhaust... frying chickens in the barnyard!

      by Major Kong on Wed Jun 04, 2014 at 04:30:47 AM PDT

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      •  Another argument (1+ / 0-)
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        Carlsson

        In favor of testing for mental illness... and counting paranoia as a reason not to grant permission to carry.

        I am not religious, and did NOT say I enjoyed sects.

        by trumpeter on Wed Jun 04, 2014 at 10:31:48 AM PDT

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